How can I bee a perfect mom??

Question

Im a very busy women with a full time job and stressing on bills, I really have no time for them i feel really bad, I try my best to spend time wiht them but its hard, sometimes i get frustrated with all these bills that i just ask the kids to go to bed because I need to spend time on my own.. I want to be a good mom I love my kids what are some things i can do that will help me and my kids?? How do you manage your bills and taking care of your lil ones???

Answer 1

First of all, your kids are only young once. So MAKE time for them every day.

I feel sorry for you kids when you say " I really have no time for them."

You need to learn to manage your time. Set aside time for the kids, a half hour to pay bills, you can have time for yourself when they are in bed.

"How do you manage your bills and taking care of your lil ones" makes me wonder how much of your life your bills are consuming. Maybe you need to get some cerdit counseling

Answer 2

Where is their dad in all of this? How little are your "lil ones?" Why is it all on your shoulders and why do you want to be something you cannot be - perfect? No one is perfect.

First. Make yourself happy. No one can do that except you so get on to it. When you get home from work, tell the kids that you need 20 minutes to yourself so you can be a nice person around them. Get an egg timer and set it for 20 minutes. Take a hot bath, sit in a quiet room, close the door - but take those 20 minutes to get yourself together.

Second, Be the best PERSON you can be to your kids.

Third: what do you mean by busy? We all have the same 24 hours to spend. How are you spending your time? Maybe you can prioritize your time better.

Bills are important - tips to the mall, designer bluejeans and nail salons are not. Pay bills first. If you're having a hard time making ends meet - contact your banker and a good credit counseling service (Not for profit) for help.

Level with the kids about the money situation. My son was 4 years old when I showed him the money situation. He rarely whined about wanting this or that. We saved for things - made choices - the ice cream cone or the new ____ that costs 10 ice cream cones.

Answer 3

Have you ever heard that expression that goes "It's not the quantity but the quality of time you spend with your kids that really counts". I would suggest that you carve out a certain amount of time once a week where you put your entire focus on the kids. That would mean putting the bills etc. out of your mind and giving the kids 100% of your attention. What you do together doesn't have to be something expensive either. It could be as simple as having a little picnic in the back yard. I promise you, your kids will never forget it and It will go a long way towards making them feel special. Good luck mom
P.S. Don't concern yourself with being the perfect mom. There's no such thing.

Answer 4

I worked 3 jobs while raising my child as a single parent because I received no child support from his SPERM DONOR----(who has not seen his son in 27 years ---exhusband's choice, not mine, I gave him LIBERAL visitation but he just never took it)...ONE of the jobs I took was at a martial arts school where my son was enrolled as a student--it was how I paid for his lessons... If you are like most moms, your kids are in soccer, dance classes, basketball camp, whatever....and you are pulling your hair out because the expense is so great... Well, to kill 2 birds with one stone---these kids don't need ACTIVITIES, they need their MOM... take them out of the activities and be with them, play with them, TALK to them. that is SOOOO much more important then soccer practice or dance class.. You MUST make time for your children--if you don't, you cannot ever call yourself a good mother... no matter how high the bills stack up..... got cable? get rid of it... got things you can downsize? People don't understand any more that MONEY and THINGS do not make kids happy, well-adjusted individuals, it's the TIME the parent SPENDS with the child that counts. FOR EXAMPLE.... my parents always worked when I was a child...they NEVER attended school plays, awards ceremonies OR my college graduation... I am 56 years old now and all I remember of my parents was what they DIDN'T DO and how they WEREN'T in my life... My son, on the other hand, I did all the things a mom AND a dad would do with him... I NEVER missed a play he was in or a concert or a martial arts competition even if it meant taking time from work---WORK will always be there, your KIDS will NOT. cut down your expenses...I lived with the bare necessities while raising my son and without computers, video games, 3 different sports practices, expensive clothes, or toys, he grew up to be a loving, generous SUPER kind of a son and we are still to this day very close WITHOUT him being a "mama's boy"....and by the way ---he has women chasing him all the time. Even OLDER women think he is WONDERFUL...so, you don't have to keep up with the JONES's just keep up with your kids... MAKE THE TIME NOW because if you don't, they won't make the time for YOU when you are OLD.

Answer 5

hi hon... if your life revolves around your bills, perhaps you could use some credit counseling, a consolidation loan or some financial advice?

no one is perfect, that's for sure...

in order to do more with your little ones, you could make a family night once a week (friday night?) and watch a movie together or play games with the kids for an hour or so? perhaps schedule some time every weekend to do something with them too? go to the park, lake, hike, play games, bake cookies (my kids loved to do that), make a craft project or holiday cards (lots of free kids craft ideas if you do a search on line)... you dont' have to do something that's expensive.

portioning out a bit of time each week to do something with the kids will give them something to look forward to, and you will have spent some quality time with them in the meantime.

take care... and i hope you can get some financial advice/help soon. hugs

Answer 6

Get a part time job for one thing. Nothing and I mean !NOTHING! is more important than your kids. If you don't spend enough time with them you will really regret it. My mom has the same problem but she still makes time for us. See if you can be off 1-2 days a week and spend time with your kids on those days. Every little bit helps!

Answer 7

Pick at least a couple of days out of the week to spend with them. Even if you don't want to, just make your self do it. After you spend time with them, you will be glad you did. Kids grow up fast. I work nights so i really dont get to spend time with my children unless i lose sleep. It's always worth it. I can always sleep later. As for the bills. Make a strict budget and stick to it. there is no other way to do it.

Answer 8

I completely understand...I work full time, go to school full time and pay bills full time. How old are your kids? If older than talk with them and tell them what you are trying to do for them. If smaller do the same, but try and make one night a family night. Send me an email and I can give you some helpful tactics @ [e-mail]

Answer 9

I know stress can be hard but, don't allow it to take you time from your babies...30 min-1 hr a day to just chat is awesome, fulltime job myself and I know it's hard but bed time makes for great chat with my kids, sometime it takes me a few hours to get them 2 bed from our chats..
~Angel~

Answer 10

There is no such thing as a "perfect mom" or "perfect dad." All you need to do is to do your best for your kids.