Why should we get married at all?

Question

Paul said:
1 Corinthians 7: 7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

If, as most Christians believe, marriage ends at death and no one in heaven will be married, then marriage is only to satisfy our sexual urgings, according to Paul. Therefore, there should be no problems with people getting divorced when the sexual side has died, right? I mean, marriage can't be that important if it is not forever.

Answer 1

Paul's message is if you cannot remain celibate you should marry. Can you remain celibate?

I married because I love my husband and I have a physical and emotional need to share my life with my partner. It's very important to me.

Answer 2

Marriage isn't only for sexual urgings, even though that is a fantastic part of being married. I married my husband because I loved him, I wanted to have children with him, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

In Genesis, God said, it is not good for man to be alone.

God knew that companionship was such an important thing. God also made woman to help man, and to be fruitful and multiply.

And who says the sex life dies. I have known plenty of elderly couple that still have and had great sex. Some died from having it. Even if their sex had died, it doesn't mean their love for each other did. So your whole reasoning for divorce is pretty weak.

Answer 3

Isn't that a sad idea? I cherish the thought of being married to my guy for eternity. We have had a really bumpy road (and I'm sure that the road only gets rougher here on out!) and the thought that he and I can make not just a life together, but a forever together makes all the hurts and disappointments more worthwhile...more meaningful, I guess. I don't know...I just love him so much and I would be only half of a person without him. I would hate an eternity like that, wouldn't you?

Answer 4

1 Corinthians 7:27 Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Paul never says it's okay to get a divorce.

The passage you are speaking of *is* speaking of passions, but be glad Paul speaks of marriage AND love:

Ephesians 5:25

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

If Paul thought that marriage was for the sole purpose of sexual gratification, then he wouldn't have spoken of how husbands were to love their wives as Christ loves the church. This kind of love is the greatest ever. Christ GAVE HIS LIFE for us. Husband and wives should love each other with that kind of love.

This kind of love doesn't allow for divorce. It causes each spouse to have Christ-like forgiveness and unconditional love.

Answer 5

Do I as a LDS really really have to get marry?
I would like to, but I feel like hopeless (I'm 18 by the way), but I don't know, it's like I'm very young yet, but it's like I can't see myself married (is not that I don't want to) but it's weird.
What happens if I die and never marry? like it's not for me or something? Maybe is it that because I am not even a little mentally prepared because I have never had a boyfriend or a relationship with someone.
If I marry, my wedding will be the greatest and everything will be perfect that day because if I marry is because I am very in love with that groom :)
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Nooooo, marriage doesn't end at death, that's awfull.

I don't know... whatever, there is a lot of time to plan ahead. can't wait to be done with college.

Answer 6

The purpose of marraige is to provide a healthy environment to raise kids and forge strong communities. My wife can be the worlds biggest Ding-a-Ling at times but I wont get a divorce just because she's PMS'n. She says I can be the world's biggest Ding-Dong (as you have probably noticed by our previous encounters) but she won't divorce me just for that. We have mutually decided that the purpose for our marraige is to set an example for our kids. I have 5 boys and 3 girls. My eldest is a Sergeant Major in Iraq on his 3rd tour. My youngest is 13 and wants to be a doctor. Sex is so overrated that its not even worth doing unless you truly love someone. Otherwise all you are doing is excercizing and exposing yourself to who knows what viruses . Will I be with my wife and family in the next life?

Christ said anyone who loves Father, Mother or anything else more than Me is not worthy of Me.

I thank Him for my silly dilly wife and family. They thank Him for me. Better things lie ahead. Please come join us. The Creator of the Universe is only 1 prayer away from anyone who seeks Him. Nobody will stand in your way. No man has the right to speak for the Creator of all that exists. He gave us His word and promised "Heaven and Earth shall pass away, but My word will never pass away." This dude is a stud. I cant even imagine what He went through on that cross. It is totally beyond anything I can comprehend. And He loves us. Dont listen to men. You have everything you need right now to connect with Lord Jesus. Just ask.

P.S. My kids have been using my Answers account and I notice sometimes they have been quite abrasive to you. I would like to apologize for that.

Answer 7

I didn't know that "most Christians" gave much thought, if any, to marriage ending at death. Many widows and widowers still consider themselves to be married to their departed spouses. In any event, marriage vows don't include any reference to sex whatever, let alone be mentioned as an "escape clause."

Answer 8

But marriage IS forever, as Joseph Smith began teaching in 1843 when he made his polygamy revelation public.

He had been teaching it to his spiritual wives for a few years before Emma knew, so it is clear that he had the revelation early on in Kirtland, as it says in the D&C.

We SHOULD marry and should do so happily and faithfully. And we should do so for the same reason that God gave Eve to Adam. It is not good that man/woman should be alone.

In my opinion, however, Paul was sexist, so you have to take what he says in context and with a grain of salt.

Answer 9

Marriage is a one of the seven sacramental rituals. It is called Matrimony. If you are a Christian then this is information for you. If you are a muslim, then I can tell you that Islam teaches that marriage is amiable.

Answer 10

What good does marriage do anyway? Tax breaks? A small reward for throwing your whole life away.