My girlfriend and I have been going out for two years now. Tomorrow night is her senior prom and next Friday night is my senior prom. We chose not to attend her senior prom but instead This weekend we had plans. Her and I were supposed to go to go out to a romantic dinner tonight stay at her house go down the shore Saturday to my brother's going away party and Sunday come home.
I recently found out that my two best friends who i haven't seen since last July will be coming down to my brother's place on Friday night. I know this may sound mean but I told my girlfriend today that I did not want to go out with her tomorrow! I wish she would understand! I haven't seen my friend's since July and I really want to spend this weekend with them. Just a weekend with the guys! I told her next weekend we can go to my prom and we will do everything we had planned for this weekend.
2007-05-18 03:56:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, not just that but in front of her friends i was a bit of an a$$hole to her! (big time) and I feel awful about what I said.
her best friend came up to me in front of her I know he likes her and said if i don't start treating her better he will take her off my hands. Out of anger I said "go ahead I've tapped that enough times already."
I didn't mean to say it i was just angry!
2007-05-18 03:57:18 · update #1
Last night she wrote me two notes. One explaining how much she cared about me and the second explaining how much tomorrow night meant to her.
I still feel like she's making a big deal out of nothing. I told her we still have next weekend!
she sent me a message today telling me how she felt about me and my choice to not go with her and my words that i used towards her
"Scott,
I will never understand how you had the nerve to hurt me like this tonight. The night that was supposed to be prom! I chose not to go because you said you'd feel uncomfortable. We were supposed to spend tonight together! And how you are not even bothered by your selfish acts towards me. I hope after all of this is over it hurts real bad. I hope one day maybe not soon you realize you lost someone who loved you and truly cared deeply about you and would give anything for you
2007-05-18 03:58:18 · update #2
told my friend to tell her to just tell her i was dead so she'd just stop bothering me today! I know that's a horrible thing to do. I told her that I wasn't really dead and was fine.
She then sent me another message
"why would you even JOKE about that? What to make me feel worse then I already do today! Now I'm F*cking crying I hope your happy with yourself!"
2007-05-18 03:58:58 · update #3
I felt like she was just saying all of this to make me feel bad so i said "FINE I'll go with you!"
well, now she won't go with me tonight. She said she'd rather be alone then with me tonight. She told me I broke her heart. I told her I was sorry and I still wanted to make her night special. She said there is no special night for us anymore.
i want to fix things!
2007-05-18 04:00:11 · update #4
Why are you being so horrible to her. She gave up her prom to be with you and now you are blowing her off for your friends. If I were here I would kick you to the curb. If you love her you need to buy her some flowers and forget about your friends and keep your plans with her. How are you going to feel when she moves on and someone else is tapping that!!! think about it!!!! STOP BEING SUCK A CHILD!!!!!!
2007-05-18 04:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow if i were u i would feel horible.... that sounds like somthing my boyfriend would do to me. i mean she isnt going 2 her prom because of you, an then u tell her oh i want 2 chill with my bodys, now she has nuthing 2 do. i mean what if she did that 2 u on ur prom?? how would u feel?? put ur self in her shoes. i know u want 2 chill with ur friends but u made a promis e 2 her an u should stick with it. i can see why she is upset. maby u should go otu an buy her some flowers an a sorry card an go 2 her place an give them 2 her an trully tell her how sorry u are. an wow 2 years is a long time an 4 u guys 2 break up over somthing like that is sad so try an get her back. hope ive helped in any way. "GOOD LUCK"
2007-05-18 04:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by AUBRIE L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK let's get this straight.
You ruined her prom.
You ruined your special night together.
You ruined your prom
You spoke rudely to her in front of friends.
Your"night with the guys" was more important than her feelings.
You "gave in" to her and said you'd go with her tonight - thereby throwing guilt in her face.
What did you expect?
You just lost one heck of a nice girl to your own selfish self and now you want some kind of magic wand to fix things?
No honey. it's over and you did it in a really rotten way.
Perhaps - and only a long shot mind you, you can, at some future time after all this prom/date/night-with-the-guys stuff is passed - you can go over to her house and sincerely apologize to her for being such a jerk. Tell her you know you were being mean and have absolutely no excuse for your behavior.
Ask her to forgive you - and accept if she does or doesn't. But at least you will have tried to apologize.
If you're lucky she'll forgive you and let you make it up to her some way, somehow.
If she's smart she will say thank you, forgive you, and move on without you.
2007-05-18 04:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cancelled her prom to hang out with you and now you are going to ditch her to be with your friends. Hmmm... I think she should be a little more understanding but maybe you could split your time. Spend friday night with the guys but then spend saturday night with her. Its a little easier to understand if you are willing to compromise. I don't think that you should have said what you said in front of her friends. You should have pulled her aside to talk to her and you most defiantly shouldn't have said what you said to her best friend. I'm suprized that she isn't opting to go to her prom with her best friend. Then you would have something to be worried about. I can see why she is upset but i can also see where your coming from.
2007-05-18 04:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how would you feel in her position? Would it bother you if she humiliated you in front of your friends? Its one thing to sit down and explain to her rationally that you really want to hang out with your friends and that you promise to make this up to her,but its another to be an @#$. The only way to make this up to her is don't go for the weekend with your friends and just suck it up like a man. And if you don't really want to do that then you should consider if she really means that much to you.
2007-05-18 04:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump your friends, go to what you arranged with her.
If she will.... I'd tell you to get lost.
Verbal abuse is never OK. Especially in front of other people. Get counselling, quit being selfish and grow up. If you had to go to work tomorrow or be fired, and your friend showed up... would he expect you to ditch work?
2007-05-18 04:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by New rider-- again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋