I am 28, greek, very well educated abroad but when got back home men are scared of me. No real relationship!!!

Question

I consider my work very important. I recently stopped working as an employee and started my own business. I am very dynamic and fight for what i need to get. Things in Greece are not like this at all. Men want their woman to depend on them. They want her to look lovely, be a good wife, have a small income maybe but no opinion and definatelly not to have more experiences than them. I have lived in four different countries up to now, done a lot, seen a lot and heard even more. Should i pretend to be of lower profile just to get a man? Or should I forget about it?

Answer 1

You really cant change who you are. In the long run you wont be happy. You are in a difficult position but I would advise to just stick it out and hopefully the right type of man will come along that appreciates all your talents. Not just the ones they want to pressure you to have. Be patient.

Answer 2

is this a serious question? If you are educated and well travelled then you know you need to be yourself. If the men here dont like you maybe they are afraid of you or intimidated. I suggest hanging out with different men. I have recently joined a ministry goup called singles for christ, I meet a ton of young professionals there. Also I got involved with service groups like Gawad Kalinga and the ucla alumni association. Get immersed in communities you care about, and volunteer your time. I am sure you will meet a good man if you actively seek him out. You cannnot find mr. right by going from your television to your refrigerator. But if you go out into the community, and volunteer your time, then you may find people outside your busines that are a good match for you. Maybe you should not be with the kind of man that wants a very simple wife that just looks nice. Join a literary group, or a church group, or the gym, or join a sports team, or a rotatry club, or a business networking club. Get out and meet new people. Change your environment until you meet men worthy of your time. Try some online dating sites, my friends have had sucees with eharmony and yahoo personals.

dont give up, just stretch yourself out to meet new people and you will find that mr. right will see you and your passion for your activity and be drawn to you.

weaker men are scared of powerful women. All that means is that you have to find a man of strong character that will appreciate your business savvy and your education.

But you must actively seek other singles, go out and meet new people, go to a new place once a week. Mr right might be in your neighborhood, you just need to be out there so he can find you.

And if work prevents you from socializing, then I would highly suggest a matchmaking service online. It is worth a couple bucks a month, what if that is where you are supposed to find him. Good luck with your search.

Finally pray every day for god to prepare you to be a wife and a mother. If you truly desire to be these things, ,god will bring a faithful man into your life to fulfill this prayer.

Answer 3

No!! Do not change for anyone!! Men are like this so they can control their women, don't allow it! You will probably need to find a man that is more successful, even if you have to find one that isn't Greek. You're parents must be really proud of you. Greek men sound really old fashioned, do you really want a man that doesn't like your intelligence and success? You really want to be nothing more than a housewife or even like a slave? You are successful. Find yourself a successful man who doesn't expect his dinner on the table when he gets home from work and his feet rubbed after a hard day. You want someone who wants to share the cooking and the babies and will give you everything that you can give him.

Answer 4

Never sacrifice who you are you will end up being divorced or in an unhappy marriage.
I live in Greece and I am married to a Greek, but I originally come from Australia from an Australian/English background. My husband and I have a very open and loving relationship. I told him straight out that if he ever hit me, I would hit him back. I said that I would stop working when I am pregnant, but I will go back to work when I see fit. I am opiniated and he hears my opinions, but he loves me for it. And he is very opiniated himself.
There are plenty of male chauvanists in Australia and England as well as in Greek. Men in general will respect you more if you stand up for what you believe in and be yourself, but remember to make the occasional sacrifice once in a while.
If it puts things into perspective, my husband was 41 when we got married. He was constantly harangued with the questions "why don't you settle down with a nice greek girl?". But he wanted to be in love, he didnt want to settle. So he waited until he was 38, and then he met me, 3 yrs later, we got married.

Good luck. :) and never settle!

Answer 5

Chica do not EVER try and change yourself just for a man. If a man doesnt like you as you are then FORGET about him. The right one will come along eventually.

Answer 6

you be yourself. the right Man will love you just the way you are. don't settle for less. I am alittle new at Greek so I will say this best as I can...ένα καλό άτομο δεν φοβάται τα πράγματα μεγαλύτερα από τον. I good person does not fear things greater than he.

Answer 7

What do you do roll out your credentials and your degree ?. Surely the conversation rolls on to a generall footing so they know what sort of a person you are socially.

yes pretend you have a lower profile '' IF'' the man is gourgeous enough and has everthing you desire !!!!

Answer 8

Be yourself. If you intimidate men, you don't need those guys. Most guys I know who get intimidated by women have poor self-esteem. Why would you want a guy like that?

Answer 9

1. find a better man
2. let the current types know they need not be insecure or that you accept them for who they are even if they don't make as much money as you. cause after all you're above such materialistic concerns.

Answer 10

just stay like you are .. you will find the right person for you .. maybe not in Greece but I am sure there is some who just love women to be like you .. (MYSELF) .. don't know how to contact you ..