what sholud i do?

Question

my mum thinks im annoying she prefers my sister to me she always talks to her and never to me.

Answer 1

Ask her specifically what you do that is annoying to her and then work on it.

Answer 2

I understand completely. I too was and still am the unwanted daughter. That was something made quite unmistakably clear to me long ago in my early childhood. My sister was "wanted." and I was not. It's still that way.

That said, you can carry a grudge or you can get on with your life. Try these.

First and foremost and forever - do not compete with Sister for your mother's approval. You'll never get it.

Make your own life the very best it can be.
Get good grades in school - study hard.
Do your chores without being asked
Choose your friends wisely - so parents won't have anything to fuss about. Make sure they are nice, polite, attractive and also make good grades.
Join your church youth group, 4H, Scouts, or other activity that is perhaps a little square - but certainly parent approved.
Always be a 'good kid' never give your parents any reason to criticize or compare you to your sister. That's fatal.

Always be kind go Sister - even though she's spoiled rotten. Just make sure you have your own life - apart from yours.

Some of your friends can be shared - do that whenever possible - share your friends. Just know that your friends will see a vast difference between your genuine friendship and her selfish, "what's in this for me" attitude.

Yes, it's sad that you aren't close with Mom/Sis - but that's how it is sometimes. This even goes back to the Bible - where parents played favorites and pitted one sibling against the other. So this has been going on for centuries.

You can, however, make your own way and be a much stronger person for it. Years later, when you are my age (I'm 50) you will have earned your way in the world while Sister will be surprised that she isn't the preferred one after all - at least not in the world's eyes.

Answer 3

Try sitting her down and see whats exactly is wrong and why she feels that way. Communication always works and is the best things you can do.

Answer 4

Sit her down & talk to her. She's your Mother, she'll listen to you. She probably doesn't even realize that you see your relationship in this light. I'm sure she'll come around.