we had a house fire 2 yrs ago and moved in with my sister til we bought a house. shortly after she moved in because of health hazards at her house. shes paying rent but dont want to help with anything else including cleaning up after herself and the kids. my bf is to good hearted to kick her out buts its getting to be a problem. whats ur opinion. we lived with her for 4 mos. and shes been here for almost as long as weve had the house.
2007-05-18 02:47:07 · 7 answers · asked by 14yrsurvival 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to sit down with your husband and insist on laying down ground rules. Insist! Then ask yourselves: what do you expect your sister to do? Decide this between the two of you, write it down, and present it to your sister. If she does not comply, give her 30 days to find a new place to live. If you don't, you'll never get rid of her AND she'll never do any work. If she tries to pull some guilt trips on you, simply point out the amount of time she's been there compared to when you were with her. Either she holds up her end of the household duties, or she vacates. That is the ONLY thing that is fair. You don't need your sister teaching your kids bad habits by not doing anything. It's tough love, but it is necessary. Good luck!
2007-05-18 02:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to draw the line with your sister and let her know how u feel you should tell that you love her very much and u enjoy her company but u dont like it when she doesnt help around the house tell her in a kind way but tell her that this is really affecting u and ur family and if she cant abide the rules in ur house than u guys will have to come up with an alternative plan.
2007-05-18 03:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by shay shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMETIMES THE BEST WAY TO HELP A PERSON IS NOT TO....EVEN THO SHE PAID RENT..SHE NEEDED TO SHOW CONSIDERATIONA ND RESPECT IN YOUR HOME BY PICKING UP AFTER HERSELF AND CHILDREN IF SHE HAS SOME...YOUR BOYFRIEND DI THE RIGHT THING KICKING HER OUT IF YOUVE TRIED TO TALK TO HER ABOUT HER RESPONSABILITIES WHILE LIVING THERE AND SHE DIDNT LISTEN OR TRY ....JUST BCAUSE SHE ALLOWED YOU TO STAY WITH HER WELL THATS WHAT FAMILY IS FOR..BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER TRUE BUT AT THE SAME TIME RESPECT FOR OTHERS IS TRUE AS WELL...AND DONT FEEL GUITY BECAUSE SHE TOOK YOU IN..YOU PROBOABLY PICKD UP YOUR MESSES AND ALASO HELPED AROUND THE HOUSE ....SO YOU HAVE NO REASON TO EVEN THINK ABOUT THIS.....HUGSSS TO YOU..
2007-05-18 02:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by bettym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her eaither to help around the house or get out cause it is to much for one person to handle. She need to have ground rules set that is your house you are paying for it and paying the bills.
I know what it is like I has friend live with me and it tool me three month to kick them out. They would not listen to us, P art of my family came over and told them to get out and two hours later they were out and at another friends house.
2007-05-18 02:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to set the rules straight now, just explain to her that you are exhausting yourself cleaning your stuff and her's and then tell her straight out, you need to pull your weight or I will have to give you the boot
2007-05-18 02:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tutto Bene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should take a stand and talk with her...
don't be rude...don't hurt her feelings...
make her understand.
it won't be easy.
but u have to try.
good luck.
bbye
2007-05-18 02:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by looking for a happy ending 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to pull her weight or move, or she will continue to take advantage of you
2007-05-18 02:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by arizonaprincess2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋