Is it wrong ? Please,Christian men! References from the Bible are apprieciated!?

Question

I need to know,and I feel these questions are best answered by other men ! Is it wrong to listen to love songs and soft disco (mostly oldies)! And because I was unable to have children.Am I not supposed to keep the possibility of one day getting married again? How can you get married and not have sex .Since, sex is mainly for having children.And as Christian women are we allowed to buy sexy pajamas or only flannel type sleepwear. Thank you!

Answer 1

Where are you getting your information??

There's nothing wrong with listening to love songs, soft disco, or any other type of music, unless it "causes you to stumble", according to the bible.

Sex is not "mainly" for having children. That's one aspect of it, but sex was also instituted by God as the ultimate way of expressing your love for another. Even if you can't have children, that shouldn't prevent you from having sex with your husband.

Why would you not be allowed to buy sexy pajamas? Seems to me that whatever made you feel sexy (be it "sexy pajamas or flannel sleepwear...which I have found to be quite sexy at times...especially red plaid flannel pants)...is what you ought to be wearing.

Being Christian does NOT mean stifling your sexuality.

Answer 2

This Is Interesting Cuz Too Many Have Misconceptions Of Whats Right And Wrong In Being Religious

First Of All, Its Not Wrong To Listen To That Kind Of Music As Long As You Dont Act On Those Feelings That Will Put You In The Mood For The Wrong Reasons. It Is Ok If You Have Someone To Share It With You For Your Whole Life.

Its Pretty Hard Not To Have Sex Before Marriage, But Im Gonna Let You In On A Secret , It Never Said In The Bible You Couldnt Have Sex Before Marriage! Surprise! Thats A Too Religious Misconception!

Of Course Its Alright To Wear Sexy Apparel That Keeps Your Sex Life Alive With Your Forever Partner! You Dont Want To Lose That Person To Lusting After Other Women Would You? Its Not Against Bible Laws To Seduce Your Own Man To Keep Him, It Brings Excitement And Keeps Both Of You Faithful. Or Just To Make You Feel Better, As Long As Your Keeping Yourself Happy And Not Flaunting It Off For Wrong Reasons, Why Wouldnt It Be Okay? Just For You Right?

Read The Book Of Solomon: Its About Love, How Men Need To Treat Their Women, How Men And Women Can Enjoy Each Other, Read How Solomon Had Over 700 Wives! Go Ahead!

Answer 3

Ok. I am a Christian, and I just have to say that you are way over the line in your spirituality. Where are you getting your information? The Bible does not specifically say sex is only for having children, nor does it say anything about sexy pajamas or the type of music you're allowed to listen to. Read it sometime. You've obviously been brainwashed by the wrong people.

Answer 4

Others have covered the basics: sex is a gift from God with procreation being a PART of that give and that love songs/sexy pajamas (for your wife) are permissible provided they don't cause you to stumble in the meantime.

If you are interested in further reading, "Song of Solomon" by Tommy Nelson has a great Biblical perspective (you can order the book at http://www.tommynelsononline.com/ProductList.asp?ProductCategory=2&Cat=1).

Also, "Sheet Music" by Dr. Kevin Leman and "The Act of Marriage" by Dr. Tim and Beverly LaHaye are more informational books about married sex. Not as useful unless you're getting married in the next 1-2 months. But still Godly options.

Someone else aready mentioned "Intended for Pleasure" by Ed Wheat, M.D. and Gaye Wheat.

Again, sex is a gift from God for married people. The book that best illustrates Biblical teaching on the overall principles is "Song of Solomon" by Tommy Nelson--because it's straight from the Bible (but clears up some cultural misunderstandings that could easily occur).

Blessings to you. I'll be praying for you as you seek the truth about remarriage, sex, and other life issues from our loving Father and Teacher.

Answer 5

I think you are being too legalistic in your approach to faith.

Listening to love songs and soft disco is not wrong in itself. Listening to the sinful and despicable lyrics of some rap songs is another story. You watch what you eat, are careful about what you see, and you should also mind what you hear. The world is full of sin, and Christians are to be a light in a dark world...we must not let ouselves become corrupted by the influences of the world.

Marriage is all about giving. I also believe God gave sex as a gift intended for married people. Again, the world has twisted this notion for its own self interests. Marriage is far more than sex, which may or may not bring children. Marriage is about caring for your spouse as Christ cares for His church.

The bible does say that women are to dress modestly; however, in the context was for public viewing. Whether your wife wears sexy PJs or anything at all during your private times is not a sin...rather it shows her love for you.

Answer 6

A husband & wife, Sex is honorable, & the bed is undefiled, Even if you can not have children, Yes you can marry , In the beginning Sex was only for reproduction in God's due time & if sin never enter in, every child would have been born with eternal life, But since that upright creature tempted Eve, & she gave in to him She conceived by the serpent, & then God cursed the serpent into that of a snake But not before the fall, Now woman has lost the time frame a woman can concived. If you love that woman of yours Marry her Yes marriage is for repropulation. But let me said something here, I lost my 1st wife after 22 yrs. of marriage, I never thought I would ever get married again, But here come along a widow that also lost her 1st husband. We got married, But we are pass the age of reproduction, does that make us a less person or Christian, NO, So you see marriage is also for companianship. The only thing I will say, is that to me Oral sex is wrong, & Sodomy is wrong.

Answer 7

I'm not a man but I know there is nothing wrong in having sex if you are married only if you are not maried is it wrong. Yes Christian women can have sexy pijamas for their husbands since if they are married they can have sex(Proverbs5:19,20)Of course you can keep the possibility of one day getting married again, but just because you qwere not able to have children does not mean that you will never be able to.But obviously you do not want to keep your mind on sex while you are not married for without being married it is wrong to have sex, and keeping your mind on sex in that case would not be very good for you because you would only be torturing yourself in this way. As for love songs are not wrong depending on what the lyrics are about it sex is mentioned in them then again you would be torturing yourself if you are not married at the time.

Answer 8

firstly i can not see why listening to music can be wrong unless it is rude or straight out promoting unchristian values

secondly..lets start by thinking
god is love(i am not quoting scriptures yet as the bible quotes should be familiar to you and as a christian you should know how to find them)
so god is love
god created man
god gave man the gift of sex
with me so far ?

so with the gift of sex we also have the desire to have sex
but he did put some restrictions on it
wait until married and only have sex with your wife
right ?
now think about this if god created man and woman and he did not want us to enjoy sex he could of done away with it by making us like plants.....the bees could of pollinated us when the time was right

now if god is love and he created us and gave us the desire to have sex regularly(he could of given us the need to do it yearly)...Why would a god of love been so cruel ?
now if you give a gift to someone you love do you want them to put it on a shelf or use it and enjoy it regularly ?
OK that's my attempt at logic
now go get your bible..........you got it...?
look up PROVERBS chapter 5
read it
go back to verse 19 read it again
what does it say ?
may you be in ecstasy constantly......right ?
it doesn't say when you want a child
if fact it says nothing about chrildren at all

with her love may you be in ecstasy constantly

so forget about chrildren ..find a wife ..listen to good music and enjoy lots of sex

by the way if your church taught you sex was only for haveing chrildred then concider looking for a christian religion who teach what the bible says

by the way i don''t want to rave on any more but i know of no scriptures where it states you can't wear sexy clothing for your partners eyes

Answer 9

What your asking is covered by personal opinion only.
As to marriage relations, many women are in the same position. I suggest inquiring from the same sources everyone else uses, but mention the lack of your ability up front before the relationship blossoms. I'm certain you'll find compatible companionship. Very likely there will be a flood of responses.

Answer 10

No, music is music. I like to listen to romantic music, especially when my wife is in the room.

If God brings another woman into your life, you'd be stupid not to get married again. Yes,sex is first and foremost a means of procreation. But, it is also recreation. Read "Intended for Pleasure", it's a good book on the Biblical view of sex. Oh, and you could read Song of Solomon (OT, Bible). In its 8 short chapers, you find a descriptive narrative of sex 2 times, both in relation to the marriage bed.