Any ideas of how i can forget my past?

Question

I have done things in my past that i'm not exactly proud of, i would like to just forget about them but it is kinda difficult when people wont stop going on about it. This is all because a stupid lad could not keep his mouth shut!! It's kinda put me off lads cos i think they are all going to be the same but i know they ain't. What should i do cos it keeps getting me down??

Answer 1

I drink a lot to forget mine. It's sad but it works.

Answer 2

From experience I would say that the only way to forget the past it to deal with it. Everybody has done something that there not overly proud of sweetheart, I could tell some tales that would curl your toes and yes people do tend to remind you of this, more times than you may care to like but its life. As you get older you will find that these people will find other things to talk about and wont talk about you so much and as for you feeling you dont want to connect with blokes right now, thats a normal response to feeling decieved my love.

At the end of the day ask yourself a few questions, did you do what you did because it felt right at the time, did you do what you did because YOU wanted to? If you answered yes to at least one of these 2 questions than you have absolutely nothing to regret or be ashamed of. If you have learnt that doing what you did may not of been the right thing to do, well done, you'll know not to do it again.

Confidently (even if you dont feel confident) look people in the eye and say "SO WHAT! MY LIFE, MY CHOICES, IF YOU DONT LIKE IT F*CK OFF". They'll soon realise that what they say is having no effect (even if in secret it is) and will move on to the next poor unsuspecting soul.

Answer 3

You should be spending little to zero time thinking about the past, or the future for that matter. Easier said then done, I know. Try picking up the book The Power of Now or The Four Agreements. Both are excellent books about how to let go of the past and live in the moment. You will be a lot happier.

Answer 4

Everyone on this earth does something they are not proud of. You're not alone. We all make mistakes. Did this incident happen recently? If it did, it WILL blow over. Who's going to remember what you did a hundred years from now? If you're feeling that bad, I would talk to a spiritual leader (confession is great if your Catholic) or a doctor to see how they could make you feel better about yourself. All men are not the same - that goes for women as well. When you know yourself and your needs, then you can open your mind and your heart and look for the right guy

Answer 5

Sweetie we have all done things we are not proud of...you dont forget about them, you just come to terms with what you did and categorize them as 'low' moments in your life...it's no big deal to have a past, we dont live in the past...but in the future!!!! Some people have no lives of their own worth dealing with so they start gossipping about other people's lives which are more exciting...by next month this will be old news cos they will have new gossip to talk about. Dont let yourself get depressed about this, and start working on 'high' moments in your life which will slowly make the past fade into nothing but a bad dream....

Answer 6

It sounds like a geographic change might be the best thing that you could do. If people where you are keep going on about it then you need to go where people don't know about it and that way you will be able to forget about it. Also once you leave the people where you are now will tend to forget about it since you are not there to remind them of it.

In short move to another town or city.

Answer 7

No matter what it's hard to forget ones past you just have to learn to get over it. Don't let what you've done become a main focus. Just work at the present and not let what other say about your past haunt you. Keep in mind we all have a past so that person that's bringing up yours more than likely has done some things as well that you don't know about. Just be careful as to whom you share your past with so you don't have to keep hearing about it.

Answer 8

You can't exactly forget about about your past, but what you can do is learn from what you have experienced in the past.
and try not to make the same mistake, and don't forget no body is capable of being perfect. Your not a bad person, and just keep your head up.

Answer 9

1. Ask them to stop

2. If they won't stop, ask again that they stop

3. If this doesn't work, change friends, associates, etc.

4. If it's relatives, and they won't stop, avoid them as much as possible and do not talk to them until they respect your rights.

4. If you cannot move yet, learn forgiveness, because these individuals are mentally sick and abusive. Say nothing to them about your life.

5. try to make amends to those you've hurt except that where to so so might hurt you or them.

Volunteer to make some people's lives better, endorsing you as not an all bad person.

Answer 10

Just know, we all have done things in our past that puts us through shame. In fact the very people that keep bringing it up I bet have skeletons in their closets that they do not wish to reveal. What you could say to them is this, "those who have never sinned can cast the first stone". If Jesus said this then it must mean something. I do hope you forgive yourself for your past doings and learn from your mistakes and lean towards improving your choices for a happy life, you deserve it just as much as anyone else. Best of luck to you!

Answer 11

At this point, it's best to just accept them as mistakes you made and learn from them. There's no way to forget, unless you nearly kill yourself in a car wreck and have amnesia afterwards. Explain to the lads that you've changed, that was from a different time in your life, etc. If they can't accept that, tell them to bugger off.