I love action and dirty talking sex but he is too quiet.
We have discussed it from the beginning of our relationship and he keeps telling me he is too shy and feels embarrassed to talk or slap me in the but. I totally love him and want to spend the rest of my life time with him but I need good sex too... HELP?
2007-05-18 01:20:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anna P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also have trouble to ***..He is way too quick when have sex. The only thing he does is keep asking me to wear sexy lingerie and when I do this he is much quicker!!!What can I do to save our sex life?
2007-05-18 01:34:01 · update #1
If sex is great, it's 10% of the relationship. If sex is lousy it's 90% of the relationship. If there's rocks in a marriage, they're usually under the mattress. My point is that sex matters and you two don't seem compatible.
2007-05-18 01:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am happy that you think you have found someone you'd like to spend the rest of your life with, but I would seriously question if your life together is going to be happy in the bedroom if one of you is not completely satisfied. I am glad you had the 'talk' at the beginning of the relationship, but it's time you had that talk again. If your fiance' is too shy to provide the things you feel you need in the bedroom, how long do you think you'll be a happy camper? Perhaps you can start out slowly by teaching him to 'repeat' after you. Some men are not 'vocal' in the bedroom and have no idea that some things they might do are sexually stimulating to their partner. You might have to be the agressor and take him by the hand and 'teach him'. If he loves you and is comfortable with you helping him in that direction, he might find that it is easier to do with you guiding him. If this is a serious issue with you and you think it might affect your marriage - I'd say, get it handled before you say, "I do". People don't tend to change unless they make an effort. I wish you the best and you're smart to talk about these issues up front. You could also get some premarital counseling from a professional. I have known marriages to break up because of something like this - it can be major to one person and not, to another, but both parties have to be willing to compromise. Good luck.
2007-05-18 08:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some type of sex game, some type on intimacy, without actually having the actual sex yet, that might help him open up cause he might be to self conscious, so by talking first, getting into a real deep emotional level will definetly help him open up to this level. Remember, go slow, little by little & eventually he'll open up to this, don't pressure him though cause it will only make it worse & make him feel more self conscious, take your time & it will be worth it. Good Luck. <3
2007-05-18 08:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously suggest you get this sorted before you get married. I married a man that I wasnt compatible with in bed and had 20 years of boring sex life. Find a compromise that suits both of you, but dont compromise too much or youwill feel cheated.
2007-05-18 08:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he doesn't want it to look fake. No body wants to do something in bed that looks posed. Keep doing it to him and he will get so turned on by it, he will return it. Prolong the foreplay for a really long time so he becomes a madman in bed.
2007-05-18 08:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by idontloveyoufup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it yourself gal, play it dirty as you like it. Take over in bed and eventually he may love it. Try doing it in a place where there is sign of any neighbours hearing. Maybe he fears the embarrassment of other people hearing him scream.
2007-05-18 08:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first, i am in the same boat you are,,, i love dirty talk, kinky, rough sex,, but my gf is so shy and doesnt like role play or anything,,, i am also engaged, and it sucks when you cant get some good sex,,, so i am going to go by your answers and see what i can do also,,,, lol,,,,,
2007-05-18 08:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, but the roles are reversed. i have tried everything and still have no luck. i hate to say it but maybe the best thing is to get out now, or give him an ultimatum. i have been with my wife for 6 1/2 yrs and she is still the same as the first time. good luck!
2007-05-18 08:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by hat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness is something that can be practiced away. If he says one thing during sex each time, soon it won't be such a big deal. But you need to know if it's truly that he's shy, or if it's that he doesn't enjoy what you do -- and is therefore trying to avoid it.
2007-05-18 08:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always good to express yourself with the ones you love. Talk with your fiance, tell him your needs. The more time you spend with someone the more likely they will loose there shyness. Be patient, hopefully he will come around.
2007-05-18 08:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by angie247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋