I've been grounded for having some people up to my dads house for a while when he was on holiday. We wern't gonna be staying there and afew people had drink but I wasn't drinking but my mum still went mental and accused me of having a party! So I've been grounded for a week so far and she says she wants to ground me for 3 weeks! I don't even think I did anything that bad but I still said sorry for it. Last night we got in a massive fight about it and I said some things I shouldn't have out of anger but it resulted in her throwing a cup at my head and trying to strangle me! Then made me sit outside in the cold when all I had on was a vest top and shorts! Whatever I said had no need for that behaviour and she said plenty of things to me. I feel like just packing a bag and going to a friends house for a while cause I can't stand being stuck in this house with her. Should I stay and stick out the grounding or leave?
2007-05-18 00:46:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im 15 by the way
2007-05-18 00:51:37 · update #1
Omg can people actually READ the question please!! I said some people had DRINK not that they were god damn drunk! Its a bit hard to get drunk off of 2 bacardi's ay
2007-05-18 02:14:46 · update #2
'Mum, Dad, I'm really sorry for what happened, and I understand why you're so upset. I promise that I'll ask permission next time I want to have some friends over. The thing we all need to realise here is that nothing got broken, nobody hurt themselves, there were no drugs, no sex, and only a small amount of alcohol - none of it touched my lips - please remember that I've been brought up well and I know what's right and wrong. You need to trust that I'll make the right decisions for myself (although in my learning years there might be a few hiccups), and I need to realise that you're concerned for my safety and want the best for me - can we get past this - I'll be an adult one day and I need to learn to make decisions for myself - right or wrong. This was one of the wrong ones. Pleeease don't be angry with me.'
2007-05-18 00:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 1st 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
OK first and foremost that behavior from your mom is NOT acceptable---no matter what you did, if it went down the way you say it did, she should never put her hands on you like that unless it was self-defense.
Second, you knew that you did not have permission to have friends over, so, in that, YOU were wrong. If it wouldn't have been a problem, then why didn't your mom know? EXACTLY because you were being deceptive and sneaking around--which makes YOU wrong. IF you are being "abused" then you need to contact a family member and ask to stay with them. If you are getting back what you are giving out--then suck it up, and deal with the punishment. No your mom shouldn't have touched you (certainly not strangling!!!) but there is probably more to the story of something that put her to that point. Be rational in your discussions, don't disrespect her, and if there is abuse, find another adult in your family to help you. You need to stay put otherwise, realize what you did was wrong, don't escalate the problem by arguing about it when you shouldn't have done it in the first place.
If you aren't willing to do the time--don't do the crime, plain and simple.
2007-05-18 00:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ur mum is worried about u n she thought u did something wrong . being grounded is 4 protecting u and making u know ur fault ...she wont do anything except 4 ur help to 2 be better .. she's ur mum .... think about it if u had a daughter and found her with drunk pple wat would be ur reaction ?? am sure it would just like ur mother's one .. think again about it . Leaving ur house wont change anything she would still think about u as a bad girl ... i usually have 2 fights with my mum a day and belive me after all i have been through with me mum i knew she was just doing the right thing and i was the wrong person most of the time .........and try to control ur temper mayb when u said these bad things u said cause u were angry made her think of making it 3 weeks ... u made a mistake and now she should pay 4 it !
2007-05-18 00:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by marioma 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're 15, you have a party... And it WAS a party. You allow your underage friends to drink... And you think your mother is wrong???
You DO realize that if anyone had been hurt your father could have gone to prison... Right? Or are you such a bubble headed, unthinking little brat that you only care about YOUR good time?
If you leave you will regret it. I know if I grounded my daughter and she ran away my FIRST call would be to the police. When she was found she'd be spending some time in Juvenile hall so she could see what REAL problems are.
You were a brat, you deserve a spanking.
**You also have a filthy mouth. Underage DRINKING is wrong. The law doesn't say "drunk", you little punk.
2007-05-18 01:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to site down with both mom & dad and have a long talk. Let them know you realize what you did may have go a little to far, but since it will not happen again come to some agrement on the grounding. You must prove that you can be trustworthy.
2007-05-18 00:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your leaving will only exacerbate the problem, your age was not included, but I believe your Mom was angry because the trust she had for you was lost...both of you need to calm down...stay grounded, stick it out, and try and prove to her you can be trusted, this may take some time...I think your mother has your well-being in mind...try talking to her more, raising children is one the most difficult jobs in existence, but also the most rewarding....chill
2007-05-18 00:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you were 15 and had drunk people at your house while your parents were away, I'd say you deserve what you're getting. Sorry. Grow up, deal with the grounding and stop being so immature.
2007-05-18 02:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you are only 15, either you stick it out, or the Dept. of Family Services can take you and put you in a foster home if she is beating you....so you have 2 options.
2007-05-18 02:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would leave and call child services on her she had no right to choke you no matter what you did!!
btw i would get other peoples reaction if she hadnt thrown a cup at your head choked you and thrown you out in the cold but since she did she is the one who is wrong and if you leave you have to call child services or risk going to juvy!
2007-05-18 02:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, you need to pray. And you need to sit and , and try to have a civil conversation with your mom. Tell her what your thinking about doing. God will leave you from there, TRUST ME,,, God Bless.
2007-05-18 00:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋