Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

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Help me!!!!!!!! I am pregnant. What can I do? I am still a teenager.?

I am pregnant and it is the biggest mistake I have ever done!!!! I have been in denial for a long time. These past few months I thought it's all surreal!!! No, it's reality!!!! It feels like a long time. I've gone through depression. I've regained a ton of weight and I look like crap. I'm great at hiding this secret. The only person who knows is my psychologist. My stomach is beginnning to show. I am not the person I use to be. I use to love music, now I hate it. I hate singing!!! I don't want to become a musician any longer. People at my department, I believe, do know. They could tell. Am I being paranoid? I use to be such a great person, now I bring misery. These people have ruined my life. I have been so irrational this year. I am persian and my family will kill me. How can I tell them? I think I'm going to run away. I have family in L.A.and Chicago. WherMaybe they will be forgiving? My friends don't know how to help me because they don't know my problem. I've started cutting again.
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54 minutes ago
I'm afraid if I tell my parents, they will have a heart attack. I worry about my mother because she is dealing with her cancer. My father will execute me. I don't know who to tell. Please god? Should I start going to the mosque? i will pray hard. I wish I was invisible. I'm trash and a ****. I didn't think about my consequences and now, I got what i deserved.

48 minutes ago
I no longer care if the entire world knows. I've disappointed everyone, especially myself. I am revealed.

45 minutes ago
I had so many goals. I wanted to finish college and get a degree in vocal performance and science. I am a failure.

43 minutes ago
I am iranian. My culture is NOT forgiving!!!!!

34 minutes ago
I don't know any other persian with this problem!!! I feel sooo alone.

I'M IN AMERICA!!!

Answer 1

I would get some help tell a family member you know u can trust. I know its scarey but you have to be strong. And tell the father maybe he will help you.

Answer 2

You can't keep this secret forever eventually it'll be obvious. Please don't have an abortion that'd be the same thing as your father killing you. I suggest you just be honest, tell them now. Before they find out on their own. Have a place lined up to go incase they kick you out. Now your not a horrible person or a wh**e. You made a mistake it's not the end of the world. Life will go on. You can still acomplish all your goals. I'm american so I don't know exactly what your going through but my situation was similar and I survived. With all the people in the world you are not alone. You know the pregnancy is why your feeling so depressed and having all these emotions. I understand that in your culture their would be certain labels put on you but your in America. Your free. Your parents couldn't kill you it's illegal here. Whats done is done they need to deal with it. Hopefully you'll have a little girl and raise her free. Love her no matter what mistakes she has made. There is nothing like what you feel the first time you hold your child. You'll know what I'm saying as the child grows.

Answer 3

okay kiddo,
slow down with the thoughts first of all, and then realize that you cant hide this forever, not long for that matter. Your parents love you no matter what and you need to tell them so that you can start prepareing for this child. You made a mistake your not a mistake and god will help you get through this just trust in him, now you have to think about whats best for this child. If you are to young and your parents won't help you raise it then you need to think about letting some one who will love and care for it have it because after all the baby had no choice in the matter and deserves a chance to live a happy life. I think once you get honest with the people you love then things will get better and you wont feel so alone anymore. Keep your chin up and do the next right thing tell your parents probally your mother first
GOD BLESS YOU

Answer 4

I can understand you & where you are coming from because I am in a similar situation right now.
I made some HUGE mistakes & now am having to live with the consequences. I cry all the time now & haven't told anyone what i'm going through, not even the guy!!
Crying now as I write this. Am scared & do not know what to do or who to go to. Parents will freak out & i cannot bear to think of the pain humiliation & disappointment I will have caused them. I come from a strong Christian background & everyone I know is prolife. Even i'm prolife which makes it even worse!!! I CANNOT LIVE WITH MYSELF & would literally rather die than to be pregnant. And i'm too scared and keep denying it that i won't even take a test, see a doctor or tell anyone.

I AM SO SORRY to hear about all that you're going through right now but Please, know that you aren't alone. I hope & pray that it all works out for you.
Let me know if you need to talk!!

Also, what were some of your earliest signs of being pregnant?

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 5

The first thing u need to do is make an appointment with a clinic that helps teens in your situation and have them explain to you all of your options. Your options being abortion(if u aren't too far along), adoption, and keeping the baby. Or find someone you can trust in your family to help you tell your family. I know how you feel cuz I was pregnant at the age of 16 and I felt so helpless,confused, scared, and i felt like a failure to my family. So go find some help and i hope whatever your choice is that everything works out for you.

Answer 6

hey babe, look, i've never been in your shoes before, so i can't tell you what to do, but i support you in whatever you decide. Since your psychologist knows, i assume you have gone to them for advice. good move. right now what you really need to focus on is yourself and how you will talk to your parents about this. if you are planning on keeping your baby, then the first place to start is to take care of your body. Eat well, and if you can, try to get a hold of prenatal vitamins. They will help a LOT! second, i know this is really freaking hard, especially with your culture, and i personally know what it is like to tell your parents something huge that you know they won't like. you need to know that there is NEVER the perfect time. Your parents do need to know if you are going to keep your child or even put your baby up for adoption because they will be directly involved. One idea may be to invite them, if your psychologist is willing, to come to a session with you were you can break the news to them in the presence of someone who knows, and i'm sure cares about you but is not your parent. Your psychologist may even help you work through the emotions as a family, if you so desire. then, most of all, you really need to know that you are not a failure. ok, so your priorities have to change, and so does your life, but that never ever means you are a failure. In fact, you have just succeeded in the main point of life: to procreate. you are having a baby. That baby is yours now, and you are your baby's forever. perhaps you didn't meet the way you planned or dreamed of, but you are meeting all the same and your baby will love you weather you wanted him or her in the beginning, or not. be strong, though you feel weak. trust in who you are. this will turn out ok someday, trust me. it'll be hell for a while, but you will make it through.

Answer 7

I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time dealing with this...but teen pregnancy is far more common then you seem to think. The end result will be an amazing baby who you should love with all of your heart. You can still be a great mom and give a great life to that child even if it wasn't planned.

Answer 8

I know you are young and scared. It's too late now to do anything, all I can say you have to live with your mistake and make it a positive thing. This kid will be your life long friend, you both will share sorry and happiness together. At this time it seems scary and you are not looking into your future but the present. When I was your age I had a lot of abortion, now I have two beautiful kids. My greatest regrets is I should have kept my other kids and we all would have been growing old together. I am now getting very old and my kids are very young and this can be scary because your body is never the same.

Please appreciate what god has given to you, and god forbid but should something happen to your mom you will then have someone to share that sorrow with and someone whom will make you a stronger person. Your parents will come to love your baby with time as you'll.

Have faith and live for the future.

God bless........

Answer 9

Other people haven't ruined your life.You have!!! You can't blame this on anyone but yourself.
You have to be brave and tell your parents.You can't hide this forever and you have an innocent little child to think about.Not only yourself.It's time for you to grow up.
You should have thought about your religion and your beliefs before you got yourself in trouble.Now you have to suffer the consequences.I'm sure others of your culture have been in the same situation and lived through it.
Tell your parents now before you get into even bigger problems.They may be very angry and disappointed in you but they will stand beside you in the end.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

Im from Texas, and almost all my friends have gotten pregnant, even some of the smartest of my friends, Sadly one of them had an abortion in Mexico, she was the last person you'd think would get pregnant, so were the rest of my friends, im 17, and it was so wierd, but my friend Jennifer has changed so much, and the new baby has made her loose alot of weight! She says her baby was the best thing to happen to her, its tough, but she can mannage, Please dont get so mad, I come from a conservative Catholic family, I know how you feel, I had to tell them my biggest/gayest secret, I couldnt hide it, niether can you, dont run away, your family doesnt need your aproval, and visversa, maybe the baby will enlighten your mom, and like they can hurt an infant, please dont run off, I think you should run to a family's home, and then tell your father, but the last thing you would want is to hurt yor mother, please, this is the only means you have, lets loose and tell every one, sooner or later they will find out, peace be with you <3

Its kinda like that movie, Bend it like Bechem, hm....

If you need some one to talk too, just e-mail me ok,

Answer 11

whatever you do do not abort don't even consider that a option.If i were you i would not run away because it will also be a big mistake. Your family in LA and Chicago will probably tell your parents. Some how have the baby but send it to an adoption center and it will have a better life .

good luck and I'm sorry this happen to you