I picked out a dress for my cousin's wedding that is white, but very plain. I was planning to dress up it with colored belt, matching color earrings and probably similar color heels. My friend that I showed it too said white is off limits for weddings. I hadn't thought about it, and know I've seen others wearing white. I was thinking that with the color accents that it would be fine.
2007-05-17 11:29:38 · 40 answers · asked by Caitlin M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In my defense, I had forgotten to mention also that it is a garden wedding, outside, in Texas, in July. Also, I had already thought about showing my cousin the dress and everything to go with it to see what she said. We grew up together and are close, so I was prepared to respect what she said...even what she said with her eyes not just her words.
2007-05-18 03:05:22 · update #1
Ask the bride. Some don't care what their guests wear, and some do. If there's any chance at all that it would distract from her, you should choose something else to wear.
2007-05-17 11:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
White was worn by brides to symbolize purity and innocence and if that were still true in this day and age then almost no brides could wear a white gown. I think that, if the bride is acting like a "bride-zilla" then you probably shouldn't wear white because it's likely to upset her but if she hass an otherwise "chill" type attitude about the wedding then she probably won't care. Honestly, no one will probably ever notice that your wearing a white dress anyway, unless it too has sequins and a matching veil (in other words, everyone's attention will be on the bride).
2007-05-17 12:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by ravens_angel78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would definitely have been frowned apon a few years back, tho these days anything seems to go. If there are a few older people at the wedding, they will most probably make it their business to tell you it is a faux pas, but ultimately it is up to you what you do.
Can you get a refund on the dress or exchange it for another colour? I am sure if you explained what happened to the shop assistant they will work something out for you. I almost make this mistake myself..... I went to a wedding a month ago and while shopping fell in love with a cream lace dress but decided at the last minute not to get it as it looked a bit to brideish.
2007-05-17 11:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a social rule in a traditional wedding the bride is the only one in white. Even if you add a colored belt and some earrings you are still wearing the brides color. It's a no-no! Exchange the dress it's much easier.
2007-05-17 11:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by jhardinmom 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Never wear white to a wedding unless you are the bride. Never. It will put the Maid/Matron of Honor in the uncomfortable position of having to find a wrap or some other item, so she can go up to you and say "Ooh, my...I thought you were the bride for a moment. Here, let me give you this to wear, so we do not distract from the person we are here to celebrate". That is the suggested course of action in many bridal books, when a female guest shows up in a white dress. It is not appropriate.
2007-05-17 11:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
WRONG WRONG WRONG...
don't steal the spotlight
this isn't about you
if you love the white dress, wear it to something else that is YOUR occasion
wear something that is more respectful of the fact that this is your cousin's day, don't just add accessories. Chances are SHE will be wearing white with color accents (usually boquet is colored flowers to accent the white dress) so why on earth would you want to do the same?
2007-05-17 13:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Heather L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
White is for the bride alone on her special day. Out of respect and fashion, white for observers is not respectful nor fashionable. You could dye the dress a nice pastel or pick something in your wardrobe that isn't white.
Hope this helps and wishing you colorful wedding clothes!
2007-05-17 11:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by Carla S 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually you are not supposed to wear white to a wedding. The bride is the only one that wears white. However in todays society pretty much anything goes. But to respect the bride on her day you shouldn't.
2007-05-17 11:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by jadeynoctobre@att.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, i wouldn't do it. you will most definitely look like you are trying to look better than the bride, not support her....don't outshine her...it is her day. Show her your love and support instead by trying a different, less eye-popping color! Even beige would probably be okay ...but to avoid making your cousin think that you are trying to compete with her or discourage her, i would stay away from anything too eye catching!
P.S. Windsor has lots of really cute dresses in all different colors try www.windsor.com
good luck and god bless =)
2007-05-17 11:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by surferlove =) 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah, even if you add color, definitely a bad and off-limits thing to do. If you do it, your cousin might get disappointed, and if she doesnt, someone will probably and most definitely get angry, or have a word with u. seriously, i would just avoid the whole thing. just because other people do it, it might mean that they weren't noticed, and were comfortable in it. if u are having second thoughts about it, dont do it, because u will be uncomfortable, will try avoiding the bride, and wont have a chance to check out the really cute guys. lol. go for something maybe red. that would be really pretty...even in the spring time!
2007-05-17 11:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can break it up with a colored shawl, scarf or something similar, it's a non problem. I noticed at my sister's first wedding in CA that a lot of women wore white, but added colored accents way more substantial than just a belt and earrings. If you have not bought the dress yet, I really would suggest picking something else.
2007-05-17 11:33:28 · answer #11 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋