I met this really really nice guy, he is very handsome, educated, well mannered and was such a gentleman. But now I feel confused. When we were together we were kissing and hugging but I felt in way that he bacame upset because we didnt go further than that. Then he was like, "it doesnt feel like you are into it, at least i'm trying" I was like what! I felt like we had a really good connection.... Guys and Gals I need your help. I'm so confused, I was like what? If I wasnt intrested I wouldnt had even let him kiss me yet alone hold me. Do you guys think that I should let it go, see if he calls me, or should I call and find out what the hell happened? Any advice will help...
2007-05-17 07:50:39 · 14 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply and post some nice understanding answers. Most of you are right, obviously he only wanted one thing from me, I just didnt want to believe it, I'm dissapointed again and it sucks! Well thank you all! Much love and God Bless you all... ;)
2007-05-18 05:48:50 · update #1
Well, my opinion is that he wasn't on the date for a relationship. I'm sorry. It sounds like he only wanted one thing. I don't think you should call him because then you'll just start liking him more and when the truth is finally very clear to you, you will end up getting hurt. You should wait for a man that will treat you right, not make you feel bad for not letting him in your pants. He's out there, somewhere.
Keep your chin up! :)
2007-05-17 07:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother with him, if he is that interested in you, he will call you. However, it appears to me that he had one thing on his mind and one thing only and if he's going to act immature and even rude that you didn't put out or whatever, I would chalk this one up to being another loser and would hold out for a guy that is going to be 'well mannered', a 'gentlemen', and treat you right and from you have told so far, this guy sounds like everything that you should try to avoid when pursuing someone for a romantic relationship. Good luck and take care :)
2007-05-17 15:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he didnt like the way you kissed and was trying to let you off easy...I think you should wait to actually see whats going on...if he calls you then maybe you two can work things out...but then again if he doesnt then he was not that into you...believe me when a guy likes you, he'll respond back with a phone call or something...it depends...and no I wouldnt call him...that will only scare him off for real...just wait it out...if a guy cares he'll let u know
2007-05-17 15:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by girliegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little strange. What he said to you about how "you weren't into it and at least he's trying" sounds kind of insulting. Like somehow you were doing something wrong and not doing it the right way. How dare he say that to you. I think he sounds weird, and I'd let him just move off into the sunset. Find a guy who absolutely loves how you kiss and hug.
2007-05-17 14:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he might have been trying to get sex from you, but since you weren't going all the way, he got angry. be careful with guys like these. they are handsome, charming, gentlemen....DOGS!!!!! If you really want to know where you stand with him, try calling him and see if he wants to hang out sometimes soon....that sure beats the hell out of waiting on HIS phone call. But maybe somehow you really made him think that you weren't interested or something. You never know unless you ask. That might be why he isn't calling, but he sounds like he MAY just have wanted sex and because you weren't opening your legs right off the bat, he stepped off and got mad. I would try calling him and subtly asking him what is up. Try setting up a date somewhere, and then when you're out on the date, ask him if he's got a girlfriend and hint to him that you'd really like to be his girlfriend. If he starts making excuses, etc. then that certainly lets you know where you stand to him.....HE ISN'T interested! But try that first, and then see what happens. I DO think its strange that you haven't heard anything from him since that day, but either you really did give him the wrong impression, or he got frustrated because you weren't going ALL THE WAY. But try setting up a date with him and talk with him about where you stand and see what happens. If you want to wait by the phone for a call that may or may not come soon, then that's on you, but I'm impatient and I'd want to know ASAP!!! Good Luck!
2007-05-17 14:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me as tho he was trying to make you feel guilty for not going further then that, my opinion, let him go, he sounds like a creep even tho he is educated handsome and seemed like a really nice guy....
2007-05-17 14:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by melimel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he just wants you to fill his manly desires, then he's not a true gentleman. He's lucky to be getting some hugs and kisses from you, and remind him of that. Otherwise, leave him so he can chase other girls.
2007-05-17 14:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know, just give him a quick call, if he does not call you back then forget about him. However, if he was trying to "hook up" and that is what he ment by you not being into it, I would run fast away from him.
2007-05-17 14:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by verysad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd want to find out what he ment. some men do the kissing and cuddling thing as a means to get summat else if you know what i mean. if thats the case i'd tell him see ya!
2007-05-17 14:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really isn't a gentleman. Don't be confused.
2007-05-17 14:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋