give one suggestion atleast
2007-05-12 23:38:28 · 10 answers · asked by anju r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can NOT "MAKE" (as in force) someone to listen to anyone -- even parents, .....
HOWEVER ...
With Teenagers, hopefully as a parent you started out with them as infants, SHOWING them through your ACTIONS, Deeds, Words, and yes, LIFE that there are GOOD Ways to live -- ways to RESPECT Others, ways to treat others with Kindness, to have manners, and yes, to care ....
BECAUSE ...
When teenagers become teenagers, they STILL need limits -- no matter how much they ABUSE or torment their parents during their teenage years ... and this includes standing firm and ENDURING the Verbal Abuse (and all other kinds of abuse) from TEENAGE Children --
but ... if they are ASSAULTING the parent, or doing property damage, then the PARENT needs to feel free to CALL The POLICE and be Treated with DIGNITY and RESPECT when that parent REQUESTS/demands that the teenager be charged with Property Damage or Domestic Violence, whatever! I've seen too many instances where DCFS has 'gone wrong' and aggressively pursued a PARENT who was abused/assaulted by their teenager -- with the Teenager being allowed and supported by DCFS to continue to Rob, Assault, and yes, BEAT their parent!
PARENTS are parents -- we set the rules. We need to have SUPPORT from everyone in those rules -- and NOT have to have FEAR in our own homes -- or have to FEAR that these Teens will be ALLOWED to continue with their criminal activities with the support of DCFS or Law Enforcement Authorities.
IF they choose to do adult crimes -- then teenagers need to do the time.
OTHERWISE ... Let's let parents BE parents ... and set the Household Rules for sure.
ONCE they turn 18 yrs of age (or earlier if they are especially VIOLENT with the parent/others) -- then with attitudes and problems -- they do NOT need to be 'enabled' by DCFS or Law Enforcement or Society any more - they need to be living on their own, with their own income and taking all the consequences that their 'poor choices' have ... and that can include jail time and a permanent criminal record!
2007-05-13 01:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figure the only way this will happen is if they understand you may have gone though similar things and you have the advantage of hindsight.
Think about it logically, you dont take advice from people that doesnt match at the least some hidden idea you have had once before but buiried.
Try to reach that common ground, then she would be more willing to listen and possibly take the advice, just dont bother forcing it on her, people take that bad and ignore the advice
2007-05-12 23:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk down to them. Don't yell. You both should be calm before discussing anything. Compromise. More importantly, the relationship in general should be a respectful one. If a parent doesn't show respect, they can't expect it.
2007-05-12 23:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kerri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to them, communication needs to be two way. Do not yell or overreact, never talk to them when you are upset take time to calm down. Realize they are no longer children but becomming young adults.
2007-05-13 01:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them to see why you are worried about them and let them know that no matter what you love them and will always be in there cornor. And as they get older they will realize that you were wise and come and tell you thank you or at least thats what I did
2007-05-13 01:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you can make ANY TEENAGER listen to their perents but you can take things like cell phones or computer time away..
2007-05-13 01:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not really think you can...not make them anyway....for teenagers i think its our job to just catch them when they fall.
let them know that home is a safe place and that it will always be a safe place... that's about all you can do..other than letting them know how much you love them...you could have told them a 1,000 time when they are little...i think its much more critical to tell as teenager....
2007-05-13 01:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Pistons fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try relating to them. Try to put yourself in their position, see things from their perspective. If you can do this, you will see what will get through to them.
All the best!
2007-05-12 23:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
teenages are rebelious at this age, and will disagree with you no matter what you say
2007-05-12 23:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by txcatwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2007-05-13 01:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋