how to make him happy when to talk what. How to be on the wedding night, wedding day, how to get him close to me. should i tell him all my secrets and ask his? We r engage since then chatting on the phone but only unrelated matters and topics like had ur luch had dinner, when u sleep when u get up etc..One more important thing I am scared about first night is it necessary to have sex on first night and if i don't want how should i convince him. And also let me know how to be with new relatives and friends
2007-05-12 23:29:00 · 24 answers · asked by shazia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
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2007-05-12 23:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
How to Succeed in Marriage? :
- Are You Thinking About Marriage?
- - What Is Needed for a Successful Marriage?
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The Wedding Day---Making It a Joyful Beginning :
- "The Happiest Day of Our Lives"
- The Wedding Day--Happy but Demanding
- A Sample Preparations Checklist
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Wholesome Communication--A Key to a Good Marriage
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When Marital Disagreements Arise
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2007-05-14 03:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you familiar enough with your husband to be? I suggest you behave normally with him, more like a friend. Wedding day and night belongs to the bride and the groom. So enjoy that day fully. You and the groom will be the centre of attention. Sharing secrets on the night of the wedding is not advisable. Your normal love and attraction will bring him close to you. Be loving and respectful to your in laws and relatives from your husband's family and earn their love and affection in return. Regarding first night, just remember that a wedding is never considered to be consummated without sexual intercourse. You can postpone sex from the night of your marriage, but it has to come one day. Hence there will always be a first night which you don't need to postpone indefinitely. It is one of the greatest experiences for human beings and a little pain in that connection is well tolerated by all women. Best of luck.
2007-05-16 13:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get to know him better and quick. You have hardly no idea what kind of guy your marring into. But just get personal but slowly. Ask certain things about him. Me and my husband have been together since 15 years old and we are now 25. We are best friends. We talk about everything from the day we had to personal stuff. Alot of marrages fail due to lack of communication later in marriage, but if your not really now...then how will that work. On the wedding day just feel fabulous. It will show in your personality. You will glow. Didnt you ever wonder what it would be like to walk down the aisle as a little girl? If you dont feel comfortable having sex on the first night Id say its cuz you dont really know him. Id really try to sit down and have a very detailed conversation with him before the wedding. You never know he may plan on the sex and you upset him already. Make him your new best friend after all you will be with him everyday. Good luck with inlaws I didnt do that great his family are assholes, but it doesnt matter what they think it dont affect us any. Everyone is different w/ inlaws, depends on how well they are alike. Good luck!
2007-05-13 06:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't have to ask people.Just try to be friends before anything else for a start. Later, when you are comfortable with him, talk about serious issues. Don't talk about secrets untill you befriend him.And if your secrets are about any past relationship. Just forget them. You don't need to speak a word about it.
While chatting on phone, you can talk about your dreams, your goals, his dreams, his goals, your lookout towards life, his lookout towards life and stuff like that. Tell him what life has given you so far, and you wonder what future has in store for you. Ask him the same. And be original. Don't try to act like someone who is not you.
As far as sex in first night is concerned. You don't have to think about it right now. Those thoughts would just make you more uncomfortable while you talk to him. later, on the wedding night, you can just tell him that you are really tired, if you don't wanna have it.
As far as new relatives and friends are concerned, try to be friends with them to. Accept the relatives as a part of your family. Just like assuming, that an uncle or aunt of yours have come to visit after a quite long time, and you don't rememberr being with them.
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2007-05-13 16:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. It will happen. You don't need to stress out with all these questions. As far as sex is concerned, read some books and educate yourself on sex. It is an essential part of your married life. Just go along with your and his mood. If there are any secrets in your life and you think there are some in his life also and you need to share, ask him. If you only reveal yours, that may come to haunt you some day. Be careful before you open this subject. If you have any doubt, I would not rush to get marry till everything is clear and differences are resolved.
2007-05-13 11:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Hari Om 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing first are you sure that you are ready for marriage it's okay you're not, because marriage is a life time committment. Your are supposed to be there for the good and the bad, i would hate for you marriage to end in divorce. What i would do is sit down and talk to him over the phone or how ever it is down adn tell him exactly what you are feeling and maybe both of you can work through these feelings and emotions. Good luck, and wish you the best on what ever you decide. God Bless
2007-05-13 11:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shazia don't worry at all , try to talk to your mother about your tension n worries , about first night ask to your big sister or your married side friend who will with you on your marriage day to teach you about your first night , first night is first in your married life so don't go without sex , make happy night for you an your husband ,talk ,love , foreplay , sex , whole night and then take bath an be fresh ,and then sleep after full enjoyment like a small child sleeping carefree, GOOD LUCK .******** HAPPY WEDDING CEREMONY ********* IN ADVANCE .
2007-05-14 15:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by your friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship takes time to bulid up. You cannot have a blast on the very m\first meeting.
Let things open up gradually and everything would be fine. Dont worry about your first night or sex as its all part of relationship. sex is just a small part of your life and you need not worry about it at all.
Your relatives would also be tense as they would be wondering about yoyu and your behaviour.
Accept people as they are, rather than trying to change them and things would be fine.
2007-05-14 00:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Abhijit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u exactly want to know. Its absolutely fine u see... this is the moment u both want to cherish. he is excited the same way as you r.
Just on the wedding night.. talk with him. if he comes near to u ask him for a glass of water.. keep smiling, keep shying. dont get nervous, ya obviously this is the time which we await for yet gets nervous, as its natural. take it all easy. enjoy and absorb every moment of this night. and as far as THT physical interaction is concerned, tell him u r not comfortable tonight. And let me tell u , It might be possible that YOU ureself wud like to have it. ya trust me.. because once u start getting intoxicated by a natural and legal grip, you just wanna get lost in tht very moment..
so dear just enjoy every bit of it :)
have a nice time,,,,
May u have a happy and a successful marital life, ameen :)
2007-05-13 07:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him a few stories about your school and college life to make him more comfortable with you. Flirt a bit but not too much.
First ask his secrets then reveal yours, make sure you do not reveal more than what he does.
He may not like first night without sex.
Consider his relatives and friends as yours and behave as you would in front of your relatives and friends.
2007-05-13 06:47:36 · answer #11 · answered by ASHOK AGRAWAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋