I mean, I could not go out even to a supermarket without some men running after me and making advances. I dress very simply, and never use any make up, but when I go out, there are sores of men who ran after me and ask me to go to bed with them. A week ago one followed me to my place and tried to break in, and I had to call the police.
There are so many of them, running after me, and asking me to go to bed with them after they just saw me; but I never met a man who would have been interested in something more than that!
2007-05-12 22:52:43 · 10 answers · asked by j.t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not put any mascara or lipstick on for two years, and see many women older than me happily married and adored; I am afraid to wear a skirt, and still I am a someone to make advances on the street and ask to go to bed with 15 minutes later! And being verbally abused when I refuse!
2007-05-12 22:57:45 · update #1
I do not wear any provocative clothes! And I once went to my parents, and my luggage was lost, and In dressed into my high school clothes, a long dark
blue coat, and red boots, and a black scarf, and I wanted to make my mother a surprise, and went to a supermarket on foot some way off; and
I thought I must have looked awful, now it was, and there was that two guys following me and flirting, and at least three cars stopped!
I am REALLY upset about it, not just showing off, the thing no one seems to understand! I do not want this at all, I'd one sweet man, not all this.
2007-05-12 23:06:31 · update #2
oh my god people give this woman a chance ... i know what you are going through ,,, CZ this happens to me all the time and it makes me crazy , it really dose ... men !!! do not worry be proud ,,, walk with you head high ,,,, respect your self and take care of your self ,,,, if you know what i mean
2007-05-12 23:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by pochicat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant catch a shark in a fish pond, Its likely the way you hold yourself, due to years of mental programming and listenting to what guys say about you. Its possible that the way you dress and your body language is saying, hey im on the rebound crack on me.
Your going to need to change that image, and its not easy to change the tracts of behaviorism but I think you have enough motervators to do it. I dont know exactly the best method to do it properly but you need to find out how.
I guess a good start would be stop letting your past effect you, pretend you are someone who was born anew with no burdens in the past to hold you down. Because essentually you are, dont let your past define you, restart it.
I hope this has helped, now if you excuse me im going to take my own advice :P
2007-05-13 06:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with all these men chasing after you have you ever taken the time to talk to them? or at least given them a chance to talk to you? The way your making it sound like is that your in MAN town and your the only woman there.
Don't get me wrong you might be what you say you are, but you don't give any men any credit. some might be authentic some might not be. your just quick to judge that they must be hitting on you to get in you.
One of these days when one of these men that are chasing after you, if you think he is cute. talk to the guy see what he's about. If its just to get you in bed, then screw it. then your a perfect example why it makes it hard for us other guys to actually talk to a woman.
2007-05-13 06:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not how they treat you its what you allow them to do. Men can tell by you demeanor what type of person you are and by the way you carry yourself. If you come off to them as slutty or loose they will treat you without resect. If you walk with you head held high and as if you demand respect from all who interact with you thats how you'll be treated. Don't allow just any type of man to speak to you, you can tell what type of man they are from afar. Also your clothes are a large part of your image and the way you walk (all part of how you carry yourself). If you wear provocative clothing all the time then what can u expect. You can still be cute and sexy and be sophisticated as well. Good Luck :)
2007-05-13 06:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by stormfire_06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are likely very attractive.
Guys are visual creatures. We go after attractive women, it's just how we are.
Try this: is there a guy you've known for a while who hasn't hit on you? But he still is happy to talk with you and seems interested? Maybe give him a chance to take you out.
2007-05-13 05:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're probably really, really hot and don't know it. you should post a pic.
anyhow, just be very firm and say no. if they keep it up. swear at them loudly and yell. this will get almost any guy to go away.
2007-05-13 06:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by a b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom always told me, you dress unappropriate, you attract unappropriate.
2007-05-13 05:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have amnesia and forget to dress at all and/or you go out in your knickers and bra
2007-05-13 06:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let them.
2007-05-13 05:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unbelievable.
2007-05-13 06:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by hizbizbiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋