My girlfriend of 3 years has been very faithful and would never cheat on me, but since we got an apartment together shes been talking to more random guys online. The first two years we were inseparable, but she did have alot of guy friends that she talked to who had a thing for her, but she was unable to realize it until i pointed it out. It never bothered me because i knew she was faithful, but i just didnt trust the guys she talked to, plus she thinks that people she has only known for a couple of weeks are true friends. Anyways, since we have gotten an aprtment together, she is talking to randoms guys online more and talking to guys she used to date and guys that had a crush on her. Why does she feel the need to talk to other guys when im there for her and have been there for her even when her friends werent. Plus, we were inseparable and best friends until she moved out of her parents and started living on her own where she can do what she wants, but she just likes to chat online.
2007-05-12 21:02:00 · 19 answers · asked by jasonolivo2181 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
any girls in the dallas area willing to go out with me as friends to see if she gets jealous and sees why it bothers me? email me if interested
2007-05-12 21:52:54 · update #1
From my point of view, I have many male friends. I feel more comfortable having male friends than I do female friends. Your chick seems to be a trusting girl, that's probably why she thinks that these people are her friends after a couple weeks. The best thing to do, is let her know how you feel, give her a little warning about how dangerous online chats can be, but you got to believe that she'll stand by you and only you. It makes no sense to be in a relationship with someone and all you can think about is, will she cheat on me? You need peace man, you can not live your life like that.
2007-05-12 21:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on whether they were open about it or not. And generally, where there is smoke, there is fire. My partner talked to women online, until I put a stop to it. He told me that there was nothing in it until I found history of conversations where he is telling other women that he thought they were beautiful. I don't think that someone in a relationship needs to be talking to the opposite sex online. After all, that is what their partners are for. But on the flipside, your gf has been honest with you, so maybe you should trust her. And if you can't, then go with your gut, but beware, when you go looking for secrets and lies, you more often than not will find them.
2007-05-12 21:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should take her out more often. i never call a friend a true friend in a couple of weeks. it is too soon. you should be her confidant. 3 years time is enough for that. and also be her mentor. give advice about some of the guys and their true intentions without mentioning his friends. if you screw about this the problem gets bigger. to sum up remind her that you are going to be there for her whatsoever it takes and till the end. about trust, you have to. if you don't, what kind of a relationship is it? you are the one who has known her for 3 years.
2007-05-12 21:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Izzet M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont like my bf talking to girls online cos im too jealous lol but i talk to my male friends online and never thinking about flirting them cos i love my bf.maybe ur gf is just chatting to the guys that had crush on her to feel that there r other guys find her attractive.3 years is a long time.so maybe she needs to feel she can still attract guys.as she loves u and never thinks of cheating on u...she may have chosen this way...talking on net...
2007-05-12 21:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first it is a trust thing then if the trust is gone what is left? but once you live with someone it changes,trust me i know this for a fact!but if you love & trust her the talk to her about it then if she gets real bent out of shape & defense goes up then you know something is wrong.but let her know that you love,care,& most of all trust her but not the other guys!take it from there to see what happens.if she loves you & respects you she will understand.I know from my own things going on from this thing you are going through.
2007-05-12 21:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any good lady who's had intercourse with a guy could by no skill communicate approximately that stuff understanding that the guy is now married with a toddler. it quite is undesirable and if he had any balls he'd tell them to not communicate approximately it. (it quite is my husband's enter). From my perspective, i don't think of you're incorrect for analyzing that stuff, you for sure have solid reason to not have faith him. think of roughly what you're and are not happy with, then take a seat and discuss with him.
2017-01-09 18:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by porro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the problem in that ? Why you want her to be exclusive to you. She's a free soul, if she likes to chat online, let her fulfill her heart's desire.
You find a hobby or develop a similar interest for yourself so that you can do something for the time when she's busy on internet. Open up
2007-05-12 21:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely, I would trust them till they gave me reason not to. You have to trust the person you are in a relationship with, otherwise you are both wasting your time.
Ok, trying to make her jealous? Ugh, why do you want to play games? It will only make it worse, trying to make someone jealous never fixes anything, if anything it only compounds the problem. Then she will not trust you.
2007-05-12 21:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dude this is a sign that you are giving her what she needs and that is attention it appears. You know men..men will screw anything. It might not be her intention but it sure is their intention. I would tell her how you feel and ask her to stop. If she doesn't set sail and find someone that appreciates only you.
2007-05-12 21:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by Frank J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you've been together for three years man. relax. if your girl really does love you and is as faithful as you say, you've got nothing to worry about. and i wouldn't worry about her becoming less attached either. thats just a natural stage relationships progress to. its not that she loves you any less, it's just that shes sure enough that your going to stick around and be faithful, which means she doesn't have to be as clingy anymore.
2007-05-12 21:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by nyxavenger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋