what to do , then he comes in late he turns his phone off or wont answer and i have no idea what hes been doing. he tells me before he leaves and he doesnt go out every night , only once a week but when he does he screws with my head.
2007-05-12 19:26:55 · 8 answers · asked by linseynicoleharmon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And you want to marry him?
2007-05-12 19:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned and would want to get this resolved before taking the next step. Certainly in a healthy relationship each should be entitled to some time for themselves to hang with friends or do things that they like to do. But a healthy relationship needs to be based on trust and it sounds that you may be lacking that, and probably with good reason. If he is going out with friends than he should be able to tell you that. I wouldn't be so much concerned with the fact that he comes home later than expected but what it is he is doing. If he will not tell you what he is doing then there is a reason why, and its probably not good. You need to speak with him and tell him that you want him to be able to do things that he wants to do sometimes and if he is coming home late that in itself is fine but it would make you feel better if you atleast knew what he is doing. If he is doing something he doesn't want you to know then expect him to lie about it.
2007-05-12 19:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by CountyMounty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to marry this man? He's being secretive and it could be dangerous for you? Who knows what he is doing? I don't know if you are the clingy type and he turns it off because you call all the time and he just wants to relax. However, if it bother you and you still want to be with him, why don't you go out on that night too. If it bothers him as much as it bothers you then maybe you can negotiate.
2007-05-12 19:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by REGINA J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give too much detail. Many people come home late, but late from where? How late? Of all the things you said, the fact that he shuts his mobile when coming home is not a good sign.
2007-05-12 19:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by amorson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. One aspect of marriage is trust. If he can't work things out with you and communicate on a basic level, are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him? If he can't be honest with you now, then there are some issues there that will get worse over time.
2007-05-12 19:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously girl, you need to rethink this engagement thing. He is totally disrespecting you. No matter what his excuses are, and I'm sure he has a million of them, point blank, he is disrespecting you and your trust. Sit down with him, tell him that you don't like it, and ask why he refuses to be a man that you can count on.
2007-05-12 19:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sweat it if you start to over worry relationships can get ruined u need to trust your fionce and if he is belive me ud find it its easier to find out when ur not going crazy over it
2007-05-12 19:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by scarface_187_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
another dumb shackup
2007-05-12 19:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋