Ok So I have been in a completely monagamous relationship for three years. We're engaged. About two years ago I met my boyfriends roomie. He was nice and funny and he liked me but nothing happened.
On Sunday I called my bf's roomate who now has a gf for a few months to tell him I have a crush on him(told my boyfriend and he told me to go for it).
We talked and I asked the roomate to reject me so I could get over the what if feeling, he laughed it off and said we should talk later(we talked an hour before about everything but the crush and him not being able to make a woman happy and to break up with my bf, he called me pretty etc).
He is an ARIES man and I am a Libra. Why hasn't he called me yet? Why didn't he reject me? I also sent him an email telling him why I think he's a good person. Can someone help me out? I am really confused.
He went today to his gf's house like he does every weekend is this a rejection? Why didn't he just reject me on the phone?
2007-05-12 19:14:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he does like me NOTHING would happen until we're both available. I would never codone or be the other woman
2007-05-12 19:15:27 · update #1
What in the world are you thinking? What in the world are you doing?? What in the world do you want???
Please read and reread your question. There is so much wrong with this picture.
First of all, get it out of your mind that because you are not having sex with him that you're being monogamous and not willing to be "the other woman"! Your fiance says "go for it"? You chase the roommate down to say "I have a crush on you, so reject me so that I can behave better? And by the way, reject me on my terms, or I'll refuse to recognize it."
I'm sorry, hon, you really are confused, and I don't see any way out of it for you, unless you accept some professional therapy/guidance to develop a stronger sense of SELF.
Good luck....
2007-05-12 19:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 'sign' has nothing to do with the guy keeping a promise to his current girlfriend. He is in a relationship right now, so for to say that nothing would happen until you are both available..well, it isn't true. Something already did happen...you hit on him. That you said you and your current bf are engaged...umm...you're not available either...so you hit on the roommate while engaged. Can you see where I am going with this?
You need to break off both these relationships and find the time to clear your own mind and heart. Right now, you seem ruled by your heart alone, and nobody gets to have their cake and eat it too. One or the other, and either way, it is a risk (as any relationship is).
He went to his girlfriends because he's IN A RELATIONSHIP right now. He didn't say anything over the phone because you just confused the heck outta him. You have now hurt your 'fiance' and might now have hurt an innocent person in the whole thing...the roomies girlfriend. You really need to take a long, hard look at yourself, and start thinking of others feelings, not just your own.
So, there's your help. It's up to you to decide whether to take it or not.
2007-05-13 02:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it strange that with all this going on you're engaged. That's a rather big commitment to be having feeling for another man. More important then his rejection is the presence of your feelings, and you need to realize this. Do you really want to be with the man you are? Do you really want to marry him? Or do you just think you do, because if you are having feelings for another man, even if it's just a crush, it's likely you're unsatisfied for some reason or another. That's the biggest signal, otherwise if you where you wouldn't have these feelings. Take some time for yourself and meditate, you don't need his rejection or acceptance to figure out what to do next you just need to really search your heart.
2007-05-13 02:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want someone who has a girlfriend. If he knows you like him, and he really likes you, he wouldn't be going to her on the weekends, he would be coming to see you. You should reject him. There are plenty of guys without girlfriends and better looking than him! Smarter and have more money.
2007-05-13 02:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A. He likes you, and you've put him in incredibly awkward position.
B. He doesn't like you, but he doesn't want to reject you.
"He is an ARIES man and I am a Libra. "
Yeah, so?
2007-05-13 02:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by sonreir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just an extremely weird thing you and your man going. Your man is telling you to go with his roomy, extremely interesting...He must Love you Alot to say that.
2007-05-13 02:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by its_keeps_getting_better 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could be that he's being the bigger man in this situation. Why should he step out with his roommate's (friend?) girlfriend?
Sandy
2007-05-13 02:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to be nice to you and wants to keep you as a FRIEND
2007-05-13 02:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Rawbert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are messed up. Your boyfriend told you to go for it? The guy you have a crush on has a girlfriend? WTF?
2007-05-13 02:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both you & Ur bf are weird..
2007-05-13 02:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by mariah 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋