Whats wrong with me?

Question

OK, here is the problem...

I used to love my best friend but thats all changed now. She likes me for who I am and I loved her for who she was. Now that im not crushing on her 24/7 I find myself looking at other girls.

I think im a resionably attractive guy and im pritty easy going. I do have a scarcastic side that can be killer but I think that people take life incredibly too seriously so I just try to make fun of life and have a good time with it. I smoke and I drink (not heavy) Im 420 friendly for special occasions but not often at all.

All I want in a girl is not a cow but not a stick, I like girls with a bit of meat on em, I want a girl with a mind, I dont want some dumb blonde. Just someone that I can hold a conversation with and someone that loves me for me but I cant seem to find anyone thats even interested in me weither they fit the criteria or not. Am I ugly? am I asking too much? I just dont understand, any ideas ppl?

PIC OF ME:
www.myspace.com/glimdoom

Im 6'-5" tall aprox 290lbs but hold it well blonde hair blue eyes and a decent body type...Is that something that could be a factor in why girls dont like me?

oh, and Ill be 21 next month

Answer 1

I read a study on mate selection a couple years ago. Apparently, the first thing men look at in women is their waist-to-hip ratio (small waist, larger hips). Women didn't show such a dramatic preference about any one characteristic---but one characteristic that did make women significantly more likely to select a guy was his height. And you've got that workin' for you.

So, do I think you're being to picky? There is a saying--"Those who wish for nothing but the best very often get it." In other words, if you are picky, you are likely to get either no girl at all..........or a very cool girl. I'm a picky person myself. Yup, there are risks to being picky (people like you and I have to get used to being alone!) but I would not want to end up being with someone average and wondering who else I could have found. That reminds me of another saying. I've never heard of anyone saying, "Gee, I'm so glad I wasn't so picky!"

P.S.-->No, you're not ugly and you're not asking too much. I do have one suggestion though--rather than looking for the typoe of chica you want, focus on being the kind of guy *she'd* want, even if it means doing some work....and even if you don't even like any girl you know, because you never know who you'll meet. (Higher grades, weight lifting, volunteering, etc.) Even so, I've been to your MySpace page and I don't see any reason why you should not be able to earn a cool girl as you are. So take it easy! I think everyone questions their own adequecy at some point, though.........

Answer 2

you asked an honest question, I hope you can take an honest answer. Women hate it when men think something is wrong with them. When a guy feels horrible about himself and has no confidence it shows. it's kind of an unseen radar. You need to like yourself before anybody else can.

Your height is a bonus, most women like men tall. But you are a bit heavy set. You LOOK like a guy I would refer to as a teddy bear, you cuddle with a teddy bear, you cry on his shoulder and be his best friend, but women don't usually fall in love with the teddy bear. The hair is a total turn off, unless you are in the marines, the majority of women like all or nothing, shaved or at least enough to run their fingers through, or pull on during sex depending on the woman.

Aside from looks, do you have a decent job? A decent car? Home or Apt? even non superficial women don't want to date a slacker they are gonna have to support. And alot of women don't like smokers but if you find a smoker than it's all good.

Hope this helps, good luck out there... it sucks

Answer 3

Hun all I can say is "Love takes Time" and thats real. Sometimes a new pal or hang out friend can be the start of something great. Casually dating could be helpful to more indepthly identify more specifics in your "dream girl." Believe me shes out there. Sometimes it's best not to look for love because it'll honestly find you. For now just do positive things for yourself to better you. Dont push so hard for love cause then you might end up with a disaster. It has to flow naturally. Everybody is attractive to somebody so dont feel it's you--yet if you think better grooming or a new look is in order then get a new hair cut or buy an outfit that might be out of your norm. But always be you!, gl.

Answer 4

U r ok. But a bit on the heavy side. U could shed some weight to great advantage. U may also find that after u have shed weight, u r mor attractive to girls - u can afford to raise, not lower- the bar. Good luck.

Answer 5

Asking for too much? Not at all. Sounds like the type of girl most guys want.

As for the picture, not at all. You'll find the right someone eventually as over used as it sounds. Try going to places you enjoy where a female who shares the same interests would. Maybe good online dating programs? Best wishes to you.

(Now as for your background on your myspace...what is that? xD hehe)

Answer 6

I wouldnt worry so much about what you look like. The best, and the realest girls will like or dislike you because of your personality. If you're really 6'5', believe me, you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 7

you you you and you will be ok if you allow yourself to be you and others will like you.chill out dude kick the weed dude its the cost not the law you know that

Answer 8

Congratulations, you are just the guy I have been looking for. Only, how old did you say you were?

Answer 9

you crazy to think people would really read that quest. its too long to read dude. I didn't read it but theres nothing wrong with your a guy you will always look to other gals.

Answer 10

you're a nice looking guy...you just haven't met the right girl...keep trying., she's out there..i don't see why you should be having trouble.