after a while....sometimes its hard to date the people u are genuinely attracted to....many advise you to "look outside the box"
when u did this...did u regret it? how can u like someone ur not attracted to??? HELP ME!
2007-05-12 18:55:33 · 9 answers · asked by A Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no....but after a while u question urself when the ones u like dont speak to you
2007-05-12 19:00:57 · update #1
You can't force yourself to like someone....either you are attracted to them or you arent, plain and simple.
Just start talking to people outside of "your type" and maybe you will find someone who you like. I mean, you can be attracted to someone on so many levels. Good luck!
2007-05-12 19:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 4 years ago, I was surprised to find myself attracted to a different kind of guy. He was super-tall, super-skinny, with thick grey glasses, a permanent 5 o' clock shadow, and short dark hair. He wasn't the slightly effeminite pretty-boy I usually go for, but I could not deny that I was attracted to him. Very attracted. Sadly, he turned me down. But if I had gotten closer to him, I don't think my attraction would have faded.
Years later, I met a guy I thought was OK--but not nearly as much my type as other guys I'd met. He was 2 years younger, had curly hair, and was covered in acne. But he liked animals and was funny. Although I wasn't deeply interested, I decided to give him a chance because he seemed cool. I figured I was being shallow and that eventually I might start liking him more. MISTAKE! I never became genuinely attracted to him, although I tried. I didn't mind the acne too much until I learned was not caused by hormones or things outside his control. It was because he went days without bathing and never washed his face. But what bothered me more was that his personality was not as good as I thought. He was clingy, jealous, and insecure. Dumping him was one of the best favors I ever did for myself.
My advice? If you meet someone that you are already wildly attracted to--even if he's outside the box--why not date him? But I advise against dating guys that just seem "OK", hoping that you'll like him more later on. Follow your gut.
2007-05-13 03:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by YearoftheRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it. You just have to be careful. I tried it a few years ago. Dating guys who were "ugly but nice" because I decided that all the hot guys I was dating were jerks. It ended up that I couldn't even look them in the face, so that experiment was over hahaha. I know that sounds terrible, but you have to be attracted to someone to date them. Last year though, I met a guy who was not my type at all. I usually date the preppier looking abercrombie-ish guys, but this guy was balding with glasses. We worked together and I really Grew to love his personality. We are now engaged to be married in August and I couldn't be happier! I figured that I couldn't "type" the man of my dreams. You just have to be open.
2007-05-13 02:05:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do not settle and do not lower your standards. Date someone you are attracted to but also look for the qualities that you require out of your men. I did date someone that was not that attractive but he was an awesome guy but that is what i saw first so it all depends but don't look at it as a regret look at it as a stepping stone in life.
2007-05-13 02:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to date only taller, older guys. Then I met this guy who was shorter and 2 years younger than me. He always made me laugh, and had a great personality. So, I decided to give him a chance. Now we have been married for 3 years and have 2 little boys. So, I would say, no I haven't regretted anything about my decision.
2007-05-13 02:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Katie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can be eye-opening, allowing you to realize your tastes were indeed much broader.
Sometimes it´s plainly a waste of time.
I think that if you both share the basic most important stuff (attitudes towards life, relationships, money) then the date can at least develop into a very nice friendship.
2007-05-13 02:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by vachavc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be frank..
I really did'nt find my bf attractive at all
at first but as you seem to get to know a person
they become beautiful in all aspects. So someone
who is'nt usually your type can turn out
to be the perfect one for you.. Its strange but true
:D
2007-05-13 02:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by mariah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you always listen to other people? Make up your own mind.
2007-05-13 01:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no,is my answer and sticking to it. what do you think we become desperate or something. im sure some people do not moi.
2007-05-13 02:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋