Well... my father and I aren't that close... I guess as time went on we stopped talking to each other. I only say a few words to him somedays and then just go back to what I'm doing. When I was small I always love to see my dad smile or laugh at movies or something. He would always bring me up to bed when I fell asleep on the couch and would hug me sometimes. I guess I miss those times, but it feels awkward talking to him again and I just stare at something else. Most of the times I would get in arguements with him and just yell at him. After that I would just run up into my room and slam the door. I often cry at those times...what should I do?
2007-05-12 18:38:19 · 14 answers · asked by Mimi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, just try to talk to him a little more. If you feel that you have made some serious mistakes with him, then apologize. You should have a good relationship with your dad. You should also respect him and try not to be rude to him. Don't scream at him loudly when arguing - it's very rude. Try to see if you could go someplace together, like maybe a themepark or something fun like a movie. Or maybe fishing or playing ball. Whatever it is that you both can enjoy.
2007-05-12 18:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Adel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you are a teenager. Sometimes that happens when teenagers and parents clash. Try calming down and just listening to what your dad has to say. You can then explain calmly what is bothering your or your side. I have a teenage son and daughter and man sometimes then can just turn from being the sweet loving innocent (especially my daughter) to someone I just don't know. Your dad loves you and just wants the best from you. Short of him abusing you he is probably just wanting to protect you from "growing " up. But don't worry just try to listen to each other. Perhaps you could ask him for his advice. Maybe start with "Dad when you first started driving were you scared?" for example. Get him talking it will take some time but it will work. I did not speak to my parents after I left my house for almost 15 years. Now I am trying to build a relationship. It is most difficult. So keep on trying.
2007-05-13 01:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, this may be temporary. Both you and he may have things going on that distract you right now. If you miss him and the old feelings, just tell him. He might not want to make a big deal out of it, so start light without making it very big, but just let him know. See how he reacts. If good, stay open and see what's next.
You don't say your age, but if you are a teenager, this is normal and will probably pass.
Good luck with this. I think better times are coming.
2007-05-13 01:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be in an awkward stage with your relationship with your father. Perhaps your father thought that you are already a grown-up (im not sure of your age) and that you might feel embarrassed if he still shows any affection to you. Try to slowly get his attention. Show him that you are interested in him and make him interested in your life also. Share to him your day's happenings. Tell him about your crushes. Ask him out for dinner. Play sports with him. Watch TV with him. Do things with him and i am sure that he will slowly open up to you.
2007-05-13 02:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by piglet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my dad when I was very young, I would very much like to have him around to argue with. You should cherish every moment that you have him here with you. Things between dad's and teenagers are tough sometimes because you are growing independent and making mistakes and he would like to keep you from those mistakes that he already made when he was young, but you can't grasp that, because you are too young yet. You want to make your own mistakes. We all say I wish I had listened to my parents when I was young! But none of us do listen enough. A wise person takes council from his parents.
2007-05-13 01:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your dad is a dad and i bet you that he's set in his ways!! So you could try talking to him...if not you're just going to have to leave good enough alone and pray that the next life is better...
2007-05-13 01:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just say hi, start talking say u want to get to kno each other again, tell him how u feel, i was in ur postion a few years ago, my dad are close again.....good luck my man, hope everything works out for!!!
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2007-05-13 01:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by AirsoftDude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weird. you should give him a break maybe he doesnt know how to deal with a kid, he only knows how to nurture a baby. try to have a good talk or ask him to take you somewhere cool like a batting cage or something.
2007-05-13 01:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by CATWOMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase, don't worry about it. Sounds like he's the type of man that will be around for you when you are ready.
2007-05-13 01:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by onkojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you watch a movie with him, and during commercail...say DAD ...I Love you!......don't say another word make sure he sees your eyes, an continue to go back to watching TV, i think what happens next well you willl be plensently surprized!, good luck God Bless
2007-05-13 01:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋