how often would you say a lad of 13 needs to see his dad?

Question

the lad lives with his mum as the parents relationship broke down soon after the mum gave birth. The sees his dad mother every weekend without fail so doesn't usually see his mum at weekends. His dad sees the lad every sunday. Just wondered what other peoples opinions on this were?

Answer 1

At that age he should be seeing him every day. He needs a mans hand and guideance. Women are soft and a boy that age cant learn how to be a man from a woman.

Answer 2

That age a lot...need a male role model and hero...to be a bloke to look up to and teach him to be one of the boys and what real respect is about defeding others and being the hero not the bully.


Plus how to pick up chicks, burp, how much fun it is boob watching, getting into trouble of the lets not tell mum she'll kill us both variety


Gang members make a good replacement... something to note.

Also needs , really needs the fighing lessons and bird pulling lessons or ends up bullied and very lonley.

Does not to be an biological dad but a dad figure

Answer 3

that's such a difficult age and also one where a boy is looking for his peer group, who he should model himself on. I'd say the father should see him during the week, regularly, as this is such a changing time for the boy. In the absence of his father, the boy will look to other gangs of boys upon which to model is behaviour and the father's influence will be minimal.
I think a teenager boy should be seeing his dad on most days - there's probably stuff he wants to talk about and also a good dad will spot the little changes that are taking place in his son and can keep him on the straight and narrow quickly.

Answer 4

Man, a boy that age needs to see his Dad a lot, believe me. My Dad was away all the time (he was in the Navy) and there were times when i was really needing a father figure behind me. Although sometimes just knowing that an older Male has your back is good to know, so maybe everyone is different. In my case though, i needed a father, no one else...

Answer 5

i have a 12 year old, he lives with me, he sees his dad every wednesday for tea, also either a tues or thurs each week, depending on the shifts my new hubby works, as we go out once a week, he also goes to dad's friday night through to sunday morning, it's what the lad is happy with, that's what's important

Answer 6

At age 13 the lad is old enough to make this decision on his own. I would suggest talking to him and seeing how often he want's to see pop.

Answer 7

It would be best if he saw his father everyday. The same sex parent is the most influential relationship in a childs life. But this isnt always practical, so seeing his father as often as possible and spending quality time toghether is what really matters.

Answer 8

In the situation that you have discribed, I am very proud of both of yur childs parents. They have worked very well.
You have the best situation possible in the parameters that were offered to you, Fellow Dad.
Does that help?

Answer 9

As often as possible. Teenagers need a lot of guidance and love from all the adults in their lives.

Answer 10

everyday- unfortunately i know from experience that isnt always possible. just the way life is, there is alot of acceptance in divorce- and im not talking about the parents. but its obvious- you can never spend too much time with your children. just wish my father had seen it that way!!