Ok, So I'm getting a gift for my mom, but what about my wife? Last year she got mad at me cause I didn't get her anything. Well duh, she isn't my mother. She said "but I'm somebody's mother." Ya, so I gotta get a present for every mother I know now? Cmon. She didn't get me anything on fathers day so I say this is bull. This year I'll get her a card, but I'm going to sign it from our son. I'm not getting her anything directly from me, or should I? Opinions please.
2007-05-12 17:14:54 · 11 answers · asked by Nick C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She may not be your mother, but she is the mother of your child. It makes her feel special realizing that her husband and her son care enough about her on Mother's Day to get her something. You could always talk to her about getting you something on Father's Day.
2007-05-12 17:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kagome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she wants something from you for Mother's Day, go ahead and get her something. Tell her you've thought it over, and it's a nice idea for husband and wife to get something for each other on Mother's Day and Father's Day, but you just hadn't thought of it before because your parents didn't do that. But it's true, she's the mother of your son, and you're the father of her son.
I'm not advising this because it's "right;" there is no real right or wrong here. It's just that you and your wife should treat each other with love and kindness and romance. To tell the truth, I remember that my dad bought my mom a Mother's Day present and she was surprized; she appreciated it though.
[I recently heard of a study that said that men are hard-wired to resist doing what women request; but this often makes women feel bad. For instance, I knew one woman who wanted her boyfriend to give her an Easter basket for Easter. The men in her life always gave her something for Easter, but never the Easter basket she asked for. On the other hand, women friends that knew she wanted an Easter basket would get her one. Funny, huh? So, once in a while, just get her what she asks for; you'll get more sex.]
2007-05-13 00:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get upset with my husband because he believed the same thing. He would buy a card for our daughter to me -but for some reason I wanted him to recognize me as "mother". I did understand his philosophy about not being 'his' mother. But when you think about it - look at the racks and racks of cards - they have mothers' day cards for 'fathers'....men who mother AND father their children. Cards for step-moms and cards for 'mothers' who are not mothers. So, the idea you have presented in its own right is fair - but it would not hurt to give your wife a "mothers' day card from you - offering the encouragement that she is a good mother to your son. That's all she wants - and if you wanted a 'Father's Day" surprise you should say something too. Whatever you do - keep the peace in your family. Don't squabble over a 50 cent card.
2007-05-13 00:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't get her a present last year? I'd be just as upset as she was.
She is the mother of your child, and that should count.
well, DUH!
And why should she get you something for Father's Day if she didn't get something from you on Mother's day?
Stop being so cheap & petty. Get her a gift from you. Let her know that you love her, and that you appreciate all the mothering she does for your child.
2007-05-13 00:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your wife know that the founder of Mothers day. Truly dispised the comercialization of the holiday that she started. So much so that she became obsessed and died pennyless trying to stop it. I had read somewhere that as she laid on her death bed thousands of mothers day cards would come to her room thanking her for starting it. Some one once asked what she regreted..."starting mothers day" she replied.
So to the wife. its not about getting something its about being appreciated. with a simple Note or special touch or extra hug.
2007-05-13 00:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the mother of your child at least get her boquet of flowers. Its the thought that counts it doesnt have to be anything fancy. Just something to show that you appreciate her being a good mother to your son.
2007-05-13 00:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is the mother to your child! all she wants is for you to recongnize that she is the mother. all mothers should be respected on that day. they do a lot for us, and can you imagine what it would be like if you didn't have her? i can't even IMAGINE what i would do if i didn't have my mom helping me along the way. just get her a card. don't argue over a one-day thing that will just make her happy.
2007-05-13 00:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your wife something fro mothers day because she is the mother of your child or a child
2007-05-13 00:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by lcox65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wierd she got mad. You are right, she is not your mom, hence she does not get a gift. Your son gives her a gift, and you give your mom a gift.
2007-05-13 01:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by And For A Moment I Am Happy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her something anyway! The girls should always get what they want! I know it sounds greedy but it's true
2007-05-13 00:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋