Single and depressed?

Question

I am 34. I have never had a girlfriend. I am still a virgin. I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck and bald. I have no self-esteem and no confidence. But I don't want to feel like this. I want to feel good about myself. I want to be happy. I want to fall in love, get married, have kids and raise a family. I really want to try to stay positive, but then I get depressed about my looks and I feel there is no hope and feel like a loser. I need to do something about this. Otherwise, I will be sad and alone for the rest of my life, and I don't want that.

Answer 1

Alright, this is no way to be. I can garentee you someone is out there looking for you! So what youve never had a girlfriend, big deal, the girls that dont want you dont understand you. First thing you need to do is to become active, not as in physically but as in socially. Try a volunteer organization OR in my city i know there is a dating program called "Its Just Lunch". Try one of the dating things in your city, and make sure it is working professionals and positive people!

Not only will this help you socially, it will help your self esteem to be active with other individuals having the same problems you are having. AND DONT BE DEPRESSED about being a virgin.....why are you depressed about that, you should be happy. Some lucky girl is going to get married to you and you get to know that you were worth waiting for. Sex is not meant for out of wedlock, not only because its viewed as bad, but because people who have sex are or eventually become parents.

Do NOT get depressed about your looks, they dont matter in the long view.Looks dont matter if you really love that person. My boyfriend has glasses, braces, and acne, more then he should, and it doesnt bother me. I see him for the real human being he is and the size of his heart. AND your not a loser....I dont know you but you are seriously prolly a big sweetheart.

there is someone out there for you, i promise! So try to smile an know that ok?

Answer 2

I find it very hard to believe that at age 34 you have never had a girlfriend, but so be it. There is still time. First you have to work on your confidence and self esteem - if you don't think you look good - how do you think other people are looking at you? Where you feel that there is lack - fill it up with something else. Dress nice. Wear nice cologne - be open and walk differently. Looks are not everything, but it is the man or woman who knows how to carry the 'whole package' that gets the prize. I have dated short men, bald men, men with some missing teeth, men who wore pants too short, men with big feet, but they all knew how to be poised, they were funny, and had wonderful personalities. Slowly but surely, they allowed me to help them. The guy got his teeth fixed, the guy who was bald - just held out for a couple years and 'bald' became the big thing. Women were falling all over him because of his bald head. He put a small earring in his ear and kept a nice trim beard and mustash. You have to change your 'thinking' first because you are pushing people away I am sure with your lack of confidence. Get busy and gather some friends and hang out with mixed groups - go to dinners, movies, etc; mingle. I guarantee you there is someone out there for you. Join a dance studio - learn to do the Salsa! Get involved with community projects - (do you attend church? There are always women in church without a man) And when in doubt - if all else fails - get you a blind woman....(just kidding - but ease up on yourself and change your moniker - you are NOT a loser!)

Answer 3

Well if you really want to do something about than do it, i personally think that there is someone for everybody u just need the chance to meet that someone and i would suggest putting yourself on the Internet, its easy and u can meet a lot of people that are out of your usual realm and your usual place of meeting someone, i personally have heard a lot and i mean a lot of success stories, but i feel like people who struggle with self esteem sometimes will never get over it unless they fix what they don't like about themselves, there is plastic surgery that could fix your nose, or anything else insert some fat into skinny area. a lot of doctors do pro bono work if you cant afford it, anyway if it interests u than u should really look into it, just remember to love your self and be positive, you'll meet the right girl soon, and than u can have all the wishes and dreams u are waiting for, good luck,

Answer 4

The girl is waiting for you to make the 1st move so you better hurry up. You need to watch the Tyra show because they had an episode on there where you could play up your features. For instance you said you have a big nose right so Its a way you could put some makeup on it thats dark in either corner of it. For the skinny face and bald head you could go to one of those clinics where they grow hair or wear a toupee. I hope that helps. Another thing watch the 40 yr. Virgin that was funny and educational.

Answer 5

There are several answers for you. Take a cooking class or a class in ballroom dancing. You will be surrounded by women. Volunteer for Habitat for the Homeless or some other charity. You will see that there are others much worse off than yourself and you will make worthwhile friends.
And finally, think about plastic surgery for your nose. Many women find bald men sexy so that's no big deal. Go to a high class men's clothing store like Bloomingdale's and have a trained salesperson dress you in flattering clothes. It will be worth the investment.
There are many men who look much worse than you who have no problem meeting women: Danny De Vito, Bill O' Reilly, the bald guy on Amercan Idol, etc. It's a matter of self confidence. And look for a quality woman who is not super model material. You can do it.

Answer 6

happiness is a state of mind. the thing with happiness is that you need to love yourself first before other people can love you. if other people sees you that you are full of happiness and love, they would want to be with you.

looks is the easy part. go get plastic surgery, change your looks - fast. then hit the gym, get a better body. in less than 1-2 years, you can have a new look.

regarding confidence, it can be learned through experience. if you like it fast attend a modelling class/ self improvement class - that can teach you a thing or two on how to act publicly.

the married life isn't for everybody. some people are happy even without a partner. but you need to have friends and family.

Answer 7

You need help buddy. An astrologer can tell you next time to look for love but you need to send me your time and place of birth to my email and If your time of birth is accurate, then I can tell you when love will come into your life. Just one free reading. If your birthdate is true, then love will enter your life at the specific time the Universe allows it. Not everybody is born with the same Karma. I say don't waste your time looking if now is not the time to be looking. For example: You may not be scheduled to fall in love right now until you are 35. Only the stars will tell from an astrology reading using birthdate and time of birth. You may have it harder than others but that's good because you can channel the energy to work on improving yourself and then you will meet the right girl who will love you. Also, you could look for girls in other countries that will move here and treat you like a king.

Answer 8

I have had several girlfriend's in my life, but I have ended up bitter and resent full, after most of them. I often think I would be happier alone. My current girlfriend doesn't live with me because we argue all the time if she does. I don't even want to see her sometimes. I have no kids, and am happy about that, not that I don't like them, or wouldn't have liked to have had some, I'm just glad because their Mother and I obviously wouldn't be together today. I look ok, I guess, but there is so much more to a relationship than how someone looks. My girlfriends have been all different types of looks and features, But If They are upsetting to me, I don't want to have sex with them anyway. I want to be Happy, too, So I spend time alone fishing, and in my boat or riding my motorcycle. I have never had a woman who I felt "had my back". Rather they ***** and lie about me to their Friends, have affairs behind my back, steal from me, etc, etc, etc. So its a funny world, my Friend. can anyone ever really be happy? If you think your looks are holding you back, find a nice blind girl. I'm not trying to be crass, but How you look really bothers you more than it would someone who cares about you. There are good women out there, and part of my bad experiences are my fault, too, I'm sure. we are all messed up, and it's never easy. Good luck to you, I hope you find happiness.

Answer 9

So you developed a depressing personality because of your looks. Girls aren't as shallow as men are. If you make a girl laugh, you have a chance.

People tend to be attracted to happy people. Just be funny, optimistic, and you'll get a girlfriend.

There is someone out there for everyone you know, actually a few people. I don't believe in the one soul mate.

Also, don't be sensitive about your looks. Girls like guys who aren't overly sensitive or cautious.

[For example, I have a fat friend who I was very attracted to, and he would make jokes about his stomach. He was comfortable with himself--most important.]

Also, if you go bald, shave it all off. Guys can look hot with no hair, but it looks bad if there are patches.

Answer 10

Your forgetting that women don't judge by looks as much as they do by confidence. You may not get a perfect 10, but you can definitely find a woman that wants you. Just go out and meet as many women as possible and make female friends so you become comfortable around women... the rest will take care of itself. You will be uncomforable and scared at first, but its just like everything else.. the first time is terrifying, but every time after is easier and easier and easier.. you just have to make it happen.. good luck.