child.my bf says "I can't control what she says and john(the son) will see the truth when hes older" I think he just says that because hes afraid of her and does not want to confront her,shes REAL nasty.they both have joint custody so i would think he could take her to court or something over this but he will not.he said they(the court) will not do anything.
2007-05-12 16:56:22 · 4 answers · asked by heatherhgjbn7896 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is prob. right........ unless it starts to effect the child emotional growth, like school, becomes with drawn, etc...... of course a child therapist would be a help with this..... but the best thing to do, when the child is with you, do NOT talk about mom in any ugly way..... say things like Daddy sure love his little boy... Daddy is sooooooo proud of you...... those types of things reinforce the security of love from father to son.... make sure dad spends LOTS of time with him, games, story time, quiet MAN time...... etc....... take LOTS of pics of son and father events....... make a scrap book of them....... this also gives the child a visual of the LOVE ......... God bless
2007-05-12 17:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hurting the child. Why? Because, the child is a part of both of his parents!!!Yes, he can take her to court, it will really help if he has witnesses and possible documentation of dates and times that this has occurred. I don't know what state you reside in, however, here in WA, when a couple gets a divorce, and there is a child (or more) involved, it is mandatory that BOTH parents (separately) take a For Kids Sake seminar for a day. Please check and see if where you reside has that same program. And, if this child's parents were not married, going thru a divorce, but bf/gf at one time, please see if they can be court ordered to take this seminar (or one like it), or at least some GOOD parenting classes. Or both. Joint custody, joint responsibility-that is why I say Both should do these things. Regardless, they are both the parents of this child. And, please mention to your bf, that when I attended this seminar a few years back, there was a young lady whose parents had divorced when she was a child (before this class was mandatory). Her mom bad mouthed her father for so many years, that now as an adult, she has no contact with her mother, but does have contact with her father. So, if this mother wants a relationship with this child when he is an adult, she better knock off this bad mouthing immediately, if not soner. That can also be looked at as emotional abuse of the child. (legally-I don't know, but it is an approach this father could bring up). Plus, if this mother REALLY loves this son of hers, and I'm sure his father loves his son, they will both put their personal differences to one side in regards to this child. They will not bad mouth each other in any way within earshot of this child-EVER again.!
2016-05-17 04:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married to your bf, so this is not your business really. But he is basically right. If they have joint custody, this means he should have plenty of time with his son; hopefully half the time. So as long as he doesn't say bad things about his ex, and spends plenty of time with his son, that is probably the best he can do. If he wants full custody he can try for it, but he knows better than you do what the situation is.
2007-05-12 17:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like that need alot of help.. just remove your self from her their presence. the 7 yr old shouldn't even be there to hear them. you are not helping the child or your self just by listening to them. do more for the child..they are adults. call the abuse hotline for the child
2007-05-12 17:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋