my grown son never calls me or writes to me. i call him & send him cards but he hangs up. i email him & i never get a reply. now another mothers day will go by & we cant even spend it together.. his dad still tells him what to do.. he got married 3yrs ago & i wasnt invited but his dad was..his dad whom i divorced 6 yrs ago because he was abusive towards me & my daughter & son. my son while living with us saw how i was being abused but only crossed his hands & said nothing.. i decided to get out of that relationship. i got so tired of being his punching bag. my daughter always got hit too while growing up...he wouldn't let her have her friends over. i'd yell at him to stop it & tell him i would leave him...he would laugh &said i would be really stupid to leave him.. he made my son almost commit suicide . my son took antibodics from a cold that he had from before because my ex husband wouldnt let him go on a trip along with his friends. maybe son wants to be like dad
2007-05-12 16:30:11 · 5 answers · asked by blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think he knows what to do. I think he is wanting and needing the acceptance from his dad, but when it comes to you he may be feeling guilty for not doing anything or saying anything when the abuse was happening. Maybe he just don't know where to start. Probably why you never get any response and get silence.
2007-05-12 16:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by angiee631 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too often, without therapy, children of abusive parents become abusive themselves. It doesn't sound like you'll be able to get through to your son. The only thing you can do is let him know you love him and that you'll be there for him if he ever needs you. Then sit back and wait. It sounds like he's under the influence of his father and who knows what kind of stories he's been told. I know it's hard but sometimes you can't do anything but hope for the best. I'm sorry your son won't be there for you on Mother's Day but I hope you have a nice day.
2007-05-12 23:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel- it is not as bad for me but the problem is your son needs counseling to deal with the buried anger he has towards his fathers abuse of you himself and the rest of the family.part of him will not confront his father out of a sense of respect and part out of fear.your son loves you but does not respect you either for allowing his dad to treat you and the rest of the family like he did.he does not want to be like his dad but is afraid he will be.i dont know why you stayed there are many reasons a woman stays in a abusive marriage.you need to try and explain to your son why,then maybe he can forgive and heal.dont give up,pray about this and i wish you the best.
2007-05-12 23:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you didn't leave your ex soon enough.
But enough about you. What about me? My daughter called the police to arrest me on false charges, but the police didn't believe her and said she could go to jail for making a false report, so she recanted.
Now I don't know where she lives or what her phone # is. I send her email greetings on holidays, but she only contacts me if she wants something.
2007-05-13 00:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that your son would treat you in such a manner. I don't have any advice but I would like to tell you to have a Happy Mothers day and enjoy it with your daughter.
2007-05-12 23:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anthill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋