Should I dump my girlfriend???

Question

Ok, this has been bothering me and some help would be great. Me and my girlfriend have a really good relationship, but she has this problem with talking to people on the internet. I've gotten into her emails and found emails form random guys calling my girlfriend baby girl and stuff like that. She said she just talked to him twice, and he started getting weird, and thats when I found out about it. So I let it slide, and didn't think anything about it. Well just yesterday, I caught her on chat rooms talking to girls dirty, saying things like I'm an 18 yr bisexual female, and hitting on people. I confronted her about it, and she denied it at first. Then she fessed up to it later and said she has a problem. She said she likes to talk to people like that on the internet, but claims she would never cheat on me. I don't know if I should believe her or not. She says she loves me, and we've talked about marriage, we're living together right now. I love her ,what should I do? Thanks in advance

Answer 1

Well, I mean if her actions make you feel bad then yes you need to break it off

Answer 2

U don't need to dump her but maybe u both shud take time apart if u r not comfy with her activities on the net, for the both of u to know if she can stop what she doesn if it mattered to u and for u to know if u r ok with her the way she is..in a relnship, even though u r not married, there is no reason/excuse for one to do what she's been doing. That's my personal opinion. But if she kept it from u in the first place, till u confronted her, she's not open enuf between the 2 of u..trust and honesty r vital in any relnship. Do what yur heart tells u. all the best.

Answer 3

Hi! So how much trust and communication do have with her? Think about that,,Sometimes when girls wanna talk we even talk to strangers on the net not that we gonna meet but maybe she wants to know more about the world in general..I think there is nothing wrong in that as long as the person shes is talking with doesnt gives her bad advice or something ..I am 49 years old and I love to talk to teenagers., and decent adults that have some respect..Hey maybe she can learn something you never know..If she is not hideing and she tells you then you shouldnt worry ,,But I suggest you be more open and have conversations with her so she wouldnt need to do such a thing...good luck to you both

Answer 4

Sometimes people in a long term relationship (or short term) find themselves looking at another male/female and will write to them or talk to them but won't actually do anything about it. She may also be confused at the moment as most women between the age of 14-24 think for a while that they may be gay/bi but find out they are not by trying out a relationship hypothetically.

As long as you and your girlfriend talk about this and understand each other's feelings about this situation. Be strong and loving, as should she and hopefully you will realise that this is only a small hiccup in your relationship.

Answer 5

yeah she definetly has a bit of a problem maybe u should block chat rooms and give her a lot more attention;) talk to her dirty play with her things like that make it so she doesnt need the other way out the emails and the chat rooms. she sounds like she really loves u and u love her but take my advice block and play its the only way and if that doesnt work i dont know how it would work from there

Answer 6

She's not like that in person because the oppertunity hasn't presented herself trust. First it becomes a habit which it already it is and then it becomes part of her character which it is. She needs help and its not going to be easy let her know that. I think you should honestly just break up with her and try to keep her as a friend in case she needs support but nothing good will of that. And you really playing with your own heart because it doesn't seems she's ready for you. She has some growing up and some addicitions to get rid of.

Answer 7

I have to ask? Is she new to the Internet world? I will tell you, when, I had my first experience with the internet. I was like a wild woman. It all seemed pretend to me. I could be, whoever, I wanted behind a machine. Noone, would ever know. I got sick of that routine after having the computer for awhile and grew up. I don't know how old you two are, but I will tell you, the first exposure to the internet for myself, was empowering. It got old, after a time.

Answer 8

I had nearly the same experience. My ex-girlfriend had the same problem, she seemed addicted to Internet chat, and talked to mostly guys. They would tell her all the lines, and she would eat it up, she would actively go on and seek this attention even though I was providing it for her. She claimed she'd never cheat on me, and we said the I love you-s, she said she wanted to marry me eventually, and she wanted to live with me. We did break up, she got online right away, met a guy, got physical fast with him, but begged me to take her back, I did, she was trilled and she cheated on me, even though she didn't care much for the guy. So even through all her promises ect ect, she still betrayed me. So you gotta look at your situation and ask your self "If I were doing this what would her reaction be?" This prolly seems a rant, but if it helps.

Answer 9

She may just be using it as a fantasy/role playing thing for herself, but if left unchecked will probably end up with her going too far with one of them.

If she's admitting now she has a problem then you should take it seriously. Put off any marriage plans until both of you have gone to some counselling over it. If she's not willing to do counselling then you shouldn't seriously consider marrying her.

Answer 10

Her problem is actually a common problem. If you love her I would stand by her. She needs to get some help. See a counselor or a psycologist to help her work through it. I had an Aunt who went through this and although she choose to abandon help I know many people that befriended her at the time that sucessfully got past this compulsion. Good Luck!!

Answer 11

Do what your heart tells you...if your inner instinct tells you that she is not telling you the truth, then most likely she is lying.
I find it kind of fishy, and I would really sit her down and talk to her and ask her for the truth...and if you dont feel relaxed and convinced, then maybe you should hold off on buying her that ring, until you truly feel like there is nothing holding you back from it.... and, maybe she is bisexual? no body finds enjoyment in talking like a bisexual, unless she is one...maybe you two need a break....