2007-05-12 15:36:12 · 9 answers · asked by orenstei 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Think of your feelings about your brother and the woman he is marrying, and the desire of your heart for their marriage to be successful. Write your thoughts down, time it and rehearse it. It should not be much longer than 30 seconds to one minute. If you rehearse something that you have timed, you will know how long you'll be up talking. The thing is not to bore the crowd - everybody is going to want to eat and drink.....(smile) Good luck to you and to your family,
2007-05-12 16:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten minutes? That is RIDICULOUSLY long. As much as you love your brother, keep in mind that many people attending the wedding will find a long toast boring and wind up sitting at their seats BEGGING for it to be over so they can move on with their lives. Even five minutes is pushing it. What you think is clever or meaningful will come across as, "Why is this kid talking for so long? Does he really think we care?"
Between 1 minute and five minutes is fine. You don't have to give your whole life story. And if speaking extemporaneously doesn't come easily to you, it's perfectly fine to write it down and practice. Good luck.
2007-05-12 23:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by kimpenn09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more than 2 minutes and it MUST be in good taste. don't get drunk before you get up and don't try to be the world's greatest standup comic. "Inside jokes" always fall flat and you'll look stupid. Weddings are a time to REMEMBER - not a time to try and forget. Set aside any personal animosities, don't get maudlin - just tell everyone that you hope you are as lucky as your brother when it comes to love, and tell the bride she has the most excellent taste in bridesmaids. Then ask everyone to rise and toast a life of happiness to the couple. Then sit down. Your job is done.
2007-05-12 17:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-3 minutes. No longer than 3 minutes, max. No one wants to hear you talk anyway--sorry, but it's true. Keep it clean (remember grandma will be there!), and keep any inside jokes out of it as well, since no one will get those. It would probably be helpful to write out in advance what you'd like to say, then time yourself saying it, that way you know if you're saying too much and taking too much time. Also, remember you'll have a tendency, because you'll be nervous, to talk fast, so remind yourself that night to SLOW DOWN, so people can understand what you're saying. Congrats to you and your brother, and best of luck!
2007-05-12 15:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in short, keep it simple. One or two sentences, that's it! Just give them your best wishes and a few kind thoughts!
There is no need to give a speech or tell a story or tell a joke.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist/ A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-05-13 09:03:04 · answer #5 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make it as long as it takes you to say how happy you are or how you feel about your brother. Nobody cares how long it is as long as you get to express your feelings of course I wouldn't make it over 10 minutes. But that's very unlikely. Good luck at your speech. If you need help, I'm a fairly decent writer.
2007-05-12 15:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Some Souls Only Know One Speed 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Couple minutes or so. Just long enough to say what you want to say. Speak slowly, and make it kind of funny, and then maybe serious at the end.
2007-05-12 16:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As fast as possible: There is nothing worse than hearing someone drag on and on about something that everyone is gonna forget about before they even leave the place.....
2007-05-12 15:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long enough to say what you want to say, no longer no shorter. Just be sure to speak slower than normal and emphasize your good wishes.
2007-05-12 15:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋