Ok so I like this guy I work with, actually he's kinda my boss, but he's only about 2 years older than me. I've liked him for a long time and I just found out that he's known for a while that I like him. I really want to go out with him, but there are a few things stopping me. 1) I have a personal rule of not dating a coworker, 2)I'm not sure how he feels, and 3) he's taken. I don't know what to do. I get kinda mixed signals and he knows about my no coworker rule and he's got a gf that is a total and complete high-maintenance *****, he even complains about her but hasn't broken up with her. I just don't know what to do. Please help, any advice is welcome
2007-05-12 15:35:48 · 19 answers · asked by Some Souls Only Know One Speed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's taken. Stay away and keep your feelings to yourself until he breaks it off with the other girl. You don't want to be with someone who you feel like would cheat on you or would drop you for the first pretty girl who comes a long do you, you probably would if you stole him or he cheated.
p.s.
this doesn't mean you can't suggest things to him.... like you know you shouldn't marry someone who you are already unhappy with, just try to be a good friend to him for now and suggest things torward him getting rid of her if he isin't happy.
2007-05-12 15:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by zyann0102 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The no dating a co-worker is always a good rule of thumb. If he is your supervisor, Most companies do not permit supervisors dating workers. If that policy exist in your work place, He could lose his job as well.. Now let me ask you a question. If you had a boyfriend, And a girl at his place of work really liked him, Would you want her making plans on him? Even if she is as you say , A high maintenance B@#$*,
He still loves her,Even if he complains.. He hasn't left her, And he still respects her on some level. So follow the golden rule of dating, If someone is in a relationship, Leave them be.
I hope that helped, And best of luck..
2007-05-12 22:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well trust your instinct stick to rule #1 and #3 and whatever you do don't break the rules! First off what happens when you do finally get together and then something happens! You have to go into the same building day in and day out! So if you really like this person and you don't want to stick to your rules quit your job! On another level HE'S TAKEN! If you get him to go out with you while he's taken guess what is going to happen? He's going to go out with someone else while he is with you! As for your rule #2 do not find out how he feels until the other 2 rules don't apply!
2007-05-12 22:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by Craig A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone who is entirely single for now. If your boss / coworker leaves his gf, then you can ask him what he thinks of you. For now, your work (and or friendship) relationship is the most important. Being anything more than coworkers or acquaintances could actually ruin things instead of making them better.
2007-05-12 22:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sassi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please put the
"lets ruin my job/life"
sign on and plunge ahead.
These date the boss things almost never work out and when they dont who gets fired or made to do miserable work??? You. You obviously have more going for you so why would you risk it just for a date.
Move on to someone available and someone who won't complain about you behind your back (like he complains about his gf now).
Like him but dont date him unless youre looking for a lot of disappointment.
2007-05-12 22:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's taken..Try for someone who isn't taken..
Just reverse the situation.Supposed you had a boyfriend and a girl was unsure if she should go out with him or not?
Remember..you can't believe everything a guy says..if his girlfriend was such high maintenance..why is he still with her?
2007-05-12 22:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on sister! If he's known you like him and he wanted a "thing" he would have approached you. Your personal rule - He is a coworker! He's taken - then forget it! "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
2007-05-12 22:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by scoodlelou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't broken up with her there must be a reason. Stick to your own rules and find someone else. Its not your place to judge his relationship with his girlfriend.
2007-05-12 22:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is taken he isn't available.
good Rule not to date those you work with. It could turn messy if it doesn't work out.
2007-05-12 22:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who r you to judge his gf.hes with her not you that says something ,if you go down the path you will be all that your r against what does that show about you ,just asking for a opinion puts you in a separate class,trashy,if he jumps you its only for a roll,hell be back with her /doesn't say to much good about you or him,honey he ain't worth loosing your self respect .who's playing who in this ...watch your back ,could cost you ur job as well as Friends,stick to your rules...be strong for you no one else can...
2007-05-12 22:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Hana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋