My little sister always bugs me, my mom is always on my back about the smallist things, and i'm at the point to want to move with a friend. I'm an honor roll student but I must amidt at times I have an attitude. I see myself as a person with a bright future and I just wanna know why me. My friends usually tell me i'm the advice giver bit right know I need advice. I know that I love my mom and she may be under some stress because she's a single parent but hey i'm under stress to. Please tell me which way I should go and why my mom is always on my back.
Happy Mothers Day 2 all of the Moms U're what keeps the world going.
2007-05-12 13:19:12 · 11 answers · asked by Cutie P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well yes your mom might be on you back about everything. But you know, all she wants is for you to grow but and be a great person. Yes she might be stressed but i think she is pushing you to be the best that you can be.
2007-05-12 13:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by chriswh90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom is always on your back because she's a single mom, she's stressed and as you said, you sometimes have an attitude. With tomorrow being Mother's Day it's a perfect time for you to show her that you understand and love her.
Don't let her do anything tomorrow. Serve her breakfast in bed, do whatever house work needs to be done and maybe take her out for the day just to have some fun. Go with her and your little sister for a walk in the park. Take her back to when things were a little easier for her. Talk to her. Your mom is most likely feeling a lot of pressure and is very tired. A nice relaxing day out of the house might be just what she needs.
I don't know how much you help around the house but she's probably feeling like she could use a little more support from you. Try to get her talking about how she's feeling about things and see if there's anything you can do to help ease her burden. When she sees you care enough to make that effort, more than likely she'll back off. Too often kids forget that Mom's are people too and they get tired and scared. Knowing she has such a thoughtful daughter will be the best Mother's Day gift you could give her.
By the way, I can so definitely relate to the "why me" part. What I've found is that every "why me" is filled with extremely valuable life lessons. Hang in there, you'll have a lot more of them. Just look for the lesson in each one. You're on the right path and from the sound of your question, I don't doubt that you have a bright future ahead of you. You go girl. And enjoy your day with your Mom.
2007-05-12 20:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor Cutie...I see my daughter asking the same exact question in a few years. I am a mother of 2. Boy 9 and Girl 10. They are at each other all day everyday. My daughter is as smart as they come, but has a mind of her own. Mom's don't always see what's going on in kids minds. I don't know about her, but if my daughter was to come up to me and say, "Hey Mom, can we talk?" I would give her my undevided attention. She could tell me anything that was bugging her. Even if she said that she thought I was the worst mom in the world. At least I knew she was telling me what was in her heart. If she told me that she felt like I was on her back all the time, I would tell her that it was because i love her and only want what's best for her. I would then try to find ways that I could get off her back and compromise with her. I am a very strict mother, so to try to get off her back would be hard, but at least I would know how she was feeling the next time I did get on her back and I would explain things a little better when I was on her back. I was a little sister...to 5 siblings. and I was a brat. Little sisters don't realize how bad they are being. TRUST me. I'm 32 yrs old now and I just recently realized how bad I was and told all my appologies. She may be a terror right now, but I promise you...she loves you and will only love you more and need you more as the years go by. I really hope that you find all the answers you are looking for. And don't run away from your problems...talk to your family and work things out. Good luck.
2007-05-12 20:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by bblsbrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just exactly described how my life use to be. It was tough to live that kind of life. I didn't think I could ever go on with it. I am very religious, so I just kept my faith in Christ and prayed all of the time. I also wrote poetry. Now that may not be your thing, but I found that it just made me feel better to get my feelings down onto some paper. I moved in with my dad about probably 4 years ago because my mother moved to a different state. I have found that I really do love my mom and our relationship has grown because of my being away from her. I'm not saying to move out or anything. Just think of what your life would be like without your mom and your sister. You may say it would be better, but trust me it wouldn't.
2007-05-12 20:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by lovin_jesus03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you do your best to show your mom you appreciate her for even the littlest things she does? Single Mom's have to be the mom and the dad in some cases and they do all they can to make sure their children have the best lives, but at times it can be more than a bit overwhelming for them to do all the things they need to in order to survive. She's most likely had to sacrifice a lot of things for you and your sister to have what you have in your lives.
I think you should first tell your mother that you love her and appreciate her and all the things she has done for you. Then try and have a heart-to-heart talk about how you feel when she treats you harshly. I've learned over the past couple of months that communication is the most important commodity in a family.
Talk it all out and it will work itself out.
Good luck hon.
2007-05-12 20:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ronin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need Dr. Phil! What kinds of things is your mom stressing about? Housekeeping? Not knowing where you are? Are the stress things something you could de-stress with a small change? Little sisters--hmmm; usually if you talk to them while looking them in the eye, and really listen, they don't bug you so bad.
Keep up the good grades. Don't move out--that's the way to instant poverty. Solve your problems at home. I think attitude comes with hormones--:)
Hope your life gets wonderful.
2007-05-12 20:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by realjustice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your mom and tell her that you just need some space and that you wish she would give it to you and keep your little sister off of your back too. But not on mothers day, lol.. Tell her you feel like you suffocating with no boundaries. Good luck!
2007-05-12 20:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by red_rabbit239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for that Mother's Day wish.....and when you get older and look back, you will realised that what happened back than was all in a family life..
Mommy will be mommy..will be at your back all your life because they loves you and they are concern. They are worry on every smallest thing.
They want the best for you and sad even the smallest ant bite...you.
When its time to look back, you will appreciated whatever she has done and you will wish that you could have done more for her.
2007-05-12 20:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are under your Mom's roof, you are doomed to do what she says. Just deal with it until you are old enough to run away like those desperate teenagers who regretted leaving their Mom.
2007-05-12 20:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darn. You almost sound like a teenage girl.
2007-05-12 20:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Moondog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋