I guess I feel like a whiner, but I am feeling really hurt! My 7 year old son and my husband are the BEST of friends. They don't purposefully leave me out, but I feel like a 3rd wheel in almost every activity. I sometimes wonder if they would notice if I wasn't here...Oh wait, as soon as their underwear drawers were empty, they would scratch their heads and say "where's mom????" Any thoughts on how to get past this and get involved with the men I love??????
2007-05-12 12:51:42 · 7 answers · asked by Michele O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
COMMUNICATION. I always say, people have not learned how to talk to one another and this is a prime example. You are the loving mom and your 'boys' dont' know how you feel???? Tell them you want in. Get involved with them. Create activities that you can be a part of. Naturally, Father and son will want to hang out more, but you can let them know how you feel. This is your family. I am sure they will understand.
2007-05-12 12:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love you have for your son is different from your husband. It is natural for the father and son to bond and it is very important especially at a young age. They both need and love you. You are in their heart. Don't feel bad if the two men in your life are bonding as they should. When your son get older it'll pay-off he'll always open his heart to his dad and that's good.
You may want to give your son a baby sister. You will fine that you and your daughter will draw close. Listen, build a separate relationship with your son. Allow your son to see you in different light. He knows to come to your tenderness. Most boys do! He knows you run the house, and your husband as well. Have your son to help you make cookies and sometimes dinner. This is the perfect way of bonding with your son.
God Bless
2007-05-12 20:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man and son has a special bond that's not always gonna include mommy. I'm sure your family does not mean to make you feel left out and if you probably stressed your concern to them you'd find that out. What I'd do is talk to them together. When you plan certain things you are usually the center of attention so instead of always going along with what they planned all the time, you should make your own plans and include them. Make sure you spend ample amount of time with each individually also.
2007-05-12 20:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shar D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a father-son bond that is unique to only the father and son. I don't think you should take it too personally.
I don't even know who my dad is, so I can't really say if I know for sure what's going on, but this is an educated guess.
2007-05-12 19:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn;t be surprised if my Father came on here asking the same question. I have a TERRIBLE relationship with my father. Where than me and my mom get along really well. In your situation it may just be the way your son or is, but hopefully not the way I am with my dad.
2007-05-12 19:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not get involved in an activity with them? throw the football around, kick a soccer ball, bike ride. you can do those things too. could it be your own insecurities making you feel this way? have you told them you want to be included? you can always have one on one time with your son too. with each of my boys, there were special things that i did with them and other things their dad did with them. it all evens out somehow.
2007-05-12 20:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicatio here is the key.Talk to them.Maybe you should sharean activity with them.
2007-05-12 19:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋