Ok, the guy is crushing on you because you asked the question !!!
What guys do when they like a girl depends upon the guy. So best advice is to take each person as they come. If you don't expect for courting to happen like in hollywood (like a stereotype) then you can react to him as the situation developes, this is better. Do not pick first dates in the Cinema, or somewhere noisy. First dates are meant to be short, with talking being the key feature. Going to a coffee shop for lunch is ideal. Do not try to be physical on a first date, go at a slow pace.
Is it wrong to like a guy? Nope, but it is wrong to like the guys body or his wealth or confidence (all these things are temporary). If you like the guy for the following reasons:
*He is tall
*He has a particular eye colour
*He has big muscles and swarve clothing
*He has lots of money, and he is confident
Then you are liking his body rather than the real him. One shouldnt' judge the driver of a car by the car itself. Really, what you want to know is do you see the real him behind his image. It is said the the eyes are the window to the soul. Effectively what your looking for is a feeling of being in the zone when you are talking with him. If time passes quickly, its a good sign.
4 things can happen between guys and girls
1) Lust followed by sex, followed by bordom
2) True love (incredibly rare)
3) Falling in love (where friends become physically involved)
4) Lets just be friends.
Avoid 1), because 1 or 2 months of passion without getting to know the person first leads to a similar feeing drug dealers get when the high wears off.
The best advice is to take plenty of time, don't over react to anything that happens, and get to know someone before getting too cosy. That way, you have more than just lust to fuel the relationship.
True love is tricky, because one can see it instantly (like lust). The main distinction between true love and lust is that with lust one is attracted to the persons body (so you get fixated upon sexual thoughts).
The worst way to behave is to become insecure or needy. If you feel either of these, hang out with friends instead until the feelings pass.
Being openly insecure with a guy (or vice versa) will lead to you becoming just friends. Relationships are about sharing feelings (so you can tell him your problems). But relationships are not about solving your partner's problems for him (or vice versa). Listen but do not advise, or empathize but do not sympathize. This is the key to avoiding the 'just friends' tag. Never give your advice unless asked to do so specifically. This will maintain respect between you.
Sex is meant for starting families, but in modern times it has become used for pleasure (like heroin or coke). If a relationship is based upon the desire to get sex, then you will find yourself addicted to it, but not him.
2007-05-12 12:13:29
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answered by Yoda 6
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You know I was always obvious to guys that had a crush on me. It wasn't because I thought I was better I just didn't notice.
Later when I actually started paying attention I just would get this feeling from the way they would look at me or talk to me. Well except for the guy that followed me everywhere. He scared me. I told my dad (a police officer) cause I was maybe 15 and my dad scared the fool out of him. That's when I found out the guy had a crush on me.
It's ok if the guy has a crush on you. If you like him too then maybe you can go out with him (depending on your age). It doesn't mean you have to do anything other than going out with him. You could go see a movie or go to a coffee shop, ice shop or something like that. Remember you have control.
If you don't like him and he does have a crush on you be nice to him. Some guys are very shy and it's hard for them to approach a girl in the first place.
Good luck.
2007-05-12 12:16:43
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answered by Janet L 6
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Get to know the guy. Get to be friends...that is, meet one another mind to mind.
If that works, you might want to get even closer. Meet one another heart to heart.
If that works out, then, and ONLY then, is it time to discuss marriage....
And then, you are ready for the final stage, where you meet one another body to body.
So much better in the long run to start from the top down...brain, heart, and finally, sex...rather than from the bottom up as so many try to do...sex first, then the heart, and finally the brain, which usually can find any number of reasons why you are making a fool out of yourself.
Remember...from the top down...NEVER from the bottom up...
2007-05-12 12:07:29
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answered by Anonymous
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oftentimes YES oftentimes NO. Pregnancy indicators are the identical as indicators of a interval coming so oftentimes it is very rough to inform. tHE VERY BEST option to realize is to attend until a interval is past due and do a hometest. I used to be 7 weeks earlier than i discovered with my daughter I NEVER felt ill pregnant sore boobs ANY SIGNS of being pregnant however, a + experiment. With this being pregnant earlier than my interval used to be due i felt scorching, irriated, crampy, sore boobs, the whole thing smelled horrible. All being pregnant are differnt even though a ladies is having no indicators and a interval is past due it is satisfactory to experiment.
2016-09-05 18:18:22
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answered by bloomer 4
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Dating is normal. It should be hands off though until after marriage.
God created man to appreciate the beauty of a woman and vice versa.
Take it slow. Go to church together. Sit together. Go to restaurant together. Talk about interests. Just keep your clothes on.
2007-05-12 11:53:16
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answered by Anonymous
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Like is like, no problem there. Like and sex is lust. Love is love. God is Love. When you are in it, you know it. Follow your heart, not your brain (human agenda), and you will know who God wants you to be with. It will be crystal clear.
2007-05-12 11:54:01
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answered by ? 6
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Here is my scale of determining lust vs love. If it is lust, my concern is about me. If it is love, my concern is all about you. Of course a realistic relationship will have some components of each.
2007-05-12 12:02:26
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answered by stedyedy 5
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If Christians never fell in love, none of them would ever get married.
Liking someone is okay.
2007-05-12 11:50:23
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answered by nowyouknow 7
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Of course it is okay to date! I don't know how old you are, but yes that will involve sex one day.
Ignore Rocky Road, he is off his rocker.
There is no Way I would marry a guy without checking out the goods first.
2007-05-12 12:10:00
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answered by Anonymous
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when i have a crush on someone. i just like to see her often. and be a gentleman to her
2007-05-12 12:07:30
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answered by arvin_ian 4
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