My mom doesn't understand?

Question

Ok, I used to cut myself, and she found out not very long ago. She thinks that someone has to be psychologically ill to intentionally hurt themselves, and she knows I'm not mentally ill or anything, so she thinks that me cutting is self-indulgent.

I know I can't make her understand. I don't think u can fully understand it unless you've done it unfortunately. The problem is that she wants to check my legs now for cuts, and when I show her, she says things like "you're gonna get scars!" and "people will see these and know you're a cutter!"

I know i can't make her understand, but she's told me herself that she feels no pity towards me at all. This is something that I feel really stupid getting involved with, and shes not helping at all. I want her to understand that this is something that I'm struggling with. I feel like if i try to open up to her, i'll come out as disgusting to her. What should I do?

Answer 1

#2 answerer, you should never call this persons Mother an idiot. Not necessary at all. Does not make you look to well.

Honey, you have a problem and your Mother needs you to talk with her about it. Don't be afraid. She is there for you, & it will be so much better, if you have her there by your side. She needs help herself, in understanding your problem.
True not understanding, she may be disgusted, but that is what you must do, talk to her soon.
Good luck to both of you & God be with you.~~jill

Answer 2

It appears that you have emotional pain that you have been suppressing for quite some time. There are sadist who enjoy pain and even self mutilation. However I don't believe that the self mutilation is a fetish of yours, instead it is indeed psychological even if you are not entirely aware of it. Perhaps you feel neglected in some way and cutting yourself is an attempt to receive nurturing and affection from your mother which you feel has been deprived from you. However I fear that another likely scenario is that you may have been abused when you were younger and undeservedly feel guilt or shame and cutting yourself is the punishment which you are imposing on yourself. The side effect of the trauma that you may have experienced is depression and cutting yourself may be an unfortunately diversion of substituting a physical pain for an emotional one. You have to confront the root cause of your compulsion. Talk to your mother about whatever is troubling you and she will listen and help. If you feel you can't turn to your mother seek help from a guidence counsellor or visit a teen help centre if there is one available where you live. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

number one, why do you cut yourself? That's the question. Number two you mom is older and when we get older we sometimes forget what it was like to be a kind. I am sorry she doesn't understand you. It sounds like she cares. I know its not the same. Maybe give it time and someday she will understand. But please don't cut yourself. It makes me feel bad just knowing your out there doing that to yourself. Try hitting a speed bag, boxing, or kick boxing. if it is for the feeling you get. I don't know maybe try pinching your-self really hard and lease the bruise will heal. Good luck kid oh

Answer 4

Your mother obviously doesn't or can't see the seriousness behind this and she should be ashamed of herself. I don't mean that to be rude or anything, but she should be.

With your mom behaving this way, you obviously can't go to her, can you go to your dad? Do you have any older siblings? Aunts, cousins, uncles? Or go see a school guidance counciler.

You need to talk to someone and get some help. There is obviously something going on with you that makes you want to do this. Please confide in someone that cares about you and wants to help. Good luck. jb

Answer 5

Sweetie, cutting is a mental problem. And should be treated by a mental health professional.

She's trying to guilt you into stopping. But you and I know that doesn't always work. So.. ask to see a therapist...

Answer 6

i don't know much about cutting either, but i do know some on moms since i am one,i think the reason your mom-gives you so much trouble is, is because shes scared for you, and pro bally worried how she looks to other people, now that her daughter is a cutter, people will tend to-blame her.i know if my daughter had problems like that,i would hope that she could come to me for love and support and help.my daughter had a drinking problem,bad she was having-black outs and a car accident that could have killed her, she didn't come to me right away,because she didn't want me to be disappointed in her, and she felt as if she let me down.wen she finally came to me it was after her accident and i had to put her in a clinic, she cried and it just about killed me. my baby girl, had a drinking problem and i put her away.since then though-shes came to me about anything.i guess you need to trust that your mom-loves you and she wants to help you, but you must make the first move,cause she has no idea how to help right now, there's some pretty good shows on lifetime TV that deal with that problem, you could pro bally get them to come upon your computer to show her..just try to understand its really hard for a mom-to see their child hurting,so trust in her and let her help,or go seek help with her. god luck and god bless

Answer 7

Well i know where you are, I used to cut myself and you really want to help your self and you just cant, moms usually just dont understand, they can but sometimes they dont, its hard for them to except that something is wrong with there child, my mom didnt understand me at all.....I needed help and after a while of me trying to tell her she finally understood my problem and helped me!!! so just keep trying and you will get her attention.....also my boyfriend (who is now my husband) also helped me through it.....GOOD LUCK HUN!

Answer 8

You need to get professional help. Cutting is hurting you and, as a result, your mother is worried about you. Open up to your mother and go get help. Maybe the two of you could go somewhere together and talk to a professional. Good luck!

Answer 9

just try and sit her down and explain to her why you are doing it. and seond of all i would say stop doing t. i mean seriously it is kinda stupid. i did it myself and i wish i never had. cuz i do have scars everywhere.

listen to what she has to say and then make her listen. if she doesnt then i would try seeing maybe like a councelor or sumthing then they could get the threee of you together or sumthing liek thtat and then maybe you'r mom will listen

Answer 10

u need to get mental couseling bcuz this a from of OCD or obsessive compulsive disorder. go to www.drdrew.com and find out through his office where u can get mental health counseling. good luck.