Been knowing my BF for 2 years; officially been together for 6 months. I've asked him to go to BBQ, party, birtyday party, etc with me millions of times. He has truned me down EVERY SINGLE TIME. all of my friends and family know that I'm in a relationship, but they never get to see him. He's only met some ppl by accident. either he was at my place when they came, or he had to pick me up from somewhere and they were there. Even then, he's very distant and will say hi and rush me to leave. He says that he feels like I try to "show him off" but that is not the case. I just simply get tired of attending things and im the only person there without my bf. everyone always asks abt him. he just simply does not like to meet people and says that its not fun being in crowds. But he's fine being in crowds that he knows. when we go to his family's house, i do not sit in the car, i come inside. him on the other hand does not. What do i do? i'm tired of arguing abt this every other week!
2007-05-12 11:21:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he's the one asking me to move back "home" w/ him to another state. He's trying to keep the relationship strong. I've tried breaking up b4 over this but he just tells me our relationship is too good for us to not be together.
2007-05-12 11:31:04 · update #1
He doesnt want to meet anyone, obvious he is only interested in you and getting in your pants. You obviously dont mean enough to him that he feels you are worth getting to know and that includes your family. Girl do better please and have respect for your self he obviously doesnt respect you enough to think you are all worth it.
2007-05-12 11:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if you've been with him for 2 years and he still refuses to do things with your family and friends, you seriously need to think about giving him his walking papers.
Truthfully, the fact that he shows no interest in developing relationships with your family and friends indicates that he probably doesn't view your relationship as long-term, but rather just something that is convenient for him.
Given that he hasn't changed in 2 years, he probably won't change anyway, but if you don't show that you're willing to walk away over this issue, then it definitely won't change.
Personally I'd say you probably need to end the relationship in any case. He sounds like an extremely selfish person, and that is unlikely to change given that it's been 2 years already.
2007-05-12 11:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one, dump him. If he cares so little about what you want, and only does what he wants (don't buy whatever line he gives you), then you don't need it. There is a whole world out there, why are you limiting yourself?... no reason to waste your time with this joker any longer. Move on! You deserve better, and this relationship obviously isn't how you want to live you life... he will not change, you can't change him, move ahead with your life. You don't need the hassle, life is short.
2007-05-12 11:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by eat.spam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is doing two things in this behavior. One he is keeping you at a distance. If you start doing couples things, you will try to push the relationship to a spot he doesn't want it to go. This way he can string you along for much longer getting what he wants without giving what he doesn't want to. Second, it allows him to keep his options open. He wants to play the field, or at least have that option. If you two are a full blown couple he can't do that.
Two years? Wow he can give lessons...
2007-05-12 11:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has something to hide and it's not shyness no one is that shy.
If he won't play the game then dump him. He should at least met your friends at least once.
I still think he has somehing to hide a criminal history perhaps.
2007-05-12 11:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
strange...2 yrs and u still put up with that girl get a boyfriend!
2007-05-12 11:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shuld not attend anymor of his invitations no mor untill he attends one of urs then hell feel da same thing u felt
2007-05-12 11:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_latina_81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, obviuosly you are either...fat, ugly boring, useless at sex or a freak.,.........or all of the these.....judging by you question....boring......whining...I would take a guess and ay FAT .......and bet my farm you have never had A.....whatever.....stay with him.YOU WILL NEVER GET ANOTHER
2007-05-12 11:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋