what did i do wrong please tell me!!! VERY UPSET!
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My girlfriend and I were supposed to hang out Friday night. We had planned this a week in advance! She phoned me Thursday night and said her best guy friend just got home from college and she would like to see him Friday and asked if her and I could reschedule on Saturday.
I got a bit upset and said no we had plans for Friday night you aren't going to do that to me. I also told her that I had a party to go to Saturday...my brother is graduating college and his frat. was having a huge party. So i wanted to go. She said that was fine and she would just make plans with her friend from college on Saturday since i would not be around.
Well, Friday around 2:30 I saw my good friend Eddie and Eddie was having a house party Friday night I don't hang out with Eddie all that much he's my boy. And Saturday was off because my brother did not want me there
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2007-05-12 11:15:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I asked her nicely if she could possibly go out with her college friend Friday night instead of Saturday because I really wanted to hang out with Eddie and go to his party. I told her regardless if she were coming over or not i was planning to attend his party after she left (which was true)
She got VERY upset and told me that I had no right to do that to her and after she just told her friend she would see her Saturday she was not going to do that.
So i told her fine come over. She came over we went to a movie...well, she wanted to treat me to the movie her pay for tickets me pay for food. We went to an early movie so the tickets were less money i asked her to chip in a bit of money for the snacks. She got REALLY UPSET with me and just payed for her own snacks my ticket and her ticket. We sat at the theater and she wouldn't talk to me the entire movie.
She told me she felt "insulted" by what I had done to her and i cant understand why!
2007-05-12 11:15:50 · update #1
Well, when she got home I realized that my friend Eddie's party started at 8:00 so i explained to her that It would be great for her to leave around 8:00 so I could go to the party. She again got really insulted! I told her I would come with her Saturday to meet her friend from college and eat dinner with them. She wouldn't leave and finally left at 10:00!!
Well, I went to the party and when i got there everyone was already smashed, passed out, high and everything else. I didn't get to drink or smoke or ANYTHING! There was no beer left no nothing I was REALLY MAD! It wasn't worth my time!
2007-05-12 11:16:23 · update #2
Well, now i admit what i did was wrong today. I'm sitting here at this party very upset with myself for what i did to her!
I contacted her at work and told her I would not come out to dinner with her because I went to my brother's frat party. I also somewhat told her um...she ruined my night last night so i was going to enjoy this party tonight because she would not leave at 8:00 last night.
She ended up in tears sent me a text message asking me to stay away from her calling me a selfish jerk and saying how she wanted no further contact with me!!
DID I REALLY DO SOMETHING WRONG?
OR IS SHE JUST OVER REACTING?!!
HELP I'm at this party but i feel awful
I said i was sorry a million times and she said
"your not sorry, you were never sorry, and your still not sorry because if you were sorry you would not have continued to do this to me"
2007-05-12 11:17:15 · update #3
she deserve better then YOU.
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2007-05-12 11:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY don't want to sound mean and all but you were mean to her. You should know that girls are sensitive unlike guys. And she did not over-react. She was simply being a girl. I mean come on, who would actually go around asking their girl friends to stay until a certain amount of time? I mean you were being a jerk and all to her. If you want to have a girl friend, you should respect her and NOT ask her to leave at certain times or to pay for some of the snacks at the theater. I really am sorry that I'm being mean, but you REALLY need to learn how to be a proper gentleman.
2007-05-12 11:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by reemstar123181 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry buddy but i think you're in the wrong here. First of all when she tried to change the plans you freaked out, but then you ended up changing the plans and expecting her to be okay with it. That was your first big boo boo. And if the plan was for her to pay for tickets regardless of it being cheaper, then you should have just paid for snacks. Next when you told her to just leave like that, that's just rude, it's like your just using her for whenever you want to hang out. Then when you said she ruined your night, that means hanging out with her really meant nothing and the party was more important then she is. I don't know i can't explain everything but the main point is your screwed up everything big time.
2007-05-12 11:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by gihae0401 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is severe and not a wind-up, i'm greatly surprised which you will not see the subject. a million. SHE needs to re-schedule - you're saying NO - no negotiation, basically a flat no. 2. you choose to re-schedule - and then tell her that irresepcxtive of what SHE needs to do, you will do your element. Why did you not basically factor out to her "What you choose counts for sod-all, what i choose, counts for each little thing, manage it" Are you somewhat shocked you have been dumped? I hate to interrupt this to you, yet till you come across a doormat (which will nicely be booring in no-time in any respect), you will would desire to get used to being dumped plenty in the journey that your attitude keeps to be an identical. Mark
2016-10-04 23:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Women......u need to learn a few ways about them and how they operate, what you have done was wrong Best advice! go see her right now Box of chocs some flowers and just say"You dont have to speak to me, but i wanted you to have these and to say that i am truly sorry for being a jerk and did not consider your feeling or emotions if you can find it in you to forgive me then please call me or text me....i will leave you now thank you for listening to me" and leave....This will work well 9 times out of 10, if you really like her do it of you think you can live without her leave it, but it does sound you would rather be partying then spending time with her or doing things she likes...Take care & Goodluck
2007-05-12 11:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really a jerk aren't you?
Read what you wrote at first and see just what you did to her.
You got upset and made her change her plans, then something better came up for her and you wanted her to change them again to suite you.
She has every right to dump you and never talk to you again.
You are a jerk of the major kind...better take a good long look at yourself and what you wrote and decide if that is really the kind of person you want to be.
jeese...
2007-05-12 11:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
both off you are wrong, the best way is take her out for a few hours, and speak gently and try to settle the problem even if you feel that she is not completely innocent of the facts, just tell her that next time you will react differently, because with this incident you discovered how much you care about her...
but you are a jerk!!!!!!!!
2007-05-12 11:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Feet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy you messed up real bad if yall two had plans for each other that weekend then you stick with them you dont changed them in the same day. You have two call her up and tell her you were a JERK!
2007-05-12 11:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by ***i <3 Mi BABi*** ^:J&K:^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you care more about the party than your girlfriend. It also isn't cool to ask your gf to pay for her own snacks...guys are supposed to pay. It's just polite.
2007-05-12 11:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by The Voice of Reason 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a jerk!! She shouldn't pay for a date!!! I hope your friend is a good lay too since you rather party than do the nasty with your girl. HMMM immature
2007-05-12 11:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by sensi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were a jerk....that's what you did wrong!! When your friends are more important than the one who is supposed to be the love of your life....something's wrong. You were wrong....live with it!! Why else would you feel so bad?
2007-05-12 11:21:12 · answer #11 · answered by Sue S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋