My little sister is six months old. My 42 year old drunk drug abusing father had a baby with a woman who is 18 years younger than him and young enough to be my sister. (btw, im 20) They constantly get drunk and messed up around my sister and leave her home alone (at 6 mo) She always looks nasty. They just moved the trailer they are living in a few weeks ago, but instead of turning on any kind of utilities or water to take care of their children ( there are 3) they use the money to buy drugs pills and alcohol. Should I turn them into DHHS? Im afraid to because they will just get put into foster care and some foster homes are worse than that. Please help, I am worried about my 6 mo. old sis.
2007-05-12 10:37:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is time for you to stand up and be the adult in the relationship! It is for the good of your sister! Call DFS and while you are talking to the caseworker ask about your sister being placed with you or another reliable family member. I had my niece for 6 months, 2 years ago, while my sister went to rehab and got her life back on track. She was mad at me for a while for turning her in but a few weeks ago she called and thanked me for getting her the help she needed! She and my neice are doing great now and she just announced that she is getting married soon to a wonderful guy who loves and cares for them both!!!!
Good luck! And think of this, what would you want a person to do if you were in that situation.
2007-05-12 11:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so proud of you for being so responsible and being more of an adult than they are. You are on the right track and I would encourage you to report them when they drugged up so the authorities can see for themselves. You can be involved with the children even when they are in foster care to make sure they are being taken care of until the situation improves. Just let DHS know how you feel and ask what your rights are as a relative and if you can have visitation rights.
2007-05-12 18:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need advice. You need to report them to the authorities before something really bad happens. This information is confidential, so they won't be told the complaint came from you.
If the child is removed from their care, since you are an adult and a blood relative, you can petition the court to gain custody of the baby. BUT you shouldn't feel pressured to... you're only 20, you obviously had a difficult life, you need to take care of yourself first.
For your own sake, TELL AS MANY PEOPLE AS YOU CAN ABOUT THIS. That way, if something bad _did_ happen, no one can accuse you of not having done enough to prevent it, since they also had the chance to do something.
Take care and all the best to you.
2007-05-12 17:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by twosweethounds 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should - it's what a good sister would do.
Your father is only hurting these children - you are the only thinking adult around - so do it today please.
They always say you have to hit bottom before you can get better - let your father hit bottom AND get these kids into a safe place - they are scared and need and deserve it!
PS - don't worry about how mad he'll be or what he might say - he's not thinking straight so ignore him and do the right thing!
2007-05-12 17:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the local CPS (Child Protective Services). Ask if you can possibly raise them, or approve the foster home that they go to.
2007-05-12 18:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call CPS!!!! now!!! Or guve me the names I'll call for you. I had to call on my sister and she lost her kids....Best thing anyone has ever done for her. She got them back after one year and is the best mother to those boys!! You have to protect the innocent, not the adults. you're her only voice!! Get the nerve and DO IT
2007-05-12 17:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's so sad, but if you don't call to get those kids some help, they will grow up think that's the normal way to live when they get older; and that's not right - it sounds like you even know that
Make that call and let those kids have a chance.
2007-05-12 18:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by M A D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call. Give them the opportunity to have a better life. You obviously love them, so make your decision based on what's best for them.
2007-05-12 17:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the authorities (DHHS). If you're worried about where she'll be placed, perhaps you could apply to be her guardian.
2007-05-12 17:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility that you could apply for custody. I would definately get that child away from them, they aren't responsible enough to be parents!
2007-05-12 18:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋