For those of you that dont have children see ? below?

Question

For those of you that dont have children see? below?
For those of you that dont have children How will you be celebrating Mothers Day? My mom and mother in law live very far away from me, Do you find this Holiday hard to celebrate because you dont have children? I just thought I would ask.
I am an Aunt and I love being an Aunt, but I because of medical reasons and partly finiacial was unable to have my ownkids. Mothers should be honored my mom and my mother in law are awesome wonderful people I did send a card and a gift. Mothers day is a little bitter sweet for me do you feel the same way?
I will be praying tommorow that God gives me the mercy, strength and grace to get through the day, has not having children for you been a blessing is disguise? What are godly ways to come to terms with this and go forward?

Answer 1

I too do not have children, but it was a personal choice. My husband has children from a previous marriage and they are adults now, but we do not have a relationship with them because their Mother saw to it that they didn't have a reason or need to respect or interact with their bio Dad, but instead, made sure the step-dad got all the glory. Anyway, I'm an Aunt to lots and lots of nieces and nephews, and I am happy with just that! lol Having kids is way overrated. Always having to worry about this or that, and it never ends! lol And if I did have kids, I would want them to treat me like a Queen EVERY day of the year, not because "society" says "OH, You gotta make sure you remember MOM today!" To me , it's just another commercialized, money making, guilt-ridden entity. (much like Valentines and Sweetest Day, etc) My relationship to my own Mother on a daily basis is how and why I love her. Believe it or not the Bible even mentions that in the "end times" that "Woe to the pregnant woman and the ones suckling a baby in those days!" (Luke 21:23) Read the whole chapter to get a better understanding, please. You sound like a very loving woman, I'm sure you can find a way to be a great influence for a child somehow. Have you ever heard of Big Brothers/Sisters? Maybe you could look into some type of mentoring program. Best wishes to you and Have a great day tomorrow, no matter what!

Answer 2

I'm childless and single. I don't think I'd be a good mother, though I am an aunt to my sisters' children. My mom died last summer, so this is my first Mother's Day without her. I bought and mailed two cards to my two surviving aunts, and I also bought cards and small gifts for my sisters. I've called my sisters and left a message with my brother about making plans to tomorrow. One sister will take her kids to see their other grandmother. Another sister's daughter plans to take her out to lunch, and I might join them, and so might one of my aunts.

I don't mind not being a mother, but you want to be a mother, so Mother's Day is especially painful for you. I suppose you could pay special attention to your nieces and nephews, or volunteer or work with children. However, only a childless woman who wants children could fully identify with you. I'll pray for you, though.

Father's Day is often "meaningless" for me, because my father died when I was 11, all of my uncles and both grandfathers are dead, my brother isn't a father, and I'm not close enough to my male cousins. Sometimes I buy a card in honor of my father. I was planning to take a card to his grave last year, and also considering visiting an elderly man in a home last year, but never got to do either. Occasionally I've given a Father's Day card to my brother, even though he is only an uncle.

Answer 3

I do things for my mother nearly everyday during the week so I don't set aside one day to do the things I do for her anyways. I don't have children so the day for me is just a Sunday and I will spend it mostly sleeping as I'm working the graveyard shift Monday morning.

My not having children has a scientific reason behind it so it is not attached to blessings or anything religious. I had to come to terms with my infertility 17 years ago and I have accepted it and moved on.

Answer 4

I cannot at the moment have children for medical reasons. I'll be seeing my mom for a bit then I'll come back home and watch some movies or something.

You don't need to pray to get through the day. You can do it all on your own.

Answer 5

For some people, we were not supposed to have children.
So except it as being for the highest good.
There is not much else I know of to do.
It is just our lot in life. Be happy for those who have children and thank God we don't have the burdens others have with them.
Rev. TomCat

Answer 6

I don't have children because I've never wanted children. I've avoided marriage because once you're married, people start asking when the kids are gonna start coming, which I think is horrendously rude and presumptive of them to think that's the next "logical" step.

I'm single and have no trouble supporting myself, but I could never support another human being.

Answer 7

Mother's Day is just another day to me, though I do call my own mom and wish her a Happy Mother's Day and ususally send her an e-card.
Did you know that Mother's Day was originally about getting mothers together for peace. It was in the aftermath of the Civil War in the US. See the below link, it is interesting.

Written by Julia Ward Howe - 1870
"Arise, then, women of this day!
Arise, all women who have breasts,
Whether our baptism be of water or of tears!
Say firmly:"We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies,Our husbands will not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause.
Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn
All that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience.
We, the women of one country, will be too tender of those of another country
To allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs."
From the bosom of the devastated Earth a voice goes up with our own.
It says: 'Disarm! Disarm! The sword of murder is not the balance of justice.'
Blood does not wipe out dishonor, nor violence indicate possession.
As men have often forsaken the plough and the anvil at the summons of war,
Let women now leave all that may be left of home for a great and earnest day of counsel.
Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead.
Let them solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means
Whereby the great human family can live in peace,
Each bearing after his own time the sacred impress, not of Caesar,
But of God.
In the name of womanhood and humanity, I earnestly ask
That a general congress of women without limit of nationality
May be appointed and held at someplace deemed most convenient
And at the earliest period consistent with its objects,
To promote the alliance of the different nationalities,
The amicable settlement of international questions,
The great and general interests of peace."
You can see a complete video/reading of this PROCLAMATION at
http://www.mothersdayforpeace. com.

Answer 8

I am 52 and also childless. I love my mom. She's 71 years old. Never any celebrations. Just call her and tell happy mother's day and say I love you.

Answer 9

Isn't Mother's Day about honoring mothers, not expecting to BE honored?

Answer 10

I don't know. When is Mother's Day?