My daugher mislead alot of people about a guy we approved of and she loved. It came out that she didn't love him and went with another guy we don't approve of. She left home and went with her aunt non chrisitan and has no one to tell her anything. We as her parents want to follow the Lord the way it should be. We don't want to participate on any thing that is against God's will. We try and live a Christian life and also have two younger kids 3 and 2 years old. Alot of people say we are strict parents we don't isolate her she goes out with friends and all. She was hiding this seceret from us and when God showed us what was going on everything exploded. We tell her that if she wants good things in life she needs to make good dicision in the Lords path. One of them is to honor your parents. And that is the last thing she is doing. She calls she wants to come back home we welcome her in with our rules. We believe giving a good testimony is how the Lord want us to live.
2007-05-12 08:45:15 · 12 answers · asked by Tony 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
cummon, your daughter deserves to be happy, if you think she can handle herself then just let her, you had implanted a lot of good rules and examples on her and i think that's enough..
2007-05-12 08:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's 18. Let her be, give her space and time. She may only need weeks, but possibly years.
Just love her and trust her. She'll come along. If you believe in her and don't push your beliefs on her so much, she'll adjust. She is becoming an adult and needs to make choices on her own. Guiding her is fine, but don't push. My parents did the same, and I left them. I'm 20 now, and I love them more than anything in the world. We are all Christians, but I believe a bit differently than they do, and I just needed my own space and time to figure that out.
Best of luck.
2007-05-12 08:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Brin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think having a boyfriend on its own is wrong, what she wants one for is the bigger issue.
I believe in strict parenting too, but easy on the iron grip there because you can teach your children all the principles they need, but when they can't come to you without being judged and lectured you might as well just shove them into the lion's mouth.
2007-05-12 09:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by jay t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never read in the bible that it states any age specific to having a boyfriend/girlfriend.
What she is doing is probably not what God would agree with but He also understands that in our youth(or any age) we do not always make the best of choices. In Ps. 25:7 David prays: "Do not remember the sins of my youth." Also,Mercy is an attitude of love and forgiveness toward someone who is miserable and undeserving. When David confessed his sin with Bathsheba he cried: "Have mercy upon me, 0 God, according to Your loving kindness." Ps. 51:5. When Paul acknowledged himself to be the chief of sinners, he added: "However, for this reason I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might show all longsuffering." I Tim. 1:16. Many times in the OT we read: "Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good because His mercy endures forever!" We all sin, even you, even me. Repentence is the key!
2007-05-12 08:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a decision only she can make whether she wants to go God's way or not - wouldn't you rather she made a true commitment because she wants to? Yes she should know that you honour God but she should also see how much God loves her and wants her to turn to him - He never bullies us.
2007-05-12 08:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Delerious? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Bless You! I know the feeling when someone is doing something wrong, and doesn't listen to what you say about the things they are doing wrong. The best thing I advice you is to ask God for a forgiving heart, and if she doesn't see what is wrong, then fast and pray for her. Have a Blessed Day!
2007-05-12 08:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren =) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are control freaks perverting the bible to suit your own vanity. LET THAT GIRL LIVE HER LIFE before she rebels and gets knocked up and moves 2,000 miles away to get away from you.
2007-05-12 09:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suffocate your daughter with your religious bull, and now you wonder where you went wrong. You know the answer to that one.
2007-05-12 09:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Fred 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, it is generic. each and every person needs to love and be enjoyed. regrettably, at your age, the adult adult males are no longer waiting. it may take a on a similar time as, yet looking the wonderful guy is extremely actually worth the wait. do no longer settle for in basic terms all and diverse. it is extremely ordinary to be tricked by potential of our thoughts. we ought to evaluate the full guy or woman. i could make a catalogue of the flaws you desire in a husband, their character and stuff. that could help.
2016-11-27 21:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a woman lost in lust.....like everyone eles.
cant tell if this is for me only because I see the flesh or lust. Cuss when I seek God about this I get a negative feeling go through me, when I say for everyone. But I don't get this feeling when I say for me only, that is a wife in heaven.
The lord our God says there is no marriages in heaven... 1 Corinthians 7: 5, 9-11, 28, 31-34( you should read the whole chapter). To sum it up they r not to desire the flesh of THIS WORLD. But there is a way for a virgin to marry without lust. the father says SEEK YE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD(for a wife) and all his righteousness. Everyone is in a spirit not of Gods that causes you to be attracted to one another, called lust. This evil spirit u walk in, so do I so far, lets u be attractive to the opposite sex. Whats wrong with that u say, The devil shows u the wisdom what u call is beautiful, or handsome and put it on many. God is a holy God, and would not create sexual wisdom and put it on many people. It says U must be married in order for God to bless it, that is just a cover up God gave and excepted Lust. Romans 3:10-18 says we go our own way, and that brings missery and distruction. Genesis 6: 1-3 talks about everyone picking there own wifes, so God has not provided anyone with a wife. Not even adam and eve. For God said who told u u were naked. We stole the Body from God. Proverbs (the book of wisdom) 30:18-19 says we do not understand how to love a woman. But the devil will deceive many or all and u will get married, or not get married and lose your sole. For you will lose your soul cause of your love for one another if u r not married. And he will take your wife away from u, if not this world(devorice) he will in heaven. God has another way. Seek his face for a lover not of the flesh, not of this world, but of the spirit. It can only be done though faith. This wisdom is given to u by virgin seeking Gods face for many many yrs on it. Listen to what the world says about being a virgin, the devil is getting everyone to lose it quickly, he is taking something from u, a treasure, a hidden tresure. or he will say get married quickly cuss u probovly can't control yourselfs. But u will call me crazy, for u r blind and I cannot seem to make anyone see.
if u r married, u gave yourself to flesh. Wich is the body. Apostale paul spoke about being a virgion unto God. He beleaved walking close to God could only be done without a woman. I say Only with a woman can a person truely walk close to God. If we all followed Apostle Paul, if we all loved God as much as he did, and wanted to get close to God, and no one married. The world would die. But to desire the flesh is evil....as per Genesis 6:1-3. Even God could not stay with us, cuse we r Flesh or the product of flesh that's in verse 3. God is not part of anyone relationship in verse 2. No one is aloud in heaven with there mates. U r all seperated. That is the reason why I searched for why God threw out marriages in heaven. For his will is suppose to be done on earth as it is in heaven. Why r there no marriages in heaven? Cuss all go our own way, Romans 3:10-18 says this. We think we know what love is, when love is suppose to be our highest goal. But no one looks to heaven. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all his rightousness.
For those that chose this world, the flesh 1 Cor 7:29 but this I say, brethren, the time is short:it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none
If u understand lust and won your wife as a hidden tresure, for it says for her husband shall be found in the gates, where he siteth among the elders of the land( for her husband is very very wise).....Proverbs 31:23 the chapter about a virtues woman.....need KJV....
2007-05-12 09:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋