How do I tell a friend gently, who is always playing the victim that the "sins" she accuses others of are ones she is guilty of herself. Normally I would just pray and say nothing but she is saying some pretty terrible stuff and I can't stand it anymore.
2007-05-12 08:23:12 · 18 answers · asked by Delerious? 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It is not for you to tell her. The Holy Spirit is the one who convicts us. Just keep praying for her and let Him do the work. It will have a lot more impact when it comes from Him.
2007-05-12 08:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by lix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must decide if her friendship is worth losing or not because usually saying something like that will alter your friendship to the point where there will be none. If you don't mind losing her as a friend go ahead and tell her. Do not mince words but be nice and tell her that she's driving you nuts by complaining about others when she does the same thing.
2007-05-12 09:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Midge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably talk with your pastor about the best approach to helping her realize her habit of doing that. She is a friend of yours so you do like various things about her, but this is going to hurt her in the long run. One verse that speaks about this is where the Bible says if we would judge OURSELVES we would not be judged.
In other words, instead of pointing the finger at everyone else look in the mirror and point the finger at the one person that you really can change, yourself!
2007-05-12 08:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u come on 2 strong, she may not grasp the full meaning of what u r saying to her.
Try having her reflect on herself, if the traits she sees in others is not also in herself.
We ALL have room for improvement.
Remember this, remove the rafter from ur own eye?
2007-05-12 08:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you say to her and how depends upon her disposition and respect for Bible counsel. If she is one who respects the Bible you could share a scripture or two with her that points to her behavior. This will not work if you yourself do not follow Bible counsel because Her mind will immediately shut, thinking "Who is SHE to tell Me what the Bible says."
Without knowing exactly what her complaints are, a good place to begin would be to follow Jesus example of asking questions to get her to think, reason and come to conclusions on her own.
at Matthew 17:25, Jesus asked: “What do you think, Simon? From whom do the kings of the earth receive duties or head tax? From their sons or from the strangers?” Jesus’ thought-provoking questions helped Peter draw his own correct conclusion about paying the temple tax. Similarly, when responding to the man who asked, “Who really is my neighbor?” Jesus contrasted the actions of a priest and a Levite with those of a Samaritan. Then he posed this question: “Who of these three seems to you to have made himself neighbor to the man that fell among the robbers?” (Luke 10:29-36) Here again, rather than thinking for his listener, Jesus invited him to answer his own question.—Luke 7:41-43.
When correcting a wrong view, he would ask his listeners why they thought, said, or did certain things. Yet, so as not to leave it at that, Jesus coupled his query with a statement, an illustration, or an action that encouraged them to view matters correctly. (Mark 2:8; 4:40; 8:17; Luke 6:41, 46) We can likewise help our listeners by suggesting that they ask themselves such questions as: ‘Why does this course of action appeal to me? Why do I react to this situation as I do?’ Then supply motivation for them to view matters from Jehovah’s standpoint.
2007-05-12 11:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 07:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you will not pass judgment on any person.Because God is the ONLY one who has that right.That you are sorry she feels the way she does but should pray to the Lord for help with her problems not condemn.
2007-05-12 08:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Christal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone I wouldn't want to be a friend with. Perhaps it's time you removed yourself from this toxic situation. Life's too short to spend it with someone like that.
2007-05-12 08:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NOTHING!
Don't point out the imperfections in others, attempt to correct the imperfections in yourself instead.
If you say anything to her, then you would be guilty of the same offense that you are pointing out.
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2007-05-12 08:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell her to check the log in her own eye before she goes spouting off about others' shortcomings.
2007-05-12 08:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Red Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋