I am 28 years old. My boyfriend is 33. We have been in a relationship for almost 8 years. We met in 98 and briefly (for 5 months) broke up in 2002. The next year we got back together and officially became exclusive, or so I thought. While he was with me, he never broke off the relationship with the other woman. Well, in December of 2005, he got her pregnant. he told me about her and the baby, but (of course) said that he didn't love her and wanted to be with me. Skip ahead to February 2007. He proposed to me, gave me this huge 3.5 carat engagement ring and I accepted. Of course, when the mother found out. she went nuts! My fiancee wants me to be and active part in helping him raise his baby girl. I don't think that it is appropriate for me to try to be involved with the baby right now. Maybe later. I am so confused and don't even know how to begin to handle this situation. Pleas help!
2007-05-12 07:47:41 · 7 answers · asked by sassi red 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He cheated on you and will continue to do so even after marrying you. Don't even fool yourself into thinking otherwise. You really need to find a different guy, this one will just keep breaking your heart. You are too immature and naive to get married at this point in your life. You really think you have a choice in whether or not you have to help him raise his love child. You don't, if you marry him that child is your responsibility to help raise. You will be it's stepmother, and you have to help whether or not you want too. Sorry to say, but you don't get a choice.
2007-05-12 07:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so many reasons why you shouldn't get married to this guy.
The main one is he was two timing you with this other woman when supposedly you were in a exclusive relationship.
And now somehow you are supposed to help raise his child from another woman...how is that at all fair to you? It's is his responsibility, not yours.
Please break off the engagement and stop seeing this guy, he is really bad for you.
2007-05-12 07:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're joking, right? I'm not even gonna touch the fact that you took him back and then held on when he didn't term the other relationship. "Maybe later" is key. Right now, no way. I don't know if I'd ever be involved, unless he somehow got solecustody of the kid, which won'thappen. Your efforst would be better spent making sure he has no other kidspopping up elsewhere.
2007-05-12 07:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't get married or even engaged if you are not ready for the responsibility. Apparently his behavior is not really a problem for you. You know he cheated on you even after telling you it was over with some other woman.
You should really have a long talk with him and tell each other the truth.
2007-05-12 07:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF are you kidding me gal? Get outta there!
What a two faced cheating loser. And how dare he cheat on you with another woman for 3 YEARS then thin he can give you a massive diamond (get it checked it could be a fake) and then expect you to take an interest in his love brat.
Spit in his cheatin face and walk out the door, then sell his poxy ring on ebay!
Unless he's rich in which case marry the nob and then divorce him taking half his money.
Seriously girl, have some self respect and no matter how much you think you love him he is a 2 face cheatin b@stard and he wont change.
2007-05-12 07:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by laurasimonuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry you had to be certain about his real nature this way! i imagine any guy who can attempt it is a lost reason. 'Love' isn't strolling out on the mummy of your toddler, no remember what he claims to sense. yet "do not contact me"? it truly is not any longer the way it fairly works. even if he likes it or no longer, he's growing a father with each and every of the popular jobs that comprise the job, even if he continues to be with you. If he gained't step as a lot as grant for his toddler, get the courts to rigidity him to. Edit @first light: wipe that spittle off your chin, will ya. nice rant, yet no individual reported to get the tax payers to %. up the invoice of elevating her toddler. we are saying the daddy has to pay his percentage for the youngster HE conceived consisting of her. And to take legal action if the daddy is one of those deadbeat that he would not step up. @Sapphire: Are you kidding? SHE took each and every precaution. SHE become on the pill. This probably does no longer have occurred if HE had also taken about an oz. of duty and used condoms as his percentage in taking 'each and every precaution'.
2016-10-18 07:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to marry him, this baby is going to be a part of your life forever. it is not the child's fault that she is in this situation, so irecomend you grow up and accept the situation for what it is. i don;t think it is selfish of him to want you to be involved with his daughte, for she is part of his life now!! good luck!
2007-05-12 07:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋