So, this is about the same guy i wrote about before. For the past 2 weeks we have been talking, and we did reveal to each other that we liked each other too. He has turned out to be a really cool, funny, and sweet guy. The thing is, whenever we talk on the phone or chat or text, we talk fine, but at school all we do is joke around and flirt. Hardly any socializing going on, and i feel like we have more connection with technology..Whenever we are face to face, its like hes hiding his feelings i guess..Besides, it was me that admitted i liked him first, when i asked him if he did, he was like " well, what would you think if I did?" What kind of question is that? He confuses me alot, and I don't know if i should still keep tlaking to him if he isn't going to start towards the next level. I don't want to waste my time, if he isn't going to do anything. I always make things easier for him, like beign the one to start up the conversation. He's hard to understand soemtimes..I just don't know.
2007-05-12 07:18:08 · 16 answers · asked by Chase P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I come from a strict family, no dating whatever, but who listens right? I'd actually take the chance to date him, but he's doing nothing about it. It makes me wonder if he likes me enough...he jokes around too much...Jokes are ok soemtimes, but he plays around too much, to the point where i ask myself, "do i REALLY like this guy? who is he?. So i don't know...
2007-05-12 07:28:39 · update #1
The thing is he's the more experienced dater, i've actually never had a boyfriend. He's told me that i'm differnt and that theres just soemthing special about me. He's great, but confusing..He never says anythign straightfoward, he makes it like i already know the answer. Of course i know, i just want to hear him tell me it. We never really have a serious talk anyways, whenever i try, he always trys to make it funny or idk. Then i forget what i was supposed to say to him.
2007-05-12 08:09:57 · update #2
I think you need to obey your parents, there is one thing about older folk, if they are not absolutely right they have an idea of what they are saying. It doesn't sound to me as if that guy mean you any good. He is obviously not serious and you spoke to him being a more experienced dater! I would change that to more experienced flirter. He likes you because you like him and that's just not cool. you are young and need to focus more on school than on this guy. He doesn't even want to communicate with you. He is taking you for a joke and you are falling for him. Take heed your parents' advice. On the other hand he maybe just cannot control himself around you. You may be sweeping him off his feet and he is having his tongue tied up with your beauty.
2007-05-20 06:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well, it's easier when the two of you are alone and there's no one around to impress or listen in on your conversations.
Just give it time, I'm sure he'll open up and become more comfortable to the fact that you guys might have something.
And the sneakiness (with the questions like "well what would you think if I did?") is probably just his way of trying to figure out his own feelings. He probably does like you if he's still making an effort to talk to you and flirt with you and stuff .
You might want to try bringing it up. I'm sure if you tell him, "hey, you know I really do like you but you're sending me a lot of mixed signals here...should I be wasting my time with something that might not happen or do you seriously like me?"
I'm sure that will be a big wake up.
Just give it time
:-)
2007-05-12 14:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by marshmallow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guys point of view............chase............what you have here is a failure to communicate...huh...well he's shy...chances are he has been shot down before by a girl he really liked and he doesn't want to go thru that imbarrassment again...would you? but on the other hand i think what you need is to go out with this guy a time or two...by his answer to your question i would say he does but he cant admit it right now...the question he posed as an answer says this...well, what would you say if i did...i would say he answered your question without answering your question...make sense?
you two need to be alone then he may open up...if you are really interrested in him you need to talk to him and make him comfortable talking to you...give him a chance to get used to you liking him...this may be new to him...he may have never had a girlfriend before...although he may never admit it...lol...
but give the guy a chance and who knows he may be your MR. Right...for life...but see how he acts while you two are alone and go from there...it may take a few times for him to open up in public but i promise, once he gets used to being with you, you may not be able to shut him up...lol...be safe...be kind... and i wish you love...
2007-05-12 14:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to put himself out there too much in case he gets hurt. If you don't return a public display of affection at school he would be embarrassed and he doesn't want to risk that.
He wants to feel sure that you are sincere before he heads the towards the "next level". Time to ask him out on a date!
2007-05-12 14:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by raichasays 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of have sort of the same situation with one of my exes right now me and him joke a lot at school but we talk seriously and openly on the phone and through text he admitted he liked me but i dont thank he's any where near as shy as your guy! just give it time and read more into what he says even at school when he said 'well what whoul you think if i did' he was saying 'yes i do like you but i want to know you're reaction before i admit it'!!!
2007-05-20 14:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel talk to him like maybe at school talk 2 him like you do in techinlogy, if he tries to joke around give him a serious face.
2007-05-12 14:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shyness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he probably like you a LOT, and when he's actually in your presence he's too overwhelmed to think and talk straight.
On the phone it's easier, because he can't see and smell you, and other hot, bodily things that turn men's minds to mush.
CD
2007-05-12 14:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is scared to be rejected ("well what would you think if i did?").
Tell him that you think you are doing all the work but if he won't open up to you then... fill this in...
If you're tired of it, then tell him. Best to be open about these things. Tell him you really like him but you don't like that he's jumping back and forth. Make sure that he knows that he's appreciated, because it sounds like he's unsure about your feelings.
2007-05-12 14:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by :Sheila: 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can mean two things:
1. he really likes you but he is shy wen u guys are face to face or around other ppl
2. he doesnt like you, and is lonely and just needs somebody to talk to
2007-05-12 14:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up, "Look, if you are not willing to be more than friends with me, then we might as well not be friends at all."
If he truly likes you, he will be hurt and immediately say "No, I like you."
If he just brushes you off and says, "Whatever," he is not worth your time.
2007-05-12 14:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Peacock11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋