Single Moms mothers day :-(?

Question

i am a single mom of 2 and love my kids more than anything, and I'm getting sad thinking about mothers day and all the stuff "other" moms will do and get tomorrow and I'll be lucky if there father even calls and tells me happy mothers day, although i shouldnt care it really makes me sad, my kids are so precious and i just dont understand how a parent woulnt want to be in their childs life, i take care of them by myself everyday and dnt ask any1 for any thing and their father doesnt appreciate it.. my mom always get me something from the kids for mothers day but i really dont want her 2 bc its not her responsibility... am i alone or do other ppl feel this way :-( i need encouragement...thanks

Answer 1

My parents just got divorced 3 years ago and my father never calls my mom. They were married SO long,but he doesn't care about calling my mom for birthdays or anything like that. My mother only cares if her children appreciates her everyday and mothers day. It only matters that your children appreciates you. Don't be sad on mothers day b/c you have your children and your mom by your side. Don't worry that your ex wont call you. He isn't worth it. Have A beautiful mothers day with your children. Keep a big smile on your face. HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!! :)

Answer 2

I hear your pain. I'm a single Mom of three. Their Dad is not involved financially or otherwise. My kids do what they can. I have very few relatives, my only sibling is dead. It's me, the kids and my mom. I know my Mom would take the kids shopping, but I don't want gifts. My middle one helped in the yard today. I guess that's better than anything I could want. I do it all, earn all the money, clean, cook, home repairs maintenance, doctor visits, paperwork, homework. I have kids 24/7, never a break. I hope you at least have a break from the kids once in a while. Anyway, no one wants to hear any of my pain or struggle. Just know you are not alone, it's just that us solo parents are so busy taking care of business that nobody notices that we missed the party.
Happy Mothers Day

Answer 3

I was you for more years than I care to remember,,,,,,as trite as it sounds, try to think about what you do have not what you don't.......and you know what.......do something nice for yourself.....make yourself your favorite meal, or splurge on some cut flowers or something, rent a movie you like for a change and pour yourselve a drink and enjoy it once they go to bed, give yourself SOMETHING to enjoy other than being a mom, I know that sounds odd to say for mothers day but you need a break too and sometimes doing something for yourself benefits them ageat deal too and


the heck with the ex, be happy if he doesn't call, who wants to hear from a loser like that?......don't put yourself down so low that a call from him would mean anything and if he does call don't take his call, tell him you're busy enjoying your day with your children.....

I was alone but am not now. It does get better, it does get easier, it does have it's rewards, assuming you and your kids are healthy you do have alot more than others do, I am not in any way suggesting you are selfish, I get it, totally, but you do have your own family there and that is a blessing. Right now you need to depend on you, so y ou wish yourself a happy moms day, make a mental note of ALL you have done as a mother that is good, infact outstanding.


Happy mothers day to you and be proud of yourself, as I am of you for being a mom under difficult circumstances and god bless you and keep you sane!!!!!!!

PS////some family holidays are so very over rated......lot's of em just fight and have bad days.......

PSS.....about renting the movie.....don't rent beaches.....your eyes will be swollen for a week!!!!!

Today, next day from above response....is mothers day....HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!!!!!!!!.....I said a little parayer for you and I hope you feel it!!!!

Answer 4

Single mom with absent father here too. I decided early on this about mothers day. I will start a tradition and every mothers day my son and I go for a walk. A walk doesn't cost money and it is an opportunity to get away from the house. In addition, every mothers day I sit down and write a letter to my son about all I am grateful for, what his favorite things are, silly things he does or says, how he was an amazing gift from God and what I want for him. It is my legacy to him.


Take them be of service to others. It is a good way to give and you will receive even more. It is a memory you can create for them and for yourself. Serve food to the homeless, or visit the elderly in a home somewhere.


My point is this: Down the road, your kids will not recall how much money you spent. They WILL remember the QUALITY of time you spend with them.


Mothers day is YOUR celebration. Honor that and teach your kids how to celebrate it in a way that is meaningful for them and for you. Start your own tradition. It is not your fault if their father decided he wasn't ready to be a dad. Celebrate Gratitude. Best to you!!

Answer 5

I have always thought Mother's day should be a celebration between a mother and her children. Why not celebrate the love between you 3 by making a special mother's day breakfast with your kids? I don't know how old your kids are, but this is a good way to teach them that they don't have to be rich to show love. True love is expressed in the little things you do for each other.

If your kids are old enough you could ask them to name 10 things they love about you. I did this with my kids and it is always more meanigful than something they bought in a store.

Answer 6

I'm in the same situation as you! I have 2 kids; 1-10 years old, 1-6 years old and I am pregnant 31 weeks pregnant. My husband left us 3 weeks ago and I am feeling so depress too...even if I will be spending all day with my kids I can't stop thinking that my husband is not going to be next to me just like previous days :(

Answer 7

Hello, I'm from a single parent family, (child not mother). I'm sorry you feel like that. I hope you have a happy mothers day. My dad did not leave (died) so my situation is a bit different. I always though the kids (depending on age) showed appreciation to their mums, not partners.

Don't worry about your mother helping on mothers day, she is helping to show she is on your side so bear that in mind if you choose to tell her not to.

If the father is that inconsiderate i would worry less about him and remember its 'mothers day' not 'fathers day'.

You sound like a fantastic mother so i sincerely hope mothers day is great like you deserve. :)

Answer 8

You will need to find the gift for Mother's Day in your children. They need you now and you need them.

You should really focus all your attention on them and the support system around them that loves you.

You cannot expect anything from the deadbeat Dad.

Also, don't have any more children. Don't go looking for any more Dads. You've had your fun. You've rolled the dice. Now you must sacrifice yourself for the kids.

Check out Dr. Laura.com. She has good advise for single Moms.

Answer 9

First off it is mother's day...not ex wife day. If he appreciated you and everything you do, something tells me he wouldn't be your ex, so stop wishing that he will acknowlege and validate you. If it hasn't happened before, I think it is safe to say he isn't going to start now. Until my kids went to school I never received anything for mother's day, or any other holiday that a friend didn't help out with....so you learn to deal with it. Start your own family traditions and celebrations to make them special and your own.

Answer 10

Well, Happy mothers day to you, I hope your day goes well. If no else appreciates you , I do. I was a single dad to my beautiful daughter.