my bf n I R 27 been together 4 months-no sexual contact bc of his "beliefs". I finally told him i felt unwanted and needed some kind of physical contact bc i n others started ? his sexuality (i didn't say that part). he said he was waiting for a sign from god to have sex with me-wierd?he doesn't act religious in other ways though.anyway days after that n days after i was introduced at his family reunion he EMAILS me he wants a break. i wait a week call him leave a message that i need some kind of communication he EMAILS me back he's "not interested in a relationship anymore and we can get together next week to talk about some things".i know he's been busy and stressed from work-i'm hoping he realizes he made a mistake when things clam down. with no closure n no communication i'm going crazy here.I call his sister and we figure out that he has been lying. he told her our breakup was mutual and in conv. i realize he had lied to me about a previous relationship. just looking for thoughts.
2007-05-12 05:59:41 · 3 answers · asked by Jax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds gay to me. You should read the book from former NJ Govenor Jim McGreevy's wife - she explains the signs she failed to recognize. Saw her on Oprah.
2007-05-12 06:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abstaining from sex for religious reasons isn't commonplace, but there are females *and* males that still continue this practice. It doesn't mean he's heartless/scared of committment/gay. Religion doesn't sweep up the masses anymore, so avoiding sex for something so intangible seems odd to many people, but for some individuals, religion is a deep fixture in their hearts and psyche. (I'm not instantly recongnized as religious either...I dress like a liberal, cuss sometimes, drink sometimes, hang out with potheads sometimes, but I am Christian and also practice abstinence).
It was good of him to contact you to end the relationship at all...many men don't do that. But it was not cool that he lied to you and his sis (three times). I think even non-religious people would agree that lying is usually wrong...and covering one's butt is often not a good enough excuse to lie.
I'm sad to say that I doubt that he will try to rekindle the relationship. People (perhaps especially men) follow their passions. Thing that they're not passionate about (Gameboy games, Rubix cubes, even peoples' hearts)...they fiddle with until they either break them or set them down. And he doesn't seem to have many passions about women...(NO physical contact?!). It could be that he has a low sex drive that causes him to only have fleeting interest in girls.
Don't blame yourself for this, however. There are limitless reasons why he would move on prematurely--it doesn't mean that you are inadequate in any way (although girls tend to jump to that conclusion a lot.)
Without communication, this week is gonna be frustrating, but hold on. Try not to internalize this situation and I think that you'll be fine. ^_^
2007-05-12 06:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by YearoftheRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh this dude is not gay he's just hearless and scared of commitment..........he might be interested in another girl the onlly way to find out is to ask him ur self
2007-05-12 06:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by ɱýšƗȉɋǔȇ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋