believe his mommy capable of being anythin g less than perfect. if theres a problem than he thinks its me- not his perfect mamma. sides have been drawn and my hubby picked his mamma. does anyone understand why i dont see him as a man and wont let him touch me. dont say work it out with the mamma. she has what she wants. she has her little mammas boy. i stay here only till my kids are 18. then look out i am looking for someone else. does anyone blame me? do you think i am selfish? would any of you other ladies put up with this. i have been married 25 years. i have slept alone for the last 10 years
2007-05-12 05:45:25 · 5 answers · asked by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you're stupid enough to stay, don't whine about it. You could leave, don't hand us that crap about the kids. You're just too lazy to get off your fat butt and leave.
No, I wouldn't put up with it and I wouldn't stay.
2007-05-12 06:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a loveless marriage. If he loved you, this wouldn't be an issue.
I completely understand the whole mother in law routine. My mother in law told my husband he had to choose between us. It didn't work out the way she had hoped. I would never have told him to choose, but if he had sided with her when she told him to pick a side, I would have left. It was one month before our wedding.
Don't stay married just for the children, it isn't healthy for them. If you and your husband can't work it out, you may as well leave. I can't imagine being in your situation, it must be very stressful. If it is, the children will pick up on it.
2007-05-12 13:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage counselor would be your only hope. Sounds like things are pretty entrenched. And it's a very old story, with the MIL making sonny make a choice. It's just stupidity really, no one's happy when she forces that kind of choice.
I like my son's girlfriends. And when it's time to marry, I hope he chooses someone like the young ladies he has chosen to date. They make him happy in a way that a mother cannot. And isn't that lovely? It is if you're well adjusted.
Happy mother's day. Hang in there.
2007-05-12 12:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't blame your MIL for marital problems - yes, I'm blunt but that's the truth unless she's tells you to divorce her son or tells her son to...even then she can be dealt with verbally and that's the end of it if that were the case but it doesn't look like that.
"i have slept alone for the last 10 years" - your role is to be this man's wife not his dictator and marriage is as one including the issue of the marital bed and yours is half empty based on your choice. If I called your MIL and asked her if she ordered you not to be her son's wife what would she say to me?
2007-05-12 13:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you not selfish, Why would you want to stay in a loveless marriage just for the kids sake?
2007-05-12 12:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋