My mom thinks that I am fat and buys me clothes that are WAY too big for me. She takes what is on the clearance rack, and if I don't like it, she calls me ungrateful! She had money, but she is just like that.
She 'borrows' my money and never pays me back, and if she does, she takes months to! A couple of months back, she took all my savings ($150) and paid me HALF of it today! Most of the time, I NEVER get my money back!
Last week, we had lots of guests over. I talked to my mom beforehand because I didn't want her to kick me out of my room and put a guest to sleep in MY bed. She promised me she wouldn't, but then SHE DID! I didn't sleep well for about a WEEK, and I felt tired at school! When I talked to her about it, she told me to go to hell! I wasn't even rude to her!
Now she denies everything, and doesn't even apoligize! She always says that she wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but all she ever does IS hurt me!
Now I am really stressed, and PISSED OFF!
Can ANYBODY help me?
2007-05-12 05:15:02 · 20 answers · asked by . 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have issues with my dad too, and I don't talk to him because he hates all of us (his five kids). Yeah, my parents are married, but they act like they want to divorce, but I know they can't afford that. I dunno. Sometimes they act so happy towards each other, the next they are cussing each other out. Anyways, I can't talk to my dad about it. The rest of my siblings suck except for my oldest brother who just got married. He is the reason why we had so many guests over in the 1st place, cuz of his marriage. Anyways, my only grandparents are the ones on my mom's side, and since she tells them crap about me, they agree with her and think I'm a brat. My aunt and uncle are really cool, and they don't have any kids, but I dunno if I can move in with them. I wish that I could. They live in Florida like us, but they live all the way in Tampa, so it a long drive. I would love to live up there though. I would like to change schools and be the new kid cuz it's fun.
2007-05-12 05:31:50 · update #1
the school counselor for my grade level (7th) is a racist, but i can talk to the 6th grade one, i guess. she really likes me. i guess i'll try that.
but who can i call?
2007-05-12 05:33:36 · update #2
I PROMISE U SHE ISN'T ON DRUGS.
LMAO!
2007-05-12 05:36:05 · update #3
are you my sister? i think we may have the same mother
2007-05-12 05:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that she calls you fat, steals your money and tells you to go to hell. I know how much that must hurt you. Please don't believe any of the negative things anybody says about you. You know whats true and what is not. I don't want to make excuses for your mother, but maybe she is stressed out to and unintentionally takes it out on you. Parents don't get a handbook that shows them how to be a parent, they have to figure it out themselves. Some do a really good job, some don't and some are in between. They teach by example and you have the choice to learn from what you see. Talk to your older brother the one that got married,ask him how your mom treated him and you can ask your other siblings as well. Always try to find the positive things around you and learn from the negative. Good luck
2016-05-21 03:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a counselor at school or a teacher you trust. You have tried to talk to your mom and it's obvious that things aren't changing. The school can talk to your mom and she would have to listen to them if she cares about how well you do in school. As for your money, you need to hide it really good. Not under the matress or in a box-somewhere really good, like in the closet. Most closets have a long top shelf, if you have one of those, hide it there between quilts, blankets or boxes of some kind. Make it look normal-so it doesn't look fishy. As for clothes, you should consider going shopping by yourself or with a friend, so you can get clothes that fit you.
You might also want to consider moving in with a different family member or a close friend if things don't change.
Good luck!
2007-05-12 05:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough, move out. If not, you will have to abide by her rules. Put your money in the bank under just your name. That way she won't be able to take it. Is there a relative like an aunt or a grandparent you can live with?
2007-05-12 05:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and here's three Ideas
1st
Write a respectable letter to your mother about how you feel about her. Make a date with her. Tell her you would like to spend some time with her to talk. Take her out to eat somewhere she likes. Get her a small token gift. And on your way to this outing, present the gift and tell her that you care about both you and her. When You get seated give her the letter and tell her to read it after you both have eaten. Hopefully, she realizes that you are trying to work on your relationship with her. Hopefully she read and listened. Writing this letter helps you and helps throughly to communicate the issues. Stay focused, do not argue, Be respectful and listen to her and what she feels. Make sure you tell her how you feel. Also try to have solutions, like time-outs from each other. times to relate emotions to each other about each other. And so on.
2nd
Find Someone you trust. Someone your mother admires and respects (has positive reactions to). Tell this one person truthfully, what you are going through and ask that person to address the issues with your mother.
I did this same thing when I was younger. I talked to my grandfather and my aunt. They addressed the issue when they seen for themselves what was happening to me. My mother let up on me for a bit. And my mother understood that I could communicate my feelings. Not to her, but to others willing to listen.
3rd
Reflect on what you may be doing to possibly provoke her. Somethings may sound very unreasonable at times coming from parents. But Parents are to protect and guide children to becoming and feeling the best they can about themselves. So look deep at what you are doing or not doing. If you feel that you are doing what is expected ask another relative adult to hear your side.
2007-05-12 05:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by jbdossjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We must have the same mother. I just posted a question about mine. I don't know your age but the only way I got away from mine was to marry at 17 and that was stupid on my part. I don't know if I have any words to help you other than to let you know that you are not alone. I will pray for you.
2007-05-12 05:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ned to work hard so that when you are old enough legally, you can move out...apply to colleges that are far away, try to see the rest of world...don't think about what your mother is doing to you, people always aim for your weaknesses...
2007-05-12 05:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by new jeroo dime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide the remote, sully her underwear, move the furniture. Do it all subtley, and don't let her know your doing it. Gas light like crazy, mention her menstrual cycle in front of people in public, but pretend to relate toa problem your having, then say "nevermind".
2007-05-12 05:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds familar, with the attitude and borrowing money often it sounds like it might be drugs.
Hide your money in a new spot, mabey even with another trusted adult, but that is hard to find sometimes.
2007-05-12 05:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Aurain_Lorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your unde 18 years of age, sounds like child abuse to me. Talk to your teachers or go to social services. There are people there who can help you and see how much she can hurt you after that.
2007-05-12 05:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by J T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want my advice you should lose some wieght, steal some of her money, and ask her to tell you to go to heaven.
2007-05-12 05:20:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋