so we didn't talk to each other for about one day and today I tried to talked to him about it and he said "he didn't want to talk about it" he knows he is wrong so I (been a pyscho) got mad at him and told him that was wrong and since he kept on blowing me off I went outside the room and broke a bunch of pictures of his daugther that were hanging on the wall and left. Know I am back at the house and is all silence. I know I ****** up okay but now what?
2007-05-12 04:57:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well that was the first step, knowing what you did was wrong too. Next would be to apologize to him about it. This is called, " leading by example", yes it will be hard to do but you should so he can see how easy it is to do and he will also see it will not kill him either. People fight all the time and have ever since time began. Even if he still does not apologize afterwards then at least you have gotten your point across. Stooping to his level does not help. Good luck.
2007-05-12 05:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he did not want to talk about things because he knew that you would blow up. No matter what he did it could not have been enough for you do act out like you did. The breaking of his daughter pictures was deliberately mean and vicious. You did that because you were trying to be mean. Why could you not just let things quiet down a little? Why did you have to destroy something to get attention and then leave? you need to realize that there needs to be a cooling of period. Allow time for the anger to go away but let it be known that you will be discussing the problem later. I think that you both do not communicate. Apologize for what you have done and fix it. Then you two really need to decide if you want to be together. You both need counseling for this to get better. If you do not then there is no hope for any kind of relationship. It will only get worse.
2007-05-12 12:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k. Maybe he doesn't feel that he is completely wrong. Maybe both of you are wrong. That is very possible. The thing is you may have to apologize to him before you get an apology, because maybe he feels that you owe him one. ANd you really do now, since you busted up his little girls pictures. Try to sit down and talk to him reasonable. And if you start getting mad, then take a break in the conv tell you cool down. Don't start yelling again, and if you find it getting to that point stop and then think about what you are saying.
2007-05-12 12:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well first thing is first, Men don't like to apologize or admit they were wrong. It shows weakness according to some and some men believe they most be strong all the times! So even though he "didn't want to talk about it", you should've kept your cool and said, "well you may not but I do, so when you are ready to listen to me, let me know".
Now as to breaking a bunch of pictures of his daughter, that was a little harsh. Maybe you should just try to sit down with him, and explain how you felt. Maybe he will understand that you felt hurt because he didn't want to talk with you when you wanted to. Try to explain to him that you were angry, and made a bad judgement call when it came to releasing your anger. I believe if you try to handle it like adults(ask him to go to a public place for a drink) and talk it out, you can work through it, but you BOTH have to work on communications with each other. Tell him that it hurt when he didn't talk to you. Tell him it felt like he was just brushing you off. And apologize for releasing your anger on the wrong target!
The only way to work through mistakes are to learn from them, and hopefully work them out. I believe this problem just needs some good ol' conversation!
2007-05-12 12:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by Tony C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend was wrong when he didn't want to talk to you. People who won't communicate are a big pain in the a#@. But now - you've stooped to his level. He was being a non-communicater (very passive aggressive in my opinion) and you reacted and became a picture breaker.
Make your end right. Apologize and replace the pictures. Then figure out quick if this man is somebody you really want to spend your time with (I kind of doubt it. Don't you want somebody who will TALK!?!?!?!?) - and move forward.
All you can control is yourself. Are you in a happy place? What's keeping you from being in a happy place? His wrong behavior? Well - you can't change him. All you can change is YOU!! Being around his passive aggressive behavior makes you angry and destructive. Is that who you really are? If not - then you have the power to remove yourself from the situation. Use your power. But remember - you have no power to change him or to make him talk.
Hope that helped.
2007-05-12 12:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things we do in life can never be undone. The problem is that you are jealous of his daughter and that is wrong. She did not ask to be brought into this world and just wants to have a close releationship with her dad. You cannot take her place in his heart no matter how hard you try. I am sure he wants to love you but that releationship has to be different. You need to apologize for what you have done and promise to never do anything like that agian.
2007-05-12 12:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should go to him and calmly and sincerely apologize for acting immature and breaking pictures of his daughter. Then you need to explain that you acted that way because he hurt your feelings by blowing you off, and not apoligizing. But tell him you understand that the way you acted was wrong. Try to get him to open up, but don't attack him
2007-05-12 12:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for overreacting and breaking momentos of his daughter..And back off about the other problem in which he was wrong..Let him talk to you in his own time..Otherwise you risk pushing him away and forcing up barriers that'll ultimately end the relationship.
2007-05-12 12:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Pumbaa1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are a "psycho" girlfriend, he needs to dump you now. Of course he didn't want to talk to you, this is the way you act when upset. I highly doubt he was fully at fault, it never works out that way.
He needs to find a girlfriend that isn't go emotionally high maintenance.
2007-05-12 12:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd never talk to you again if you did that... And you want him to apologize to you? Good luck with that. You should feel lucky if he even will talk to you at all again. So just drop it and sweep it under the rug. Thats what you should do. And expect him to move on. Just prepare, as its likely it will happen.
2007-05-12 12:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by brandonb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋