This woman is driving me crazy!! What do I do!?

Question

I know it's not a good thing to talk about your boyfriends mom badly, but this woman is crazy!

My boyfriend and I are both 16 and we've been going out for about 5 months. We hang out, but not as much as we used to, and this is mostly because of his mom. He has his own car (which he paid for) and his own cell phone (which he pays the monthly bills) but his mom still takes away his car and won't let him text at night, before bed. This is my first boyfriend, so curfew in the past hasn't been much of an issue for me. But for him, he's had quite a few gf's in the past, he's gotta be home @ 9 sharp on school nights ("if you're home @ 9:01 your car is gone for a week") and usually 11 on weekends! Idk about you, but I think that this is ridiculous! I like his mom most of the time, she just has weird, extremely-strict rules. He got home 15 min. late last night and now can't do anything this weekend. I love him so much though, and don't want to break up with him, but this is making me crazy!

I've asked him in the past why she doesn't trust him, and I've told him that she should talk to her, but it's almost like he's afraid to. My parent's say that he's just got respect for her, and I understand that, but this is really putting a damper on our relationship. She tells him that he can do things, early in the week, but then, say if we want to do something on Friday night, she'll tell him on Thursday night that he can't. I hate that I always get let down...please give me some advice!

Answer 1

I know it's tough that you can't spend as much time with him as you would like, and it may seem ridiculous for him to have a curfew, but try and look at this curfew deal in his mom's shoes.

She knows that her son is not in any sort of danger with him being home as early as he is. With him being home that early, she won't have to worry about a telephone call late at night or the wee hours in the morning saying that something bad has happened to her son. She knows that her son is not possibly making some random drug deal or anything else sketchy. All she's doing is just watching out for him as well as teaching him responsibility.

Maybe to spend more time with him, let his mom know on Monday of that week that you all are planning to go out on Friday and keep reminding her so she won't say that you all never told her. She may think that it's irresponsible to tell her your plans on Thursday if you may have known about them for more than a day. Just help his mom prove that your boyfriend is responsible and she may start to loosen up.

Answer 2

She is not crazy she is just a woman of her word. What she says goes. If you love him so much you would help him keep his curfew. Paying his own bills she is teaching him to be responsible at a early age. You or some woman will think her for all this in the future. Stop being a brat an help him keep the curfew. I know your the reason he was late.(right) 9 on a school night is not bad 11 on the weekend is not bad your a girl i think the same should apply to u. I think he has a loving caring mother who is doing a hell of a good job especially if there is no male figure involved.

Answer 3

I wish my ex-boyfriend's mom was more like her. It may seem harsh to you, but it also teaches him to be responsible. When you go out with an irresponsible boyfriend who is late to every date and cancels things at the last minute (and also frequently forgets to pay his debt), you'll be thinking what I'm thinking. You may not think so, but 16 is still very young and it's easy to go astray at that age. I was 16 a couple of years ago. Btw, I don't know where you live, but 9 PM and 11 PM are very lenient curfews.

Answer 4

My 16 year old niece ended up breaking up with a boy for that reason. The mother would not allow him to go somewhere at the last minute and then my niece was left without anything to do. She finally decided that she was not going to sit home just because he couldn't go out.

If you really love him you could work this out though. Go out with your friends if he can't go out. This isn't really his fault. And I am afraid you are going to have to put up with boyfriend's mothers for a long time. Some time you will have a mother-in-law and believe me, this is much worse.

His mother does seem extra strict but he may be worth it, only you can decide that.

Good luck to you.

Answer 5

It sounds to me as though his mother has made discipline a strict part of rearing her children. This is a good thing. You may not like it, but he's 16, and rules are rules. Get used to it and don't give him a hard time with it. Try respecting his mother for taking the hard road to raise a decent man.

Answer 6

tell mom that he's a responsible young man and that she needs to learn to let him go-he's soon to go into adulthood, she cant control him forever! but also, he needs to prove he can be trusted so he can have some more leeway! if she cant listen to reason, well....you're only 16 and by the time you leave high school you two may be on two different levels anyways, believe me i thought my sweet sixteen gf would be my wife but in hindsight i've done so much bettter!

Answer 7

I could feel the man is psycho. Acting nonchalant, then telling the woman your loopy approximately her is a little bit severe. Next time check out displaying her that you just like her via taking her out to devour, calling and telling her that you just pass over her, taking her to the films, and many others.

Answer 8

u say u love him.. so just co-operate.. love is not demanding.. u should be happy if he is happy..
u could try improving the situation by befriending ur bf's mom.. try goin out shoppin wid her or cookin or give her some nice recipes.. i mean its tough i know... but u ll ve to go an extra mile if u want to improve chances of success.

Answer 9

If you really love him like you say you do them you'll live with the situatuion... I think is his your first love so maybe it would be good to spend sometime with other people, Because maybe you think you love him, but you don't. So go out with other people.

Answer 10

Run away to Neverland