Is my fiance manipulative?

Question

my fiance always has a problem with what i do such as today we went to a place were i can get a discount and shes on the same card but i didnt think they would let her get the discount i paid for both with our money i got my discount and paid the lousy $2 extra for her ticket so she lectured me for 10 min in front of my child and her little sister about how i shouldnt be incharge of the money she always takes money from my walet puts it in her purse then complains when i dont think to buy any thing for her to suprise her with she does the budget then comes to me then says can i spend money on things i tell her she wants to do the budget she should work it out then she says i dont cook for her or make her breakfast in bed i used to but when i cook if its not excaclty the way she would cook it she wont eat it i ask her what she wants and she dosent know she does do house work but i do my fair share as well i vacuum do the dishes washing ironing etc not all but 35% am i in the wrong

also once i was so mad i took her up on her offer i called the realestate when she told me to leave and set up an appointment to look for a house she then said that i was a prick for doing that plus she insists she has the car which is in my name because she will keep our daughter if i leave and she needs to get around my friend and his fiance which i have known for 15 years have told me to leave her im just not sure what to do

Answer 1

2 words-- Door mat

Answer 2

kinda depends on her past relationships, if she never knew what was going on and was left in the dark about alot of issues,she seems confused on how 2 get what she needs(not wants) theres a difference,sounds like she likes romance,but then doesnt know how 2 except it and enjoy it 4 what it is ,usually small sweet gestures,that in the huslte of things seem 2 get lost,next time u do something nice and she nic pics it ,be kind but exspress that your hurt and u were just trying to make her feel how much u love her(in other words turn the table and dont let her be the victim)dont get angry! As far as the money issue that is usaully a power play,insecurities bring that on, lack of not having b4,alot of people think that the 1 with the money makes the decisions,and thats a crappy feeling,u guys need 2 kinda talk it out,also public demeaning is not exceptable at all,losing control only makes her look like "A crazy *****"(excuse my language) when a child is envolved its harder 2 find me&you time,but usually a young mom has a higher stress level and hey! guess who gets the receiving end of that,you have taken on alot,gotta commend u 4 that,u are the strong one in this relationship,dont feel ur not,just need to find a level playing field,I'm sure u both have strong points ,help her "see" you,but know when to jump a sinking ship,A relationship should make you a better person,not bring out the worse in you.goodluck! very few men out there willing 2 take on what you have.

Answer 3

She is a nag. It will only get worse when you marry her. There are important things to argue about and there are trivial things that should be ignored. From what you said she will nag about anything. It is no fun to be with a nagging woman.
You have three choices:
1. Marry her and get nagged for the rest of your life. In fact the nagging will get WORSE. Once married, a woman feels completely free to be herself. Right now you are only seeing 10% of her nagging.
2. Break up with her.
3. Start standing up for yourself.
Don't attack her. Tell her FIRMLY in a stern voice, "This subject is OVER. I don't want to hear another word." If she continues then say these EXACT same words again. After the third time she will get the message. Then she will probably accuse you of being mean. Ignore this and say, "I am being me and you need to respect this". You need to start training her now that you have boundries that she needs to respect your boundries... The pain she put you through over a STUPID $2 is a small taste of what she will give you once you are married.... Also realize this is YOUR FAULT for allowing her to treat you this way. In some ways it is good to have a woman like this because they force you to either MAN-UP to them or suffer being hen-pecked the rest of your life. The choice is yours.

As a man you have to be the leader of the family. If you leave a power vaccuum, then a manipulative woman will fill that vaccuum. So your choice is easy. Either you take charge or she will take charge. If you take charge, most woman like this and will become more femine and loving. Some women don't like this and may break-up with you so they can find another man to boss around.
Sorry.....but that is your situation.

Answer 4

Nope... you are 100% correct to feel the way you do... In your gut... you know this isn't the woman for you... relationships... marriages... are about two people coming to terms... and developing compromise... it would seem that what's in order is a long personal chat... with her father... get some history... Love is blind... thank goodness... we all have an instance of clear thinking before the jaunt down the aisle... it would seem you've had yours... put off the wedding plans... you don't need a LIFETIME of this treatment...

She isn't manipulative... she's controlling and abusive... cowtowing to her demands... has taught her that you'll submit, and put up with it...If you truely love her... star counselling ... and after you've had a chance to develop some tools to help you... get her to join you so you two can address the problem.... if she refuses... what hope is there that you'll ever be equal partners???

Good luck

Answer 5

First you get to know a person
Then you marry them
Then you have children with them
That way there are a lot less problems.
When you try to do stuff your way it turns out to be a big mess. It sounds like you have been in a relationship before, I guess you never learned anything about picking a woman.

Answer 6

Well two options go your different ways or say I do and it will most likely only get worse and then you lose a lot of money not just a few checks.

Answer 7

There's red-flags all over with this relationship. Get out before it's too late. You'll find someone who makes you happy and you don't have to ask strangers if what she is doing is right or not.

Answer 8

i will inform you desirable now she replaced it by fact she needs you to bypass so which you are going to discover that she loves you and is with you and she or he doesnt choose every person else yet she does what a friendship with that lady as nicely no longer by fact she needs to attach to her yet probable by fact she is relaxing to hold out with on an harmless point... reliable success.... by the way i had a buddy that grow to be bi and it took my fiance' it sluggish to realize that i wasnt going to attach to her

Answer 9

She sounds like a spoiled,selfish little girl. Stay with her and live a life of miseray or, leave and be free!

Answer 10

Man, you better have a serious talk with this woman before you go any further with plans of marrying her.