Can any of you tell me why it seems some blacks are so rude to whites unless they happen to act and dress?

Question

black and they are also nice to other blacks? At work and where I live there are a lot of whites and blacks. I am friends with some blacks and they are cool but then there are a few bitches that won't talk to me and they are rude to the other white girls, like at work. But there's this one girl who lways talks with the accent like she grew up in the hood and wears clothes like Fubu and such, (we dress casual on Firdays) and always wears her hair in cornrows or some kind of weave and they are always really nice to her.

I don't get it. People should try to be nice to everyone. And I wouldn't favor or even respect someone who was trying to be a race they are not.

If you are this type of person or are friends with this type of person, please tell me. I welcome all comments. :)

Girlucky, don't take offense. I don't consider myself racist. If I was , the other blacks wouldn't be firends with me. However, I might focus on race too much.

Answer 1

What you are describing is discrimination. The sword of discrimination cuts both ways. Having said that, not every negative thing that happens to you inflicted by someone of a different race is based on descrimination. It can be personal, or a general attitude issue. People feel most comfortable with persons who are like themselves. It is not self-segregation in all cases it is just that when in an environment that is comfortable to you, you can relax and not feel the pressure of haing to "fit in" or be on guard not to accidently offend. Kill 'em with kindness.

Answer 2

C'mon people. It is called segregationist thinking. If you notice most groups are composed of likes - people who are the same in some way. Sometimes it is race, sometimes it is mind set, sometimes a common problem. There are all kinds of things we can see ourselves being and we need to find others who can relate to it. Some of us though can expand our thinking enough not to practice segregationism and we understand that it takes all kinds of people to make a world population. Acceptance of others for the way they are is very important but in a world where there is so much hate directed at groups that we may not be a part of makes it very difficult. For example, I'm fat and I know that there is a large faction who literally hate us and don't mind letting us know that they deem us lower than a worm, never mind any good reason for us being fat. I either want to hang with other fat people or with people who don't look at fat as an issue of such major importance. People naturally need to be a part of a group. Too bad it is often a group brought together for a negative purpose.

Answer 3

Where do you think people obtain attitudes? From their upbringing. If your family tolerates all people and cultures, then you enter the world accepting all, whereas, if you have a bigot attitude toward a particular race, you carrying it through adulthood.

Being black is certainly easier today than it used to be in Rosa Parks time when they had to sit in the backseat of a bus and drink out of a separate water fountain. Still, there are those that simply do not like blacks, nor do they tolerate them. And it goes both ways with white, blacks not tolerating them, feel uncomfortable with them.

Personally, I do not see color in people, and wish we all felt the same way. I try to treat people with kindness and respect. If we could all do this, I think it would be a better world, but, unfortunately, it is strictly idealistic, and sadly will never be obtained.

Answer 4

I do know that the blacks that you refer to, usually assume that because you are white, you look down on them and don't want to befriend them and/or wouldn't understand them. I can conclude from the way you describe the woman that you do not fully understand some things about blacks. And as a defense mechanism, MOST (not all) blacks try to stay away from whites, such as yourself, to avoid conflict at work. If you say something offensive, we can't pull the race card at work for fear of being labeled a trouble maker. So, it's best to stay away from people who dont understand or embrace (by emulating) our culture.
But I want to help you, instead of letting you go on believing whatever stereotypes or preconceived notions you have.
Stating that the woman you're referring to wears cornrows or weave, is implying that it's bad or an extremely ethnic thing that only mean blacks do. I am black and wear weave. I am not like these blacks you speak of who, only speak to whites that "act" black.
I have a policy at work. I say "hello" to EVERYONE three times. If the person has an attitude or looks/sounds as if they don't want to speak back to me or ignores me all together, then I don't speak to them at all. There are white, Hispanics, Asians, and middle eastern people that I speak with and are friendly with at work.
So, if you want to be friends with her, just do it. Kill her with kindness. No one can feel go about themselves if they are mean to nice people. If you don't want to be her friend and just want her to be cordial and speak. Continuously say hello and smile everyday. Compliment something she wears (if you like it). If she doesn't speak back, ask her "why?", yourself.
I am sorry that this woman is rude to you. but please do not lump a race into one pile based one persons actions. I agree with you and do not favor someone who acts a race that they are not. I DO respect them for being openminded to another race and culture.

Answer 5

This happens to my mom all the time (she is white and my dad is black) basically if people act mean towards her and nice to me and my dad we ignore them unless they change their attitude towards my mom. It seems to me that they are being racists and they think that by being nice to other black people they are helping each other out. They are creating a problem and they also do it to feel superior. I've never gotten why they do this and I cosider it to be very racist.

The things that you see on tv are steroetypes.
NOt all people act that way. I know some black people who can't seem to shut up about their personal business.

Answer 6

I see greater White men say this than every person, and its often to describe why they're (scared) "no longer into" Black women persons.... its their very own ideas and insecurities that cause them to that way although, ordinarily by fact we are darkish skinned, diverse than different women persons, and (for me) tall, skinny (yet curvy) and appealing, so as that scares a great number of fellows and makes them could have faith all Black women persons are merely extraordinarily recommend to justify their fears, whilst quite they do no longer even attempt to get to comprehend any. they only stay of their stereotypes i assume. i ought to care much less although.

Answer 7

Only thing I sense is that you call some of the bitches in your question....maybe that attitude comes across in your general demeanor and they don't like you. Just a hunch since I don't know you.

Answer 8

U sound pretty mean by saying this about African American, and ur talking about away a person dresses. Maybe they dont feel like talkin to you. Sometimes i dont feel like being bothered. U seem to me a little soft and dont take stuff so personal. If they dont want to talk to you then get over it. And find someone u can talk too. U like to say black this and black that. Black people are not the only ones who act like this. U need to stop focusing on one race, u sound like a hypocrite or a racist.

Answer 9

"Birds of a feather flock together" Sound familiar? White women want to talk to everyone and expect people to want to converse back. White people want to tell you their whole life story, what grandma ate for lunch ten years ago. Black women don't have time for that nonsense, and don't tell everything!!! I am white and with blacks for years, and its embarrassing to watch white people tell everything about their business! Don't believe me?? Watch any TV show, and see who tells!!!